Soldato
Does anyone else ever get into the position where they're feeling sorry for oneself, this inadvertently pulls you up and makes you feel better?
Feeling sorry for oneself makes you feel better?
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Soldato
Have been known to revel in self pity and it can be weirdly satisfying
Soldato
Not really no
But once you are at the bottom only 2 choices
Stay there or go upwards
Invariably most people go upwards
Though how long it takes to go upwards is the big thing and how far up and how long you stay there before going back down if you do go back down that is
But once you are at the bottom only 2 choices
Stay there or go upwards
Invariably most people go upwards
Though how long it takes to go upwards is the big thing and how far up and how long you stay there before going back down if you do go back down that is
Soldato
Sure, but only if its for a small while and it kick starts self compassion... If it stays as selfy pity for too long without turning into self compassion, then no.
Soldato
Yeah I find it useful if there’s something bugging me that I can’t discuss with other people.
Caporegime
It can be useful if you reflect on why you’re feeling that way.
Caporegime
The only time I ever pulled the 'woe is me' card was my early failed romantic relationships. Never helped.
To add to that if you reflect and find a positive outcome.
If you feel sorry for yourself while blaming the world for all your issues then not much is going to change.
Soldato
same here, strange that i like to be miserable sometimes, but at the same time wanting to be happy, weird
Associate
Not really. I spent a long time being ******* off with life and it didn't get me anywhere.
These days, if it's something that I can fix then I'll do what I can to fix it, and if not then I'll stop thinking about it.
These days, if it's something that I can fix then I'll do what I can to fix it, and if not then I'll stop thinking about it.
Associate
If something has happened and I find myself feeling sorry for myself I'll allow myself some time to visit self pity ville but I think it's important not to get stuck there.
Some things are easier to 'get over' than others and sometimes it's easier to see how you might move forward but ultimately you won't stop feeling sorry for yourself unless you take some concrete action, though sometimes that concrete action is accepting that it was worth a try but it wasn't to be and making your peace with that.
Some things are easier to 'get over' than others and sometimes it's easier to see how you might move forward but ultimately you won't stop feeling sorry for yourself unless you take some concrete action, though sometimes that concrete action is accepting that it was worth a try but it wasn't to be and making your peace with that.