Being "toooo" nice?

V4NT0M · 15 Apr 2007 at 08:05

Women like asshats... Its a simple fact of life.

Sherbs · 15 Apr 2007 at 10:49

Yup, my mums boyfriend is too nice.

It does my freaking head in.

knip · 15 Apr 2007 at 10:56

I just broke up with somebody who I would say was "too nice"
The thing that bugged me was that he would do anything and I mean anything to avoid me even slightly raising my voice. Shouting at someone sometimes is normal.

Every time I even slightly got cross he would do this big puppy dog act and say "please dont get cross with me" which then meant I ended up feeling like a bitch sometimes because I didnt want to then in turn upset him. Was counter productive though because I just ended up wanting to scream at him sometimes. I did when we had finally broken up (I ended it because there was just no chemistry) and again he was doing the "please dont shout at me" thing, to which I replied that it was perfectly normal to get upset sometimes and if I wanted to shout at him I damn well would.
Rant over. :cool:

trojan698 · 15 Apr 2007 at 11:42

Sometimes being nice can be sickening and even come across as fake I guess as no one is nice all the time.

TaKeN · 15 Apr 2007 at 11:49

A girl also told me that i'm " Too Friendly " once,

I just like being a nice person

Phate · 15 Apr 2007 at 11:53

trojan698 said:
Sometimes being nice can be sickening and even come across as fake I guess as no one is nice all the time.

Well I'm a decent good nice person pretty much all the time, to my friends anyway, but they've all seen me stressed before and have always done what they can to cheer me up

But the other night for example I was out with a different bunch of friends and this girl in question came out as she had had a bad day and she didn't want a person to be nice she wanted someone to be down to earth and just relate to what she was going through, which is exactly what I did and her exact words were - "I can't thank you enough for tonight"

semi-pro waster · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:04

Phate said:
she's been hurt by men before (hence shes why she's Bi)

I don't have anything hugely useful to add but this quote is rather interesting to me. Did she just wake up one day and go "you know what, men have treated me badly so I reckon women are a better bet"?

knip · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:09

Hey its entered my head more than once.

Will_3rd · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:11

made the "toooo" nice mistake a couple of times myself

the guy I used to live with at uni was the same, then he got depressed and got a whole lot worse, so annoying :mad:

trojan698 · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:12

Yeah I noticed that too, she clearly just needs to pick better men.

SunaseIPs · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:15

Phate said:
Hello all,

I met someone just after new years eve who has become one of my best friends and I love her to bits

Now I see her 3 - 4 times a week and I'm a decent person anyway but as you'd expect I never treat her badly.

Tonight she said about how some people can be "to" nice. And my instant reaction (which I said out loud) was "how can someone be "to" nice?"

I think I understand what she said but I wonder what other peoples thoughts are on the subject

I read it as you won't be tapping that **** sherlock.

Yes some people are sickly nice and sickly polite they give me a headache.

bakes0310 · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:20

im too nice i think, i dont have a bad word to say about anyone, im thinking of taking up kickboxing soon so i think that will sort me out.
I can imagine it now:

kickboxing first fight:
me: owwwww u just broked my noise
opponent: u all right
me: yeah we can still be friends, hows your fist i didnt get blood on it

Phate · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:40

semi-pro waster said:
I don't have anything hugely useful to add but this quote is rather interesting to me. Did she just wake up one day and go "you know what, men have treated me badly so I reckon women are a better bet"?

She's had 3 serious relationships before and everyone one of them has cheated on her and treated her like dirt, I'm guessing that's atleast part of the reason she's Bi, but meh....

Women's minds are complicated. Rather not try and figure it out personally

Phate · 15 Apr 2007 at 12:40

SunaseIPs said:
I read it as you won't be tapping that **** sherlock.

You sir are correct.

Have a gold star!

2Thumbs · 15 Apr 2007 at 14:19

Phate said:
She's had 3 serious relationships before and everyone one of them has cheated on her and treated her like dirt, I'm guessing that's atleast part of the reason she's Bi, but meh....

Women's minds are complicated. Rather not try and figure it out personally

Slightly narrow minded, IMO.

Best thing is just be a good friend for her, and you never know what might pan out.

Depth · 15 Apr 2007 at 14:53

Well, yeah you can be too nice.

There is a difference between being a nice person, and being a doormat / spineless. I think thats were the saying "nice guys come last" comes from.

Phate · 15 Apr 2007 at 15:00

2Thumbs said:
Slightly narrow minded, IMO.

I doubt that is the sole reason shes bi, most likely other stuff behind it as well.

brid · 15 Apr 2007 at 15:42

Theres nothing attractive about a person who appears to worship the ground you walk on - everybody is human in this world and putting someone on a pedestal is more of a sign of weakness in yourself, than it is about celebrating the other person.

... why else do women find arrogant, confident 'cool' men attractive. The same is true for men (although slightly different). If a person is being undeservedly 'nice' to you then you simply just lose respect for them.

Fraggr · 15 Apr 2007 at 18:29

brid said:
... why else do women find arrogant, confident 'cool' men attractive. The same is true for men (although slightly different). If a person is being undeservedly 'nice' to you then you simply just lose respect for them.

Difference is guys would still sleep with the woman.

lemonkettaz · 15 Apr 2007 at 18:37

People that are too nice get trampled on.

Nice guys finish last..

You need a bit of dirt to get anything in life