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InvaderGIR

InvaderGIR

InvaderGIR

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This is a year old, made an UPDATE


I had a call from my girlfriend on Thursday evening saying 'we need to talk', to start off with she wouldn't tell me over the phone, she wanted to save it for when she saw me this weekend, but I got it out of her what she wanted to talk about. She said she doesn't feel right and that we should go our separate ways, much to my shock and horror and upsetness.

Had a little chat with her yesterday and she said she was 50:50 when she called me on Thurs, but is swayed more towards thinking it's best if we call it a day.

On to today and she turns up, we chat about it, and now I'm single again. :(

She was absolutely great and I'm so gutted that I've lost her. I knew she was being distant for the last month or so, and it's all been explained now, so in a way I'm happy, as I don't want her to stay with me if she is just going to make her unhappy, but also I'm totally gutted and rather upset that I've lost someone that for me, was just great.

:(

Also to make matters worse, my dog is really ill and needs putting down, I've had her for 10 years and she is just the best dog I've ever known, lazy, but also full of life if she wants to be. So this week hasn't been that kind to me. :(

On a plus note I've been offered a placement job, but to be honest right now I couldn't care less about that, I'm losing/lost two of the best females so far in my life (my dog is a girl).

:(

InvG
 
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I know where your coming from with the dog thing. I had my dog for 15 years (all through my childhood), and unfortunately he's now at the stage where he struggles to walk properly. Think only humane thing to do soon will be put him down too to put it out of its misery :( :( :(
 
i had to put my cat down ...2 years ago! he was 21 (human years) so lived a good life at the end of it , it wasnt right keeping him alive and suffering.

As for the gf mate , very sorry it sucks! are you still going to be friends?
 
I hear you man, my girlfriend told recently she wants to go 'on a break', she's on her gap trip :rolleyes: Best solution, do what I am tonight, having a party and invite lots of girls ;) To get over someone, you need to get under someone else lol.
 
shauncr91 said:
I know where your coming from with the dog thing. I had my dog for 15 years (all through my childhood), and unfortunately he's now at the stage where he struggles to walk properly. Think only humane thing to do soon will be put him down too to put it out of its misery :( :( :(
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Same here mate. Ours (Zoe) sometimes takes dumps during her sleep and we have to support her back legs (keep her suspended using a towel!) while she eats or goes out in the garden. :( It probably sounds funny to read but when it's your companion for the last ~15 years it really isn't nice!
 
Jet (my dog) is blind in one eye, and seems to be losing control of her bodily functions, and is drinking loads of water, so there is obviously something serious up with her. She did have some lumps found a while back, but as far as I'd been told they were sorted.

I'm currently at uni and Jet is back home with parents, but I've told my mum to get it done whilst I'm here (only here for another month) as otherwise it'll just be worse for me.

InvG
 
$loth said:
I hear you man, my girlfriend told recently she wants to go 'on a break', she's on her gap trip :rolleyes: Best solution, do what I am tonight, having a party and invite lots of girls ;) To get over someone, you need to get under someone else lol.
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Heh heh.

I don't plan on doing that, I'm not the sort to do one night stands etc. and I don't want to move into another relationship for a bit now.

InvG
 
Unfortunately life is like this. I know that this is really hard to see when you're coming at it from your direction, but this will make you a better person in the long run. Our lives are built from experience and you are showing so much compassion right now, for both your girlfriend and your dog, that I know that you deserve better than this. To empathise with this young lady as you are right now, even though it hurts, shows what a kind person you are. You will get through this but I'm sorry that you will have to make such a major decision regarding your best friend.

Try a sympathetic vet and consider alternative remedies etc. before you take any major steps, though.

Good luck and try to get out with friends, get some fresh air over the weekend and keep yourself busy.
 
Sympathise mate, me and the gf have split after 5 years of friendship and 2 years of relationship. We've got a house together, which we can't sell or we get clobbered for early repayments so it's not like we can make a clean break for at least another 14 months. Still living in the house as well, so it's chock full of memories which isn't making things any easier.

It sucks, but if you're not going to be happy together it's better to knock things on the head now and salvage a friendship rather than it descending into hate.

Sorry to hear though, go get a beer in town see all the nice ladies out there and just tell yourself the right one is waiting to be found when you're ready. :)
 
One of the good things about her/us/this is that she lives 60miles away (which didn't help with keeping us together), so it's not like I have to put up with seeing her and feeling bad about it. But there is also the fact that I won't get to see her again (most likely), which also upsets me...but hey, such is life really I suppose.

yermum said:
Try a sympathetic vet and consider alternative remedies etc. before you take any major steps, though.
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The problems with my dog and my family's situation generally means that the best option is to put her to sleep and not to prolong the pain etc. she is likely to be in and spend out vast amounts of money just to keep her going a little bit longer. It's really sad to have her go, and to not have been able to say goodbye to her, but I know it's for the best and don't want to be around when it is done.

InvG
 
InvaderGIR you're younger than I thought; mainly 'cos everytime I see your avatar I think you're Ian Beale but take that as a plus point. You're 21, you've got a placement job coming up soon, you'll meed new people there and it'll be fun.

Best things to do now are to go meet mates, catch up with people, make yourself better; materially, you know you want something like a 70-200mm F4 L ;) and get busy. Like sucks sometimes but in 6 months time you'll be wondering why you were moping.
 
Yep, it's crap when you split up from someone. Hurts like hell now, but it'll get better. A month from now, you probably won't even care. Chin up dude. :)
 
:D Made me laugh., cheers. :)

Unfortunately I can't afford a new lens...and I want a 70-300, as my current 55-200 doesn't have enough reach. :p

Yeah, I'm 21, and only part the way through my life, but I really thought that she was someone I could stay with for a very long time (unlike previous girlfriends, never thought that about them).

Ok, I need to change my sig now, as I don't want to look like ian beale! :p

I know that it's like to split up with someone, I've been though it a couple of times, but I dunno, she just is better than previous girls...on the upside, at this rate the next one will be absolutely perfect. :p

InvG
 
Doesn't sound good. We all go through some really difficult periods. You live to learn and move on.

You've finished your dissertation and you've scored a placement. You've got a lot to look forward to. Chin up, life goes on to get better, a lot better :)
 
Sorry to hear about this m8. Whats meant to be was meant to be, maybe this will lead on to you meeting someone in a year that you end up marrying? Just gotta find things to take your mind off it all for now, no good sitting around and pondering 'what if' as it will just hurt more.

Go out, spend some cash on yourself, GTAIV if you have a console - that should take your thought away for a while :p Or get some music / clothes / camera equip.

You know, I reckon some of peoples best photography / art work is when their in an emotional part of their lives - get out and get creative to take ya mind off it.
 
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