There is very very little difference between 2ms and 5ms.
Actually in TNs there's huge measurable difference.
2ms TNs use RTC and their actual average response time is from little below 4ms to little above it while "5ms" TNs lacking RTC have actual response time of 13-15ms because without RTC other brightness changes than those between extreme states are slow. (smaller voltage affecting to liquid crystal makes it turn much slower even if required amount of turn is much smaller)
All better panels use RTC and their advertised value is quite precise (because they don't have to be advertised by lies in every spec) meaning they have less ghosting than most generic TNs.
So if anything it's 5ms TNs which should be kept as slow but as we don't have people complaining all the time about their ghosting we can conclude that nowadays response time makes very little difference. (and neither can be used for defending 2ms TN for gaming)
No he doesn't want a S-PVA/MVA panel if hes gaming and doing any thing other than very casual gaming... they have a tendance to have levels of input latency that aren't acceptable for gaming.
There are some with with very low input lag, like NEC 24WMGX3
http://www.tftcentral.co.uk/reviews/content/nec_24wmgx3.htm#gaming
Also IPS monitors (free of VA's horizontal gamma shift) can have very low lag.
http://www.tftcentral.co.uk/reviews/content/hazro_hz26wi.htm#gaming
Hazro just has fixed overbright backlight destroying black unless they've added circuitry required for that.
Harder to get LG W2600HP(-BF) has similar very low lag and actual brightness adjustment:
http://www.proadviser.de/en/monitore/review/2008/review-lg-w2600hp-part18.html
I have it and now consider IPS as only somekind successor for CRT after going from CRT through S-PVA to it.
And neither are all TNs automatically without lag but also they can have big lags depending what kind circuitry there's in signal path:
http://www.behardware.com/articles/689-2/22-inch-lcd-monitors-the-3rd-wave.html
So rather good change that some TN owners who are bashing better panels for their input lag have also input lag not much better.
For difference between panel types here's comparison showing viewing angle dependancy of brightness/colour/contrast stability. In case of TNs there's not enough stability to have uniform brightness/colour across screen from bottom to top even when looking monitor directly from center of it.
http://www.behardware.com/articles/686-8/review-of-the-dell-2407wfp-hc.html
(uniform colours can become colour slides shown in end of
this page)