Right I seem to have a problem with a friend of mine that I'd like some advice with.
First a little background:
My sister is 15 and pretty mental, she used to self harm, has on several occassions tried to stab me in the face (completely unprovoked), she starts arguments with my mum for no reason and constantly swears at her and says she is going to kill her in the night etc. In the last 6 months or so she has been getting better, probably because we moved out from my dad and our home life is a lot better.
My friend is almost 20 and he is a top bloke, everyone likes him and hes gay, so I know hes not doing it because he fancies her or anything. He has been round and heard the things she says to my mum and he always goes in and comforts her, which imo is not the right way to deal with the situation. Its like a reward for telling someone you wish they were dead.
Anyway, earlier at dinner my sister started shouting something that I'd rather my mum didn't hear for no particular reason. It seemed strange to me because I hadn't done anything and we don't usually fall out since I pretty much keep away from her. So shes shouting this stuff out and I just play it down and walk off, I go upstairs and get on the internet and start chatting to my mate. I mention what shes done and I know he feels a little guilty because I'm pretty sure it was him that told her in the first place because he thought she knew. I mentioned that sometimes it seems like she is just provoking people because she wants them to hurt her, and she seems to fight with her friends a lot as well. Now he knows that I am not a violent person at all, and I wouldn't hit my sister but despite this he then took it upon himself to physically threaten me if I did anything to her? Firstly its not really any of his business and secondly how dare he threaten me? I told him where to go at that point and haven't spoken to him since.
What do I do about this? It seems a bit off to threaten one of your best mates like he did, and I know that my mum would appreciate it if he stopped pandering to my sister when she throws a wobbly, which tbh he probably does it just because he likes that people like him.
First a little background:
My sister is 15 and pretty mental, she used to self harm, has on several occassions tried to stab me in the face (completely unprovoked), she starts arguments with my mum for no reason and constantly swears at her and says she is going to kill her in the night etc. In the last 6 months or so she has been getting better, probably because we moved out from my dad and our home life is a lot better.
My friend is almost 20 and he is a top bloke, everyone likes him and hes gay, so I know hes not doing it because he fancies her or anything. He has been round and heard the things she says to my mum and he always goes in and comforts her, which imo is not the right way to deal with the situation. Its like a reward for telling someone you wish they were dead.
Anyway, earlier at dinner my sister started shouting something that I'd rather my mum didn't hear for no particular reason. It seemed strange to me because I hadn't done anything and we don't usually fall out since I pretty much keep away from her. So shes shouting this stuff out and I just play it down and walk off, I go upstairs and get on the internet and start chatting to my mate. I mention what shes done and I know he feels a little guilty because I'm pretty sure it was him that told her in the first place because he thought she knew. I mentioned that sometimes it seems like she is just provoking people because she wants them to hurt her, and she seems to fight with her friends a lot as well. Now he knows that I am not a violent person at all, and I wouldn't hit my sister but despite this he then took it upon himself to physically threaten me if I did anything to her? Firstly its not really any of his business and secondly how dare he threaten me? I told him where to go at that point and haven't spoken to him since.
What do I do about this? It seems a bit off to threaten one of your best mates like he did, and I know that my mum would appreciate it if he stopped pandering to my sister when she throws a wobbly, which tbh he probably does it just because he likes that people like him.