Advice needed

[LukeSi]

Right I don’t know what to say and how to react.
Basically one of my friends has posted a status this morning to say they are now identifying as a woman. I’m going to completely honest, at first I thought it was a wind up, then I realised it probably isn’t.

I genuinely don’t know how to react. I want to be supportive etc but honestly can’t bring myself to. I’m a very open minded person. Like if someone came out and said they are gay for example then fair play that’s normal these days and as long as they don’t go bringing it up constantly I really couldn’t give a damn.

But the whole fluid sexuality or man identifying as a woman and vice versa for me is just wrong. Fair enough if you feel you are in the wrong body but tough. There isn’t really anything you can do about it. You can do whatever you want, have whatever surgery you want etc but you are still in the same body just chopped up a bit.

I apologise if this breaks any forum rules so feel free to delete the post if it does. He’s got a new facebook profile as his female self, and I’m going to be completely honest, it’s literally my mate in drag.

I know I sound really bad and I genuinely want to be supportive but I just can’t and I feel terrible because of it. I’m not religious at all but to me it just seems wrong.

Is there anyone else who has had similar and if so how did you react etc?
Like I said, I genuinely feel horrible saying to above but that’s how I feel.

I apologise to anyone who has undertaken gender realignment etc. At the end of the day it is your decision and this post wasn’t intended to cause offence.

 

[LukeSi]

Personally I have no problem with people identifying themselves as another gender at all. I do, however, have issues with this non binary rubbish that is being forced down our throat at the moment.

However on the topic in hand, if you find it hard to read, imagine how hard your mate found it to write?

In reference to you being supportive? Do you have to click the like button on their FB page or write some supportive statement under their profile picture? In my opinion.....NO.

Just abide by the bare minimum rules of society....if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

p.s : this isn't an attack by me on you if you are finding it hard to accept, so please dont take it that way.

Yeah thats pretty much what I'm doing. Yeah I have massive respect for him writing that and I can only imagine how hard it was to tell people.

 

[LukeSi]

Although you may not like it, if you're truly his/her friend then you'll support them and not make a big deal of it.

Sounds to me that you're not that open minded if you're saying

I think it makes you sound very old fashioned. If it offends you and you don't feel you can be their friend any more then that's just quite sad, but if you're going to carry on being their friend then you need to be supportive. As others have said, their struggle is going to be many times yours, so try and see it from their side.

I came across really badly there to be honest.
I've messaged them and said it's going to take me time to adjust but I'll do my best to be supportive.
At the end of the day he/she is still my friend and friends are always there to be supportive (and make fun of her when her Clio breaks as per usual)