OK, I've got an awkward one and I'd love some sensible input on this.
I'm married, have been for two and a half years now.
Me and the wife have our own house around 45 minutes drive away from my parents.
On average we would probably see my parents once or twice a month - we'd be invited over for a Sunday lunch or something like that.
It was a fair balance, although I love my parents I'd obviously "flown the nest" and had a more immediate family (my wife) around me.
Just over a year ago I lost my dad.
Totally unexpected, but it left my mum on her own.
She doesn't drive and she is in a village with very little in the way of shops.
She is however happy enough on the bus and can order groceries online for delivery.
Since my dad died we've been seeing my mum weekly, almost every week without fail we see her on the Saturday, we take her shopping etc.
Again this is my mum we are talking about - I love her to bits and I know how difficult it has been for her.
My dad meant everything to her and also did most things for her.
There is the possibility of her moving to a bungalow in a village another 10-15 minutes away.
One with more shops, in walking distance etc.
However she still talks as if we and the wife will be there every week to see her.
However it is getting difficult, we only get the weekends together (me and the wife) and we want to spend more time as just us, doing some things we want to do without having to worry about other things.
Somehow I need to approach the subject with my mum of moving, probably initially to a seeing her "every other week" rather than every week.
I just don't want my mum to think I'm deserting her, but she needs to understand I have my family now.
Has anyone got any suggestions on how to approach this subject?
I hate asking for advice here as really I should be able to sort this one out - but if anyone ahs any input that would be great.
I'm married, have been for two and a half years now.
Me and the wife have our own house around 45 minutes drive away from my parents.
On average we would probably see my parents once or twice a month - we'd be invited over for a Sunday lunch or something like that.
It was a fair balance, although I love my parents I'd obviously "flown the nest" and had a more immediate family (my wife) around me.
Just over a year ago I lost my dad.
Totally unexpected, but it left my mum on her own.
She doesn't drive and she is in a village with very little in the way of shops.
She is however happy enough on the bus and can order groceries online for delivery.
Since my dad died we've been seeing my mum weekly, almost every week without fail we see her on the Saturday, we take her shopping etc.
Again this is my mum we are talking about - I love her to bits and I know how difficult it has been for her.
My dad meant everything to her and also did most things for her.
There is the possibility of her moving to a bungalow in a village another 10-15 minutes away.
One with more shops, in walking distance etc.
However she still talks as if we and the wife will be there every week to see her.
However it is getting difficult, we only get the weekends together (me and the wife) and we want to spend more time as just us, doing some things we want to do without having to worry about other things.
Somehow I need to approach the subject with my mum of moving, probably initially to a seeing her "every other week" rather than every week.
I just don't want my mum to think I'm deserting her, but she needs to understand I have my family now.
Has anyone got any suggestions on how to approach this subject?
I hate asking for advice here as really I should be able to sort this one out - but if anyone ahs any input that would be great.
