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[nukemdukem]

Hi all,
I have been in a relationship for 9 months with a great girl from canada. But for the last couple of months we have been having some big arguments. She is not seeing anyone else, and neither am i, its just when we argue i cant calm her down - its as though i make her more angry by the things i say.

I know that she loves me a lot but she analyses everything because she is scared of making a big mistake in choosing the wrong person. So we split up a couple of days ago, but still talking and seeing each other as friends.

Now she is moving back to canada in 4 weeks and i dont know what to do - i could move to canada with my job if needed. How do i approach this situation, do i try and convince her to give it another go or let her go?

There is no chance she can stay in england as she has handed in her notice, so if we are to give it another go i need to move to canada.

I'm stuck on what to do next...

 

[nukemdukem]

one thing i should add is that 2 months into the relationship i sent another girl a text message asking her on a date, it was a stupid thing to do and i never went on a date or did anything, but unfortunately she saw the text msg a couple of weeks later and was devastated. I think this is always in the back of her mind too.

 

[nukemdukem]

i'm 29, the problem is sometimes she makes me so happy - shes a very kind hearted loving person and i've never known anyone that has loved me so much - alarm bells ring in my head about the arguments, but then also alarm bells ring not to let someone go who obviously loves me immensly...

 

[nukemdukem]

its difficult to choose to follow your head or your heart....