Am i a bad person?

[Malt_Vinegar]

Here is the long and short of it, and why im asking the question.

I recently bought a house equal share with my brother, its a brand new house, was a showhouse and is fully decorated.

Since we decided on the house i have been dealing with solicitors, put down loft flooring, sorted out the phone line, broadband, supervised all the snagging, money transfers, keys and generally looked after the purchase from start to completion.

My brother and his fiance started moving into the house today. All furniture purchases are going to be 50/50. I was not going to start moving in till this evening, as i had a pre-arranged photo-shoot and a hockey match.


Part - 1

My brothers fiance's sister has come down to "help" and we went out on the town last night. During which time she told me i had to stop hanging around my mates as they were too ugly, and meant i was de-valuing myself. She also asked me about my previous relationships and how we split. I mention that my last two GFs were Jewish which meant things were sometimes difficult.

now, wait - get this - Her response

"What.... are you some kind of holocaust lover?"

Now i really had no idea what to say to this ignorant, rude and racist remark. So asked if she meant and understood what she just said - She replied "yes"



Part 2

My brother/fiance(who has no financial input into upkeep or purchase of said house) and future sister in law bought a load of food, from which i was supposed to be excluded so i could buy my own. (I have very unusual eating habits) however they bought me some stuff without telling me

They also moved in all their stuff and put in the TV and sofas and arranged (already present) furniture into how they want it.


Conclusion-

This evening on moving in my own stuff i am getting blanked by the girls, and told i should be gratefull for all they have done and should say thankyou. I simply said to my brother. No i wont, and then my reasons for this. I have been thanked by no-one for my input, without which the sale would not have happened.

Does this make me a bad person??

 

[Malt_Vinegar]

Thanks for the advice peeps

I did discuss this with my Brother a lot before we took this decision. Unfortunatly,with prices as they are, it was the only way to get onto the ladder

I have made it clear to my brother that this is a 50/50 and as such i will not tolerate this sort of behaviour from someone who has no official involvment with the property. We do have a written agreement, however, i think im going to re-write it and have it re-signed.

We have agreed to stay in the property for 2 years, then sell. Should give us both a nice deposit to move upwards. (we bought off plan, saved about 40k on retail price)

I will be talking to my Brother asap about the way he is flaunting our agreement with pressure from his future wife. Im sure i can make this work, I really dont want to be living in a tense house!

 

[Malt_Vinegar]

The thing is, she is fine normally, just when her sister is around things seem to get edgy.

I built a bridge this morning, i was offered a cup of tea from fiance and then sorted out a photographer who i have worked with to do some photos for their band. I didnt really want to, but it seems to make sense if i want to live there

 

[Malt_Vinegar]

Just an update peeps. I have no net at the moment, waiting for my tiscali modem to arrive

I have been very ill today, got sent home from work, got some kind of bug.

My bro's fiance made me drinks, sandwiches and kept checking on me I think I was a tad hasty, she is a nice girl, and now her sister is gone I'm a lot happier.

Thanks for all the advice guys

 

[Malt_Vinegar]

House prices being what they are, it's often either that or rent. Renting property is just money down the drain.

Exactly, try getting a mortage to cover a three bedroom house on your own when your earning under 20k a year....

Renting is a waste of money, and i managed to live with my brother for 17 years, so i figure we can manage it