Am i being rude?

rossyl · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:05

Right the situation.

I am seeing a girl in manchester who is at uni there along with my mate. As she is in manchester i only see her about once a month. it is not a relationship, we'v just been on a few dates.

I am going there on Friday. She wants to meet on Saturday, and has said Friday could be difficult. I've been invited to a party on saturday which i want to go to. i don't want to take her to the party.

So would it be rude to push for a freiday meet up?

I was thinking of saying my friend had already arranged a night out for me on saturday so i was hoping we could meet on friday, but if she really cannot then i'll try and get out of going to the party.

I am thinking she'll wonder why i don't just take her.

Crap question i know...but opinion/suggestions?

SB118 · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:08

rossyl said:
I am thinking she'll wonder why i don't just take her.

Looking to pick up a fresh piece of tail sir?

She won't wonder. She'll KNOW.

SideWinder · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:08

Out of curiousity, why don't you want her to go to this party? In case you hook up with someone and you don't want her to see it?

Fraggr · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:08

I'm confused... Why don't you just take her to the party?

pinkegobox · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:08

well i guess we'd wonder why you don't want to take her... and if she said she can't do fri, and you can't do sat... then it'd have to be the weekend after. easily solved.

it's not a big deal.

edit: unless you're trying to cop off with someone else, which is what it looks/sounds like.

scorza · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:09

Sounds like you don't really want to see this girl at all if you're going to a party and don't want to take her. Why not just put the poor girl out of her misery and call it off? Give her a chance to find a decent bloke

Cupra · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:11

scorza said:
Sounds like you don't really want to see this girl at all if you're going to a party and don't want to take her. Why not just put the poor girl out of her misery and call it off? Give her a chance to find a decent bloke

so its not a question of rude then just he wants his end away twice and she wont let him on friday? hahahaha

[ASSE]Hinchy · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:12

scorza said:
Sounds like you don't really want to see this girl at all if you're going to a party and don't want to take her. Why not just put the poor girl out of her misery and call it off? Give her a chance to find a decent bloke

sniffy · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:15

What scorza said basically.

Maniac618 · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:16

sniffy said:
What scorza said basically.

Yeah.

Nitefly · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:17

scorza said:
Sounds like you don't really want to see this girl at all if you're going to a party and don't want to take her. Why not just put the poor girl out of her misery and call it off? Give her a chance to find a decent bloke

Easy on guys.

I wouldn't want to take my GF to some of my friend's parties because I would want to spent more time with my friends than I would 'babysitting' her.

Geez, kneejerk!

SB118 · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:20

Nitefly said:
Easy on guys.

I wouldn't want to take my GF to some of my friend's parties because I would want to spent more time with my friends than I would 'babysitting' her.

Geez, kneejerk!

... it is not a relationship, we'v just been on a few dates...

He's nailing a bird but fancies his luck at a party, what's kneejerk about that? :confused:

Nitefly · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:21

SB118 said:
He's nailing a bird but fancies his luck at a party, what's kneejerk about that?

The assumtion in bold. The OP hasn't made that clear.

Tru · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:24

Tell her it's Friday or nothing.

Scorza et al: it sounds to me like there is nothing to call off, it's obviously a casual and, I would hope, non-exclusive, relationship.

rossyl · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:24

Woah there!

At this party I seriously doubt i will be getting it on with anyone...unless I suddenly turn gay!

It's basically just blokes. I don't want to take her as it will be uncomfortable, she will know only me, and i will have to babysit her.

Also i'd get plenty of stick all night from my mates attempting to be "funny". When i do meet her, i'd rather we got the chance to talk. At a party that won't happen. And yes it is completely casual and not exclusive, and both parties are fully aware of that.

So the solution in this case would be...don't go to the party.

But then i am just using my friend. I go to Manchester, stay at his house, don't go out with him, and then go home. That's rude to him.

SB118 · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:26

Well if somebody did it to me, it would be pretty obvious why. That or the OP thinks she's hideously ugly and deformed and doesn't want to be seen with her.

[ASSE]Hinchy · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:28

Thats fair enough then.

The way you described it you were worried about appearing rude to her.

Just tell her Friday or nothing.

SB118 · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:28

ahh, now the OP gives us the rest of the story.

He's secretly bisexual and is worried the bird will run a mile when she sees what he's like at the party. Obvious really.

gumbald · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:30

TTIUWP, let's see the money to see what it's worth

Nitefly · 17 Apr 2007 at 19:32

SB118 said:
ahh, now the OP gives us the rest of the story.

The rest of the story really wasn't needed, can't believe everyone automatically assumed he was being devious!