Am I in the right or wrong here?

[Pulsedriver]

Hi folks, so I live at home with parents and older brother.

Usually my older bro takes my dad to the train station of a morning (715am) and on his day off, my mum takes him.

Now, there is times where I am consistently reminded of this, and basically made out to do nothing, wouldnt do anything for anyone and selfish etc

All for that, not taking my dad the train station at 715am.

I admit I have rarely done it, my reasoning is basically that I do not need to be at work until 10am, so do not need to be up til 9am, I hate getting up early as well.

Everyone else is up anyway, mum would be awake at 630, and bro needs to be at work for 830 anyway, so I always say there is no point me getting involved.

However; to oppose the 'I do nothing' comments I always;

Empty the dishwasher of a night (sometimes at 11 or 12pm) after the whole days dishes are in there. Sometimes I've come in from a night out and done that after! While everyone is asleep.

Always clean up after dinner, help with the drying of pans etc!

Always pick my dad up from the station in the EVENING. Which I think is a fair trade!

Just fed up with being told I do nothing to help etc just because of one single thing, I hate getting up early, so it's a nightmare to ask me to do that of a morning etc!

Wrong or right?

 

[@if ®afiq]

Stoopid question - but have you tried talking to your family?

 

[Pulsedriver]

Yea, just gets ignored in that respect.

Very strange sometimes, yet 99.9% of the other time its perfect at home.

Ultimately I think they are frustrated with me and where I am in life at 26. (Work in retail bank, salary 15.5k)

 

[titchard]

How about - you tell your parents this, or either do a on / off system with your brother. One week you do morning runs he does evenings, and vice versa.

Not that big a deal plus then you have time in the morning to do other things and get them out the way.

Rich

 

[Lowra]

Always pick my dad up from the station in the EVENING. Which I think is a fair trade!

If that is true then I'd say they shouldn't be comlpaining. But maybe it's just familly banter, some one always gets the banter taken out on them in a familly, in mine it's me

But maybe they just wish you'd get up earlier, maybe there's more you could be helping out with in the mornings instead of staying in bed later than everyone else.

 

[@if ®afiq]

How about - you tell your parents this, or either do a on / off system with your brother. One week you do morning runs he does evenings, and vice versa.

Not that big a deal plus then you have time in the morning to do other things and get them out the way.

Rich

Yep - family is about compromise and sacrifice.

Also you say your family may be frustrated with where you are headed workwise - are you happy with where you are headed?

 

[JohnnyG]

Just get up & take him at least twice a week, problem solved.
It's not really worth haggling about in the big scheme of things :/

 

[A2Z]

why cant he go by himself ?

 

[ste_bla]

Without hearing the other side/version of the story we cannot judge. But based on your version it does seem you have a point. Thought of talking to your family about it?

 

[Townlea]

I would suggest your bro does nothing then.... lol

You pick your dad up in the evenings... and your bro takes him in the mornings - simple and fair. Your not lazy by the sounds of it.

 

[SiriusB]

I would just ignore it personally. If you pick him up every evening I really don't see where the issue is. Your brother is up that time he takes him. You are obviously home in time to bring your dad with you. Are you sure there isn't some other issue?

I am often at the butt end of jokes about getting up late etc because up until recently I was a no good student bum. Although I am working now I still don't need to get up early every day so the jokes continue, regardless of the fact that I am not usually home until around 7pm [9pm in my other job]. The rest of the family have usually been home 2 or more hours, had tea and are relaxed etc.

 

[Mickey]

Don't worry about it tbh, sometimes people just get something in their head and it sticks. You don't sound lazy to me, let them think what they want, they'll come around eventually, in my experience nothing you say or do now will change what they think.

In my family people seem to think i'm the tight/selfish one for some reason, if i've ever said anything about it nobody seems to have an answer why, but it still continues.

Never mind though, I know that I spend twice as much on presents as anyone else, I always taxi people around for family events which means I go without drinking, if I ever go anywhere with mum/stepdad i'll pay for something to eat & drink (and they still act shocked every time). One day they'll realise, maybe.