Anorexia and bulimia

Xordium · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:02

Some of the main reasons people start down this path is not through anything remotely related to food. Eating is one of the things you can control in your own life from an early age. For some children then do not like anything being inside them because of the horrors they have experienced before, for some that control is one thing they can achieve when everything else around them is dependent on someone else's whim, for some after a while the routine becomes comforting, and for others they don't see themselves as we would see them.

To joke about such things flippantly is in poor taste which is why I would encourage such people to have a think about how things really are and how people may actually have feel having going through such an ordeal and day to day tests. And then maybe develop some empathy. And think before you post.

Delvis · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:28

Nice to see the usual people trying to derail.

I grew up around Anorexia, and partially had it myself if that is even possible. It's horrible, especially when the person you love believes they look horrible, all they see is fat, all they want is a way out, and when you've had to visit hospital several times in your child hood purely down to someone OD'ing due to them not liking themselves, it's not nice. It mentally screws with them and you.

I got to a point in my life when I was younger where I just did not like the look of myself, I was single and always had been, people took the micky out of me, I had enough. Eventually I got in to a state of not eating much at all, I lost a hell of a lot of weight (the incorrect way) and retained fat in areas where you see it most, just making the whole body image thing twice as bad for yourself.
I realised about 4 years or so ago, I was being daft, so I just started eating properly, proper meals, not calorie counting all the time but making sure it wasn't all just naff foods at the same time. I eventually put on some weight, and looked a lot healthier for it.

Come to today, I now go to the gym, understand what a healthy diet is due to members of this forum and people I class as good friends, and I look a lot better for it. I could go on about my child hood experiences around it, but I'd end up writing even more of an essay that makes no sense

Hxc · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:32

Burnsy2023 said:
So I suppose a fear of losing control and gaining weight without being able to stop is a big fear?

An ex suffered with a lot of mental issues (stemming from a rather traumatic childhood) and if things really flared up for her she'd go back into 'anorexia mode' where she wouldn't eat, or only eat very small things, purely to ensure she was in control.

A stressful relationship, I can assure you. Worth it though.

Burnsy2023 · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:34

Delvis said:
I could go on about my child hood experiences around it, but I'd end up writing even more of an essay that makes no sense

If you want to write it, I'll read it

Burnsy2023 · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:35

Hxc said:
A stressful relationship, I can assure you. Worth it though.

That's interesting to hear

Delvis · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:47

Burnsy2023 said:
If you want to write it, I'll read it

Well it's more about a family member, and the amount of late evenings and lack of sleep there was. It was Anorexia with Alcohol problems thrown in to the mix.

Then from that on to me which led to depression almost and some self harm (nothing major)

edscdk · 19 Jul 2012 at 14:59

I never thought about it at the time but for a few years I was technicaly suffering from bulimia. I say "suffer" because it fits the sentence, then and now I still see it as a way of getting rid of all the **** I jsut scoffed because I was too week to contain the urge to eat.... (

went from 27st to 15 stone in about a year eating nothing but 1 sandwich a day (ever time I was hungery I looked in a mirror and said to myself "no one likes a fat £$%%").

then i started eating only items I considered necessary to complete phase 2... I went to the gym most days and put on about 5 stone in muscle... (it was during this time I was a puker).

been up and down in weight since, but I use the atkins diet which makes me lose weight, which it does so fast it does not seem necessary to do anything else (ie puke)

Hxc · 19 Jul 2012 at 22:10

Burnsy2023 said:
That's interesting to hear

I'm not the most perfect person mentally either (diagnosed depression, etc) so we made one hell of a pair. When things were good with us, they were unbelievably good, better than anything else I've ever experienced (bare in mind, I am only 20, so I have a lot left to go!), but when they were bad it was godamn awful, worse than anything. It'd flip, very often and very quickly between the two.

Hard work but the good times were so, so worth it. We're still very close now and if it weren't for distance I expect we'd be back together after a messy breakup about a year ago

craptakular · 19 Jul 2012 at 22:33

Moses said:
One thing which seems silly about this topic is how anorexia and bulimia are accepted as being genuine eating disorders, whilst many people don't accept there can be a legitimate reason behind someone being obese.

Anyway, if you don't want to be horrible depressed, ignore 'thinspiration' sites.

Ahleckz said:
There's obviously people who have a problem with over eating and is undoubtedly a medical problem. However, even more I suspect just have terrible diets and do no exercise or say nonsense like it's their genes. But this is quite off topic, let's keep it on topic for Mr. Burnsy.

I agree with Moses, you are a case in point love.