Another Problem ( relationship wise )

MeatLoaf · 8 Feb 2006 at 23:09

Well first off id like to say a great thank you to all the great advice and help you guys gave me a week or two back when my wife left me.

But now ive got a new problem to ponder on...

Basically i met a lady last year through taking my daughter to school, she takes her daughter to the same nursery class.

Well after kerry left she this lady expressed an interest to me.

Im really chufferd, apparently shes been interested for a while but she has never said anything because i was already involved.

This girl is amazing and shes had a really bad time in relationships, much like i have.

Shes got 3 nice kids and she seems really into me nut somethings holding her back, and its a BIG something.

She still lives with the father of her kids and hes a real nasty piece of work and he mistrats her. There not married and im fairly sure theres no relationship happening there.

Ive basically told her that i do really like her and im offering her a way out of the misery shes in at the moment.

But she seems like shes holding back, i can understand she is scared but i dont want to wait around for ever if she is never going to be able to commkit to me. Shes txts me all the time, but she dosent really visit me in case one of her kids dads mates see us together, shes really scared of him.

What advice do you have?

MeatLoaf · 8 Feb 2006 at 23:18

Yeah i think so

I think my marriage actually ended a long time ago, i really havent cried once about kerry leaving since she came for her stuff and i dont think ive loved her properly for a while.

The only time i feel a bit weepy is whn i thibk of the kids.

MeatLoaf · 8 Feb 2006 at 23:27

BrenOS said:
If you are offering her a way out or worse still for her to move in with you then the only thing you'll succeed in doing is scaring her away. It's far too soon.

Yeah you are very proboably right about that. She want to get to know me better but im afraid thjat she may lose interest.

Shes admitted she likes me and its not very often that happens so i want to grab onto her with both hands and not let go. Does that sound daft?

MeatLoaf · 8 Feb 2006 at 23:37

Never thought about it like that.

I must admit tho ive got a tingling feeling in my belly when i think of her. nd when my mind wanders its always her it wanders to.

MeatLoaf · 9 Feb 2006 at 09:56

Ukadder said:
I'll echo the comments already made as well, It's just far far far to soon. You need to sort your head out from your wife leaving before even contemplating another relationship. You need to know where you stand money wise, debt wise etc

If you do like her as well, and it's not a case of you being on the rebound and just wanting someone to be with then talk to her, get to know her better but don't let it manifest itself into anything to serious to quickly. You most defiantly need some time to think things over, everyone will get over bad relationships in different ways and at different speeds but no one can seriously be in the situation for another relationship of any kind so quickly after a major upset.

How did the karaoke go btw?

Yes im going to play it cool now for a bit, if she wants anything to happen then its up to her now.

The karaoke final was a bit of a stinky fix if you ak me. I didnt win, but then again i didnt expect to with at least 3 pro singers in the competition, i didnt think it was really very fair.