First of all I guess I'm to expect a good ripping from most of the OCuk Community but I'm sure there may be some sound advice in there somwhere and secondly I'm really writting this out to get it off my chest...
Okay me and my Girlfriend have been together for comming up on 5 years this April, we have two children together, a 2 year old boy and a 4 month old daughter who I absolutley adore and dote on. I met my girlfriend at work and naturally thought she was incredible, I'd never met anyone quite like her before and after seeing each other for a while I found I had become completley head over heels.
It's never been an easy going relationship, we are both very stubborn and she had some intamacy issues to resolve in the early stages which caused a great deal of friction and it almost ended there but at that point I knew I would have regretted it...
I had some major family issues a few years ago which I believed at the time had sent me into a deep depression which eventually led to my losing my job... was signed off sick for several months with no signs of recovering... And despite not knowing how to help me, she stuck with me, it was often painful but she really pulled me out of it, though through losing my job and things I had done in regards to money it had created a great deal of annomosity.
Recentley I was diagnosed with Obstructive Sleep Apnea and was advised this was most likely the cause of my problems over the last few years...
Despite many times trying to makes things better, me bending over backwards to the point where I barley recognise myself in the morning things have remained strained...
We hardly laugh anymore, fight most of the time and feel more and more like a brother and sister type relationship everyday.... She explodes over the slightest things and almost constantly comments on my faults and critisising most of what I do...
This has gone on for the last 2 years, we will fight and promise to change, yet it seems as I'm the one doing all the changing, this usually comes after being told she want's me to move out, which I have agreed to do purely for the sake of the kids but when she realises I'm serious she will tell me how much she loves me and that she cant see a future for her without me in it.
I can honestly say I'm tired of it all, I do honestly love her and would love to get married to her but despite everything I try to do I feel as though I'm a thorn in her side, I've thought about ending it but don't want my kids to come from a broken home though on the other hand I don't want them to grow up in a warzone, I don't know which way to turn!
If I'm 100% Honest if it wasn't for the kids I probably would end it despite loving her so much, I really don't know what to do anymore I'm just sick of being made to feel miserable all of the time and being made to feel guilty for making her this way...
Please guys, what would you all do?
Okay me and my Girlfriend have been together for comming up on 5 years this April, we have two children together, a 2 year old boy and a 4 month old daughter who I absolutley adore and dote on. I met my girlfriend at work and naturally thought she was incredible, I'd never met anyone quite like her before and after seeing each other for a while I found I had become completley head over heels.
It's never been an easy going relationship, we are both very stubborn and she had some intamacy issues to resolve in the early stages which caused a great deal of friction and it almost ended there but at that point I knew I would have regretted it...
I had some major family issues a few years ago which I believed at the time had sent me into a deep depression which eventually led to my losing my job... was signed off sick for several months with no signs of recovering... And despite not knowing how to help me, she stuck with me, it was often painful but she really pulled me out of it, though through losing my job and things I had done in regards to money it had created a great deal of annomosity.
Recentley I was diagnosed with Obstructive Sleep Apnea and was advised this was most likely the cause of my problems over the last few years...
Despite many times trying to makes things better, me bending over backwards to the point where I barley recognise myself in the morning things have remained strained...
We hardly laugh anymore, fight most of the time and feel more and more like a brother and sister type relationship everyday.... She explodes over the slightest things and almost constantly comments on my faults and critisising most of what I do...
This has gone on for the last 2 years, we will fight and promise to change, yet it seems as I'm the one doing all the changing, this usually comes after being told she want's me to move out, which I have agreed to do purely for the sake of the kids but when she realises I'm serious she will tell me how much she loves me and that she cant see a future for her without me in it.
I can honestly say I'm tired of it all, I do honestly love her and would love to get married to her but despite everything I try to do I feel as though I'm a thorn in her side, I've thought about ending it but don't want my kids to come from a broken home though on the other hand I don't want them to grow up in a warzone, I don't know which way to turn!
If I'm 100% Honest if it wasn't for the kids I probably would end it despite loving her so much, I really don't know what to do anymore I'm just sick of being made to feel miserable all of the time and being made to feel guilty for making her this way...
Please guys, what would you all do?
