Another relationship post

Mp4 · 10 Sep 2011 at 09:44

Yes another relationship thread, (grammar and punctuation will be pants – rush typing)

My fiancée (H) and I have been together for almost 6 years in Jan 2012.

Around 2yr ago I suffered with depression which almost lead to me breaking up with her as I felt I needed to explore other women and have a life etc. H was a friends ex gf, and we just fell for each other and that was almost 6yrs ago.

I moved from my parents house (i say parents but my father works in Wales so is never there) to her parents house around 4 months ago as I practically lived at her parents anyway for over a year (a year n half ago) to recover from knee operation.

In september 2010 I started going to college to learn about Photography, which has become my new passion and slowly progressing it to become my job. I would like to venture out and meet new girl/guys (not gay) and shoot models mainly lingre, fashion etc . But H gets very jelious and hates me looking at other women as it is which is understandable and ofc models want to get paid in some cases to. So i've backed off from looking in to this.

Her parents have been great and welcoming , her father is a quiet bloke but will talk and offer support etc. Her mother has gone through TB to her lungs around 3yrs ago and have to have one removed so is poorly still to this day BUT, she is extremely irritating and nosey. & they(she) questions my spending. (I bought a pare of HS1 headphones this week as I have been using ipod earphones which kill after a few hours gaming) And they said to H that they don't like my spending and they feel I wouldn’t be able to support her after the marriage etc, yet they fail to tell me face to face. I personally feel its nothing to do with them what I spend my money on. Im doing it now while I can etc.

We are in the process of planning a wedding (paid few deposits etc) I don't know if its pre jitters but ive had feeling the last few weeks of when I was depressed and my brains confused to hell.

H is very clingy and controlling sometimes
She has no interests or hobbies
Doesn't have many friends
We have odd hours so hardly see each other (24hrs in the week)

She is domesticated , loving, caring , faithful , A good cook.

>> Will update on the go

Mp4 · 10 Sep 2011 at 11:37

Don't get me wrong she has been great to me since the moment I met her. She is domesticated , loving, caring , faithful , A good cook.

Her & her parents hate me spending time on the computer/xbox. But i've always enjoyed playing games, forums etc. and its my get away as i don't drink, gamble , smoke etc.

My father came down un-expected from wales this week (which was meant to be our week off together to do things as a couple) But that fail, We booked to see Lee evans on the 5th so went and saw that which was nice n that. Tuesday it rain most of the day so made cake/ cupcakes n watched dvd's. Wednesday my dad rang out of the blue and said im home. Instantly she said "oh that's it our week is going to be with him now and we are not going to do anything" Which in a way is true.

We have spent the last 3 days with my father as i hardly see him (every 5-6 months for a week a time)

Today we are going to meet her ante as she makes wedding cakes for a living so all fantastic.. again its with her parents.

I have wedding insurance.

& i know i should talk to her and either say.

Wedding is off n that i want to move back out to my fathers house.

or break up all together, but then ill feel totally gutted and think id get more confused. i'm 30 now :/ feel too old

Mp4 · 10 Sep 2011 at 12:38

ill talk to her later on away from parents.

love her to bits too i dont think it will go well.

Mp4 · 10 Sep 2011 at 21:03

lol Thanks for the info guy's/girls.

We have had our talk and ive told her that i need my space once a week or more, n that I want to take photos of models etc (she is fine as long as its not nude etc) and that i want her to find a hobby or go to night college to give her more confidence to make new friends and have an interest in something
as most of the time we have nothing to talk about.

I said her mother drives me nuts and that I hate her talking about my spending habits n why they cant tell me face to face.

She wants us to do more together , we did used to go out for a meal almost every weekend but even that's £35+ but may still and try that just somewhere cheaper.

Also want us to start looking at houses/flats now so we can move out after the honeymoon (or if be don't have a honeymoon and just move in after wedding)

Just have to see how it goes I guess but atm everything is still a go.