Anyone having problems with kids starting high school?

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 12:00

Have 3 kids me and their mum separated i have them staying over a couple of days every week.

The 2nd oldest she has started high school and is in a pickle, she has a lot of anxiety and cries everyday before school and during school at times too. Says she feels scared and worried

I know high school is hard but it's breaking my heart seeing her this way.

Not sure what to do ?

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 12:04

I talked to her last night it's like a crowd issue lots of people around her

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 12:09

Ayahuasca said:
If it’s social anxiety then try and get her support with it now as it will just make her life hell if it’s not addressed at a young age.

Seems like that yes I will speak with her mum and see if we can get her some help.

Bloody heart breaking it is.

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 12:30

Her mum not having any of it saying it will just go away, I for one know it won't she's such a lovely little soul but you can see how much it's affecting her. Do I make an appointment myself and take her.

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 13:02

OK her mum said make the appointment but it worthless??? I will be making the appointment today and will be here for her at this hard time.

That anxiety is very real and destroying I had it too.

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 13:19

Lysander said:
Often these things are passed down. It's no-one's fault. You've done the right thing. Well done.

Thank you for your kind words.
Have made an appointment, she is back with me staying over tomorrow so will explain the best I can too her that it's all OK and let's try some help from someone that knows about this type of stuff.

watercooledman · 9 Sep 2021 at 13:31

Lysander said:
You're a good person, @watercooledman - so many families will go into denial when it comes to mental health and just ignore it because they don't want to look at themselves.

But really it's not anyone's fault, a situation like this. And I wish, when I was younger, someone had listened to me rather than just said "get over it". She will appreciate the help and being taken seriously.

Thank you
Will update with any updates going further, hopefully positive .