Approaching the "weight" issue

Some might think it's harsh but to me it doesn't take that much to look after oneself and not sit gorging stupid amounts of food that you don't need. So whilst it didn't go down too well I've told my girlfriend I don't find the 'big' look sexy or attractive and whilst I might still love your personality and who you are, physically if you get big you won't turn me on. Whilst I like curves on a woman there is a limit to the amount of wobbly bits I like.

I try to very much live a healthy lifestyle, that's my preference, and I do get the odd moan about the food we buy. I've always said though put whatever you like in the trolley when we shop. If there is something I don't particularly want to eat I won't eat it and we'll just cook two separate meals. Then I get it in the neck that she'd feel bad eating it as she knows it isn't as healthy as what I'm eating.....Can't win.

This is not to say I don't have treats, I just balance things. As someone mentioned chocolate I always have a bar of 85% dark chocolate in the fridge and on exercise days I'll have two squares. That's all I need to enjoy the taste. When I eat out I'll also drop the health thing as it isn't often and whatever I put on weight / fat wise I'll soon burn off in the gym / cycling.

For the OP I feel for you as I've seen what being overweight can cause so understand your concerns. My mum got type 2 diabetes due to her lifestyle and eating habits. This progressively got worse, she has progressively gotten bigger. Now she has another condition called myasthenia gravis and ideally they'd like to give her steroids to improve her quality of life. Can't do that though as she is too big. So now she's on a diet, bla bla bla, but due to being diabetic and taking insulin its hard to lose weight. So this drives me to live as healthy a lifestyle as possible too.

Good luck however you choose to approach things.
 
The_One said:
Need some advice on approaching a situation.

Been with my gf 6 months now and were really close, she isnt a size 10 supermodel she's a 16 - 18

Been on holiday with her last week and became concerned with what she was eating - basically chips with everything and loads of mayo

Ive told her before about the mayo and how unhealthy it is but she just says she likes it etc.

She works in a care home doing shifts and a lot of the time finishes work at 8pm so when she gets home she just pigs out of has "fast food"

I love her to bits but really dont know how to approach her and basically say id like her to eat more healthy and lose a bit of weight. :(
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Tell her straight and be honest. Don't do what my Wife did with me and try to ignore it, by the time she said something it was out of control and took a huge effort to sort it out..if she had started moaning about it at the outset then I would have been able to get it sorted that much quicker and a darn sight easier...

If I think my wife is putting on a few pounds too much I simply let her know and she deals with it, with her though even a little weight gain shows in her face first (unlike me who can carry extra baggage without it showing so much) so she sticks around the 7-7.5 stone mark (she is only short).
 
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elmarko said:
Whatever you do, don't print out 50 of these & put them around the house.

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Haha this I'm keeping in reserve for next time.
 
Suarez7 said:
It does really though, it's an addiction just like drug abuse or alcohol abuse. Filling your body with stuff you know can or will cause permanent damage.
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If you base your entire reasoning on whether someone deserves your respect or not on what they eat then all I can say is you need to re-evaluate your priorities.
 
Suarez7 said:
It does really though, it's an addiction just like drug abuse or alcohol abuse. Filling your body with stuff you know can or will cause permanent damage.
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Castiel said:
If you base your entire reasoning on whether someone deserves your respect or not on what they eat then all I can say is you need to re-evaluate your priorities.
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Suarez7 said:
That isn't what I said, this is about people respecting themselves...
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Indeed, Castiel. Suarez, perhaps people have other concerns by which they judge their own self respect, and you have yours.
 
Suarez7 said:
That isn't what I said, this is about people respecting themselves...
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Look at what dirtychinchilla was replying to....and besides self-respect manifests in each of us differently and you cannot judge how someone defines themselves by what they eat..they may be perfectly happy with who they are and judge their life in a different way from you.

If simply eating certain foods meant that a person had no self-respect then that would include everyone who did something that potentially was not good for them, which would include all of us in one form or another I suspect.
 
Maybe not just eating certain foods but when people let themselves get obese and bigger I think we can all agree that they lack much self respect. Yes it does differ in us all how we judge ourselves but I think weight is something everyone should think about controlling.
 
Suarez7 said:
Maybe not just eating certain foods but when people let themselves get obese and bigger I think we can all agree that they lack much self respect. Yes it does differ in us all how we judge ourselves but I think weight is something everyone should think about controlling.
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It is not always that simple, and is not always about self-respect.
 
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