Approaching the "weight" issue

6 months and she's already that fat.. id definitely dump as its going to get worse. Most girls usually lose weight before a holiday, nevermind one with a new boyfriend.
 
Give her a birthday card with a separated at birth theme...

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Buy her a running machine. She'll either take the hint and lose the weight, and if she doesn't and flips you the finger, you can leave her & jog on !

win win !
 
Bail on her now, my ex was a reasonable size 8/10 when I met her (at 5 foot 3) and was nice, fun and had a decent sex drive. Over a year or so she ballooned out to a 14/16 and insisted I help her try and loose weight. She basically managed to blame me across the relationship for not putting enough effort into her loosing weight (which was all down to her refusing to do exercise, drinking and not eating properly, like 90% of fat people).

That ended eventually, I look back at my self and want to punch my self for just being so complacent and undemanding of her/should have given up ages ago.

Current gf is vegan so its going to be a real life style change for her to get fat :D (yeah if you can't be bothered with sensible solutions go vegan, I haven't seen many fat vegan women apart from the alcoholic ones)
 
pingwing said:
Current gf is vegan so its going to be a real life style change for her to get fat :D (yeah if you can't be bothered with sensible solutions go vegan, I haven't seen many fat vegan women apart from the alcoholic ones)
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I always thought it was impossible for vegans to get fat. Seriously, how would they manage it?
 
The_One said:
how would i approach it with her mum? :confused:

they are very close, she isnt on the larger side.

just say im worried about her beause of how shes eating but feel uncomfortable talking to her directly??
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Hmm.. maybe I'm the only person with an outspoken mother!

It's really difficult if you're dating as you don't have control on her diet.

Is there anyone you know who has had health problems as a result of a poor diet? You could base your 'new healthy regime' on that?

BB x
 
drunkenmaster said:
Jesus, the reason women seem to be so sensitive is men have made a point to make talking about these things as awkward as possible by not being honest.

Every which way you could say this in a round about way is telling her you both can't be honest, she'll know you're trying to find a nice way to call her fat anyway and will lead to long term communication issues.

Put it this way, if you go the round about way of saying this, she'll be angry and (if you love her to bits and eventually want to marry/have kids) are setting yourself up for a lifetime of awkward conversations, dishonesty, distrust and generally being unhappy. Tell her you worry about her weight, that you love her and its hard to think about a future with her and kids if she is unhealthy.

For me, with parents who taught me to eat very poorly, contributed to me being very unhealthy, it's simple. I want to eventually have a family with someone who knows how to eat healthily, will pass on those traits to my children and will help my children be healthy and fit, particularly throughout their childhood which for me was particularly unhappy due to ill health and weight problems.

For me if the woman I'm with can't understand that, she's not someone I want a family with. Men need to get to the point with these major issues because you end up thinking something will change.... and it won't. In 15 years married with a kid being fed McD's you'll be angry and resentful and maybe/probably eventually
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BrightonBelle said:
Most women know if they are overweight.
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I haven't read all of the thread, but as a girl I do agree with the above.

If she loves you then she'll understand you're not telling her to be spiteful. Like BB said, most girls know if they're overweight so chances are she knows she should be doing something about it. Maybe she just needs a little push in the right direction.
 
It's definitely a difficult one, not least because most people's (want to say girls but definitely some blokes guilty too) attempt at losing weight is twenty minutes on the cross-trainer and eating "diet" foods which are full of sugar and then give up when nothing happens.
 
Lysander said:
I always thought it was impossible for vegans to get fat. Seriously, how would they manage it?
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Like how most people get fat, combination of a lot of booze, inactive lifestyle and bad choice of contraceptive.

Though I assume the fat vegans I saw had decided to go vegan after getting fat...

Current vegan girl I can't see getting fat thankfully. :cool:
 
I don't do fat birds, the Mrs knows this. She knows I would consider leaving her if she turned into a proper efforlump. Harsh, but big girls just do not do it for me, at all!

Mrs got comfy and went to 12st and decided to go to them fat fighter things. 100's of proper obese fattys there and my Mrs was destroying them on the weekly weigh-in every week.

Got down to 9.8st in 2months. Biggest thing she cut out from her diet was mayo.

The irony of all this is that I am the fat ******* lately :D
 
4T5 said:
You are ****** basically, You say she is a 16 - 18 dress size but that's her Single woman weight, Her in a relationship weight will be a fair bit more & because she is already a 16 there's not a lot to look forward to.
Up to you if you want to stay with a BBW for the rest of your life & watch her become more & more immobile until she finally dies an early death due to heart trouble.
I think it's down to you to make a choice rather than trying to change another person. :)
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this really... is she in her 30s yet... if not :eek: then.... wait until she has kids...

its a lifestyle issue really... the fat is a symptom of that - in order to change she'd need to not just go on a diet and make a token effort at exercise but actually change her lifestyle, who she is as a person... if she's happy how she lives now (not necessarily happy being fat but happy with the way she lives overall) then that might be too much to ask. If its not something you're personally comfortable with then get out of the relationship... find your next gf at the gym or at a yoga or dance class or something and not at the local nightclub or in the queue at the kebab house afterwards.
 
Lose weight, get fitter, get sexier.

Either she will take inspiration and follow suit or you are fitter and sexier and can find someone better.

Or settle. There is no shame in this, most of us do.
 
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