argh screwed up my first date ><

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So just 2 days ago I went on a date with a girl i really liked. It was pretty clear she showed some intrest in me also.
Anywhos we went for dinner which was pretty nice. We got talking, laughing etc. Then after took a walk through the park where we sat n chatted for quite a while. Heres where the problem begins. I find that we dont actually have that much in common and so the convo kind of died.
Her friend had called her earlier and asked her to go club which wasnt too far from where we were. I walked her to the club duriing which we didnt say much to each other.

As we were arriving at the club she asked me wether I were to join them. The night was young and I hadn't much else to do so I thought 'why not'.
So as we enter the club she runs over to her friends which turns out to be a bunch of guys. I greeted them then got myself a drink. They had their own thing going on so it was hard for me to actually get better aquainted with any of them. Not being much of a dancer, I was on the sideline most of the time there while she was enjoying her friends company.
At that point I didn't much feel like staying. I walked over and told her I was to leave to drink with some friends who were in the area. As I departed I clearly saw a frown on her face but regardless waved her goodbye.

I spoke with her again today and she didnt really speak in the manner and enthusiasm as she usually would. Turns out she was a little upset for my early departure and said some things that made me rather uneasy. I feel as though my chances with her have dropped a lot.
It's been a while since I was seeing anyone and I really like this one, so please if you could give some advice or tips on what I could do now I will be forever greatful!
Thanks~!
 
Just keep chatting to her matey. Eventually she or you can ask to meet up again.

Just be happy you went out on a date with a lass that was talking a little bit...

Went out with this lass the other night and from the moment she got in my car she was so BORING you wouldnt beleive, didnt hardly say anything the whole night...Eventually I got **** off and said "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU" or something of the such.

Told me she wasnt looking for anything to "happen"...Even though shes the one that wanted to meet up and was sending me flirty txts...Crazy **!

No swearing

Gilly
 
To make a change actually listen to what she has to say whilst talking about herself.
 
Sime said:
Went out with this lass the other night and from the moment she got in my car she was so BORING you wouldnt beleive, didnt hardly say anything the whole night...Eventually I got off and said "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU" or something of the such.

Told me she wasnt looking for anything to "happen"...Even though shes the one that wanted to meet up and was sending me flirty txts...Crazy !
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Gah I get the same thing in GTA4 all the time :(
 
jeez, just tell her the truth.

Its near impossible to really mingle with people when you are drinking and in a very noisy environment. Tell her you really enjoyed the night etc, but that you felt a little uncomrtable and that you are a crap dancer (sympathy vote :P ). Tell her if you still really like her and ask her out again asap.

Oh, and me and my missus have little in common however that hasn't stopped us being together for nearly 12 years and getting married next :D If 2 people have a lot in common they have a limited field of things to discuss, however if 2 people like lots of different things then it brings more to the conversation.

Why not suggest you do something she is interested in for your second date, even if you don't like it yourself!
 
if you've got nothing in common, find it difficult to talk to her and don't really fit in with her current friends then you have to ask yourself whether this girl is actually the right girl for you.

B@Th*nG
 
Ask her out again, now that you have gotten to know her a bit more you might have more confidence talking to her. Be honest and talk about anything and make an interest in her. Also get her on her own no friends etc that will ruin it. Maybe you think you don’t have much in common as you didn’t talk much?
 
As most of the above really. Ask her out again, explain that you're not a confident dancer and it was nothing to do with her friends or her. She'll be fine with it i'm sure. Tell her you'd like to do something else instead, listen to her a lot, ask questions about her, and remember to reference back to it when appropriate to prove you've been listening!

Or you know, get her to teach you to dance :P
 
Anybody is going to find it hard to talk to new people they've met in a loud club, especially when they all know each other and your the only one left out.

Just say something along those lines to explain the club. Then ask her out again.
 
First mistake - took her to see her friends, if you were to hang out with her friends then it's not really a date.

Second mistake - Left early, it shows that you are not interested. Imagine it the other way round.

But you can fix it, just ask her out again.
 
From a girls point of view, it sounds like she did genuinely like you and you hurt her a little bit by leaving. She probably felt the tension too so took you out to meet her friends to show you a more fun side to her, I'll bet she wanted to make a better impression on you and then thought she had failed.

If you do really like this girl and feel you'd like to spend time with her then be totally honest about why you left. She'll appreciate it for one and you may end up seeing each other again under different circumstances.
 
Take her on a second date where you do something more active and exciting.....bowling, a day at the races etc.

You need a distraction, something that you can both get involved with that takes the pressure off so you can learn about eachother by actions rather than words and have a laugh.

P.S. don't take her to the cinema
 
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