Awkward flatmate issue...

[Stewy]

This is pretty much my first serious drama thread but here we go...

Last night I got in from a night out with some of my coursemates and my flatmates were stood in the kitchen cooking some food, neither of us were that drunk by this point (about half 3?).

One of my flatmates, Becca, always has a go at me when she's drunk because a couple of weeks ago I knocked myself out when I was drunk and they had to ring an ambulance as I couldn't stand up and was throwing up all over myself, whilst on the same night one guy that went to the same club as me on the same night went missing and was eventually found dead in the river - she semi-blames me for his death because 'that ambulance could have been saving him'.

Anyway last night she was initially having a go at me for that, usually I just sit there and take it but last night I just said 'look, move on with your life, everyone else has'. Error.

Then she came out with this tirade of stuff she'd obviously bottled up for ages. Apparently she thinks I'm the most selfish person of all time because I don't wash up for a day or two, that I'm horrible to another of our flatmates even though I'm really not, and best of all, that I'm gay for her boyfriend when we're just quite good friends and get on pretty well. This isn't helped by the fact that when they called an ambulance he had to shower me to get the sick off me. She's very naive and thinks any male contact is massively gay and a big nono - even cleaning my sick when I'm semi-conscious. To top this all off, apparently she rings her parents every week to have a cry about me being such a horrible person...

Anyway this is uni accomodaiton so I've gotta live with her for one more week now and then the whole semester after Easter - it's gonna be SO awkward, what do we think I should do? When we're both in the kitchen it's just gonna be horrible...

Ideas/comments please

 

[Stewy]

The most frustrating thing is the way she keeps going on and on about that night. Ok it was irresponsible from me and yeah looking after me can't have been great, but she doesn't seem to be able to move on, gets really quite irritating how she keeps bringing it up.

Might have to give her an apology she she can chill out.

 

[Stewy]

You're in uni halls, that's the way it is. People get drunk, pass out, never do washing up and leave the kitchen in a mess. That's how it always has, and always will be. Tell her to deal with it.

That's pretty much how I see it, but she lives in this little bubble where everything has to be perfect and clean all the time and if it's not.... well it's not worth being in the same room when she sees it...

 

[Stewy]

Tell her that you are in Love with her boyfriend & the pair of you can't stop making Gay Love.

To be fair I did actually do this quite a lot before last night, just because is so touchy about everything, I can't help but wind her up. I used to limp in to the kitchen etc. when they were both there and smile at him, I thought it was quite funny but obviously....

 

[Stewy]

Well Customs I'm not that bad, I mean I leave it til there are like maybe 3 plates / 2 glasses, and then i'll do it, so like leaving it for one/two days, I'm not some horrendously messy person.

Might give her a little apology so I can carry on living my life.

@Semple, yeah she's pretty much the reason I'm living with other people rather than my current flatmates, I just imagine 2 more years of watching everything I say and do.

 

[Stewy]

Update then guys: Basically I decided just to stay at a friend's this weekend and let her chill out - couldn't be bothered with the drama. Got the following text:

'i just want to say im really sorry for last night i was horrible to you and completely out of order and didnt mean a lot of what I said its a combination of lots of little things that built up and came out and i think thats the best thing that could have happened because now its all out in the open. You are a lovely guy but we are very different and i've never met anyone like you before uni. can we try to get on or at least be civil for the sake of the others. have a good weekend.

Bolded the bits that are a bit .

I replied just saying basically that i'm staying at a mates for the weekend and just want some space.

@ Guest2, I was at Mission that night when Matt died, I live at Clarence Dock residences, the ones by the river, not allowed to walk home on my own now according to flat/coursemates.

@ Slime, I wasn't that drunk when I left Mission according to the people I was with, it was the knocking myself out that screwed me up not the alcohol. I fully understand people hating people who are simply drunk, but I'd obviously just slipped or whatever, just a normal accident, so less of the hate would be nice

 

[Stewy]

Just got back, hiding in my flat with football manager and five live

Making a cup of tea in the kitchen was rather tense, trying to get it all done before she comes in. Fun semester ahead.....