Broke up with bf

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i know everyone hates relationship threads but I guess I just need to get it off my chest

bf broke up with me last night though I had considered it as well.

basic story is, we met, it was great, then a few months later i find texts to girls asking if they want to meet, we fight, i move on and stay with him. month or two later i find texts from girls, again i stay. go on holiday, he flirts with some 30 something tart from Essex (typical!) again we fight but i stay. then couple of months later, texting girls, found texts from girls one saying "i liked the way you gave it to me last night" apparently it was just a massage but i dont think i ever believed him. we move in together mid feb this year, things are tough. we fight a lot, then one evening he threatens me with a knife, (actually held it to my hand and asked if he should cut my fingers off!) i break it off and start moving stuff out.
then he comes over, crying, we talk i say ok but im only coming back with basics. things start going well, he's nicer etc. then last monday he is taken to hospital cos of his leg and cos he couldnt drive he stayed at his mums, he then came back thursday, changed to mr nasty again. we fight, he says its over on monday. then he wants a break, then we are fine, then i ask whats actually going on, he snaps at me, then last night we agree to break up

i thought that would be an easier way of saying it rather then going in to too much detail.

oh and between the year he has thrown me on a bed, and also strangled me at the same time as trying to make me answer him while he is strangling me. and he has stolen things from me, i.e a voucher, money, items such as a mouse etc.

and he's a mummys boy!

i hate him. yet last night i cried for 5 hours non stop and didnt sleep till about 2am.

are there any blokes out there who dont want to hurt me????
 
i know i was stupid to stay but i found it so hard to walk away from him
and because i couldnt prove for sure if he was cheating people kept saying to me that i was probably being paranoid etc cos of what had happened with my ex.

its just over a year. least its not 4 years like the last one. i guess im too forgiving and need to toughen up

i moved in cos the fights were mainly that we werent seeing each other and he was getting fed up with driving to see me cos i cant drive right now. we both thought we were fighting cos we werent happy at home. stupid i know but too late to turn the clock back now
 
atpbx said:
Mabye you need to spend more time getting to know people before you start "going out" with them.

hmm trouble is when i was getting to know him he was so nice etc and you can have that with anyone where they are nice then suddenly turn nasty. i think i need to toughen up. no more second chances
anyway its me time right now. sort myself out. make me happy with myself first
 
im feeling much better now. funny how music does that to me. it instantly cheers me up.
thanks everyone for the nice things you have said
 
MoNkeE said:
This has got me thinking...

Take one problem (this thread) add another problem and you have a solution!

-RaZ

what, to get drunk or date the bloke in the wig?

well its no to both. though i do drink im on antibiotics at the moment!!!
 
Magic_x_uk said:
Sorry about your problems. Now perhaps I could take you out to dinner and cheers you up ?

If only to make you happy again


hmm bit far away aren't you. anyway i've already eaten thanks though :D
 
TooNice said:
Meh, I think it is madness the number of times you let him go back. Stay-away-from-him. Enjoy some hobbies, go out with friends. No I ain't saying it will be easy, but it will get easier as-long-as-you-keep-away.

yes-I-am-fully-aware-of-that

i hold my hands up ive been a complete idiot and I admit that. but least i can admit it. least im not sitting here saying i still want him back!
 
OCdt Stringy said:
omgs, a girl on *** interweb!

[hitting on mode]
I'm from near Surrey, I like to consider myself a very eligible bachelor, and we're of similar age. What do ya say you let me take it from here and ease your worries ;)
[/hitting on mode]

On a more serious note: He sounds like a right tool, and you're well rid of him to be honest. Weigh up the pros and cons of getting rid of him and you'll realise how good it is that you're no longer with him.

Time is a great healer, you'll get through it.

similar age? interesting when my age isn't stated :p

okay looking at the previous meets i would not fit in. im VERY shy and would probably end up boring people
 
sr4470 said:
BB speaks the truth. :)

Edit: Whats he saying secretspy?

mainly burping. hes so disgusting. we are discussing stuff in our flat that we are selling as i needed to find something of mine earlier and I think he took it
 
sr4470 said:
By all means make sure you're getting whats yours back out of it.

oh my god he is so stupid

we bought a dining room table and chairs for £50. paid £25 each

and i said "my mum wants to buy it for the same price and said because you owe me £30 she should give me the £50 and you dont get half your share"

and he said "ok you get £30 and i get £20 so I said how do you work that out if we are both owed £25 then you owe me £30 so i take the £25 that would have gone to you

then he was saying have i e-mailed a list over etc. which i have done and he kept saying in a chav tone "yea well i'll sort it out"

then he was questioning why my mum was paying the price we bought it for and i said well she is trying to help me out
"yea well i dont have a job"

not my problem that he owes people money!!!
pfft waste of space!
 
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