Can You Read Body Language/Lies?

scaramanga182

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Evening folks. Just a quick couple of questions, can anyone here give me some good tips on reading body language to find out if someone is lying and how to question someone who is holding back on the truth?

The reason I ask is that I'm meeting up with the ex tomorrow and want to find out why she ended the relationship as I've never been given a proper reason. Obviously I don't want to turn this into an inquisition, just want to be able to look for subtleties and read between the lines on what she has to say.

Cheers
 
It depends on individual! Some blink a lot, nose twitch, other bite their fingers, look down, says the most meaningless sentences etc.

In this case...You will never know.
 
You can tell, to some extent, what people are thinking about by which way they move their eyes. It's an involuntary thing, that people look one way when remembering something, another when thinking of something new, another way when recalling emotions, and so on.

So, you can tell to some extent if someone is lying if they keep looking in the making-things-up directions when they should be looking in the remembering directions.
 
vonhelmet said:
You can tell, to some extent, what people are thinking about by which way they move their eyes. It's an involuntary thing, that people look one way when remembering something, another when thinking of something new, another way when recalling emotions, and so on.

So, you can tell to some extent if someone is lying if they keep looking in the making-things-up directions when they should be looking in the remembering directions.
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I'm trying to remember which way round it is. I think it's if they look up to their right (your left) then they're lying. Creative side of the brain or something? If it's to the left then theyre trying to remember. :)
 
scaramanga182 said:
Evening folks. Just a quick couple of questions, can anyone here give me some good tips on reading body language to find out if someone is lying and how to question someone who is holding back on the truth?

The reason I ask is that I'm meeting up with the ex tomorrow and want to find out why she ended the relationship as I've never been given a proper reason. Obviously I don't want to turn this into an inquisition, just want to be able to look for subtleties and read between the lines on what she has to say.

Cheers
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Yes. You can to, but remember that it is a subtle art and your ego sits between what you see and what you will believe - therefore you are very likely to see what you want to see.
 
Scam said:
I'm trying to remember which way round it is. I think it's if they look up to their right (your left) then they're lying. Creative side of the brain or something? If it's to the left then theyre trying to remember. :)
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other way round. looking to their right is retrieving information from the brain

to their left is retrieving information from the creative side, which is thinking about making something up.

people often touch their face when they lie - around the mouth to signify covering the lie up as it comes out, on the chin as in "chinny reckon" or "itchy beard" as we all remember from school

scratching the nose is another (where do you think pinocchio and the nose reference comes from)
 
It's not as simple as left or right. There are 6 directions people look in. Up-left, up, up-right, down-left, down, down-right.

I only really know looking left/right/up means they're dominant and looking down means they're submissive. :)

It's actually quite interesting doing this. Walk down the street making eye contact with people, it's hard, even consciously looking anywhere other than the direction you usually look in.

If you look down, try looking up, for example. :)
 
there are more than 6 ways an eye can move, this was about lying (or how the eyes try to retrieve info from the brain)
 
SideWinder said:
Apparently if someone is lying, they tend to avoid eye contact and fidget.
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or they fix their gaze strait at you. Look for direction of eye movements - if they are right handed and you ask them something and they flick their eyes to the left for a second while thinking they most prob lieing as when someone looks to the left they using the imagiantion side of brain - to the right is rememebering fact.

A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.


A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
 
Vegetarian said:
or they fix their gaze strait at you. Look for direction of eye movements - if they are right handed and you ask them something and they flick their eyes to the left for a second while thinking they most prob lieing as when someone looks to the left they using the imagiantion side of brain - to the right is rememebering fact.

A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.


A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
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LOL, sounds like you went on the same body language course as me! ;)

Liars sweat even when its cold.

Their voices tend to become slower, but some will speed the rate at which words come out. Ask them soem questions you know are true, and judge there voice 'speed'. when they lie it will change as described.

They may touch their ear or nose.

The may look to the their right. If you look to your left when talking, your remembering the true past, if you look to the right, your become creative and start making things up.

BTW. If you ever get hooked upto a lie detector, squeeze you spincter when replying, do multiplication in your head when responding, bite your tounge, or put a sharp object under your toe when answering. All these techniques send the machine do-lally! LOL
 
I've always seemed to be able to tell when people are lying, no real meathod to it for me though. Just my sixth sense I suppose, Im not such a believer in the whole eye thing, for the simple reason tat back when I was studying about it we learnt the whole left/right thing....so now when I lie, I make myself look to the right...Just incase lol, so if I can do it...so can anyone else.

The biggest give away for me are facial expressions...People who are lying tend to say, scrunch up their face for longer periods of time when they are confronted or try prove something otherwise to you. Someone innocent, tends to frown, confused for a second, but quickly becomes relaxed, as they seem to know the truth so are content with knowing that...thinking about a way to show you that easily...rather than constantly acting confused, scrunching up their face and such forth.
 
benktlottie said:
BTW. If you ever get hooked upto a lie detector, squeeze you spincter when replying, do multiplication in your head when responding, bite your tounge, or put a sharp object under your toe when answering. All these techniques send the machine do-lally! LOL
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<jotts down for future reference>
 
I'm fairly sure me lying means blinking slightly more than usual, I tend to fix eyes in a certain place..

Anyway, play more poker :p
 
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