**** Cancer

I am truly so sorry you are having to go through this it sounds beyond comprehension, I just wish you and your family the best.
 
Holy hell that was a tough read.
I am so sorry, that has got to be the most challenging timing and I can only really wish for you both to keep strong and continue the fight!
 
My mother-in-law was misdiagnosed and fobbed off with Tennis Elbow for 18 months - Wife finally attended GP with her to push for an MRI a week before Christmas 2012, which showed a golf ball sized mass on her cervical spine and shadows in lungs, spleen and liver...

...they removed the malignant tumour in her neck, but the shadows were Stage 4 lung cancer which had spread to spine, spleen, liver and mets in her brain. Given an optimistic 6 months.

She's since had 3 very rough rounds of chemo, radio and immunotherapy and is still kicking today, although still classed as terminal.

I told the Wife back then "sod the savings, make as many memories as you can" and we've been doing exactly that (although after 13 years, I've suggested they go a little easier on the credit card lately).

Wife's baby sister was murdered in June this year, leaving behind three children (11, 8 & 6), so we, along with Mum, have had to step in and provide care & support for them, as we all navigate the sudden and unexpected loss.

Your situation is horrible, frightening and incredibly sad - we never know what the universe is going to throw our way. All you can do is circle the wagons, pull your loved ones close and make as much of whatever time you may have left.

I wish you and your Wife and your children the very best; don't give up hope, fight like hell for each other and be sure to lean on friends & family for their support as much as you can.
 
So sorry to here this. My GFs mum passed a couple of years ago from a sudden discovery of s4 cancer. Damn GPs fobbed her pain off as "being older" and she didn't push back. I'll always remember her husband saying "we had all these plans" when truth was they just wasted away much of their time watching TV.

It has been The hardest thing I've ever witnessed and it changed my perspective completely.

There are no words can say to make it better. It's ****ing ****.

I truely hope you both win the battle.

To everyone.. Make the most of every moment. :(
 
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My mother-in-law was misdiagnosed and fobbed off with Tennis Elbow for 18 months -
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Exactly same as my GFs mum.

"it's just a bad back."
Again and again.

Eventually got a scan. And was s4. Terminal lung that had spread.

Worst part is they are fairly well Off. And a private mri is only a few hundred quid.


If anyone feels that their GP is fobbing them off... Please just book a MRI.
Vista health do them for under 400 when I had one.
Many people think nothing of paying 400 a month in car finance.
Please take your health seriously. You only have to be wrong once!
 
D.P. said:
I haven't really hidden it, but haven't expressly shared, so some of you might know that my wife has been fighting cancer for the last year. Recently we found out that fight will be heavily stacked against her. After several surgeries, including removing the bladder and putting in place a stoma, and 1 year of chemotherapy and immunotherapy going through 4 different treatments there seemed to be a couple of tumours in the region of the original tumour, so the plan was to remove these and start new chemo on drug #5. Well, it turns out despite all the advancements in MRI/PET/CT they completely failed to show that the cancer had heavily metastasised. There is a rating from 0-39 to describe the extent of metastasis, and my wife was at 35... They removed some tumours that were blocking the intestines but left the rest, so now she has another stoma and feels more like a bionic women than a human, but we are grateful for the modern medicine that makes this possible. No ideas of timelines, we just have to take 1 day at a time. We have 2 children, one with moderately severe Autism, so this was challenging to manage. It is difficult to describe how this makes me feel, except I have to stay strong for our children and it has thus been more of a pragmatic acceptance than the end of the world.


On top of that, for the last 3 months I have had a persistent tooth ache, leading to first removing a wisdom tooth and a course of antibiotics, which progressed in a somewhat repetitive process of tooth extraction and antibiotics. You can guess where this goes - this week i was diagnosed with some kind of bone cancer on the jaw, less than one month after finding out about my wife.

I'm just in disbelief and shock, and again, I just have to keep it together and look after the kids. My wife is OK without pain, but the chemo fatigue means she is almost house bound and needs lots of sleep. So I'm trying to pretend everything is normal for the children. **** know what state I would be in if it wasn't for the children. Kind of like Walter White, I just have a dull acceptance of the situation. I cannot change it, I know I have to fight to my last breath to be there for the children. We haven't told them yet, I don't know if we can, it will destroy them.

The next 2 weeks will be filled with scans and doctor meetings. There will be surgery in a few weeks, where they will take out my left jaw bone, potentially in its entirety to leave the maximal margin of safety. Bone form my leg will be used to create a new jaw, and soft tissue from the fore-arm to rebuild the face. I should expect 3 weeks in the hospital, fed through a tube into the stomach. I'm hoping it is as soon a possible so I might be home to spend the last Christmas with my whole family. Then radio and maybe chemo therapy. I am fit and strong, and have told the doctor to go for 100% maximally aggressive surgery, chemo and anything else because it is absolutely paramaount I survive to be there for the children, however incapacitated I might be short term. With any luck, there has been no metastasis and i'll be on the road to recovery within 6 months.


I'm not looking for sympathy or any support. I just want you all to reflect on your lives, and appreciate what is most important. I know many of you think I am some insufferable woke communist, and I really don't care, you can continue to do so and call me out on that. But I would like you to realise the value in the wellbeing of those you love; how you must appreciate and add value to each day your live, and that the world is not black and white. **** things happen to good people through no fault of their own, and one day it might be you.
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that is truly horrendous. :(. not sure what to say other than I hope for the best outcomes possible for all of you . like you said **** cancer.
 
Really sorry to read that. For what little it counts I truly wish your wife the best of luck and hope she beats it and has the maximum recovery possible.
 
So sorry to hear this. Cancer can go #### itself in the #### with a pineapple.

Lost my father in law to brain tumour 17 years back and it’s so hard seeing the changes in him and of course the impact of seeing that for my wife.

Got to admire your determination in the face of it all and wish you and your family all the best.
 
Terrible news, I wish you and your family all the best.

I lost my father in law to cancer about 6 months ago. It is really a awful disease.


**** Cancer
 
Sending you and your family my best wishes, life loves to test us all at some point sadly. Stay strong threw this and remember love and respect is the best medicine for anyone that is ill. So sorry to hear you or anyone having to go threw this.
 
So sorry to read this, as a father to a vulnerable autistic child, this is one of our worst fears, my thoughts are with you! I wish you both all the best!
 
Hey D.P

Words can’t describe what you and your family are going through.

About you .. my mum had exactly the same a decade ago, she is still with us, stay strong mate and fingers crossed for you and the family.

Al
 
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