I've now got my very own OcUK relationship thread. I've got no where else to go.
Girlfriend of 2 years found questionable images on one of my old hard drives after she went through my PC while I was out. Came home to an "I'm sorry" text message. I asked what was up, she told me she found a folder full of naked Asian girls.
Queue a very long night of apologizing and comforting as best as I could, but it really didn't work at all. I explained to her that I forgot I even had that sort of stuff on my PC and that it meant nothing. This didn't help, she's just simply too self conscious. Her theory is that I shouldn't have to ever use pornography or look at/think about other women. She thinks that she's not perfect to me, not beautiful, etc. which is all of course not true. I think she's amazing and one of the best things that's ever happened to me. She is beautiful, I love her. Again, none of this got through to her.
Next question was if I have ever watched porn while we've been dating. I couldn't lie to her and I told her I have, but it doesn't make me some sort of scumbag or mean that I love her/think of her any less. I couldn't even explain why men do it, just that we do.
She told me she felt sick/disgusted and wanted me to leave her alone.
What the hell do I do now? I wish I just lied to her but I couldn't bring myself to do it..
Girlfriend of 2 years found questionable images on one of my old hard drives after she went through my PC while I was out. Came home to an "I'm sorry" text message. I asked what was up, she told me she found a folder full of naked Asian girls.
Queue a very long night of apologizing and comforting as best as I could, but it really didn't work at all. I explained to her that I forgot I even had that sort of stuff on my PC and that it meant nothing. This didn't help, she's just simply too self conscious. Her theory is that I shouldn't have to ever use pornography or look at/think about other women. She thinks that she's not perfect to me, not beautiful, etc. which is all of course not true. I think she's amazing and one of the best things that's ever happened to me. She is beautiful, I love her. Again, none of this got through to her.
Next question was if I have ever watched porn while we've been dating. I couldn't lie to her and I told her I have, but it doesn't make me some sort of scumbag or mean that I love her/think of her any less. I couldn't even explain why men do it, just that we do.
She told me she felt sick/disgusted and wanted me to leave her alone.
What the hell do I do now? I wish I just lied to her but I couldn't bring myself to do it..