Poll: Cheated on?

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:02

So i found out last night my girl cheated on me while she was away. Meh, thats that kicked to the curb. But this question is mainly aimed at lads to lasses - how many blokes have been cheated on by there girls? Is this common? If a mod could poll this id appreciated it

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0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:12

Im 20, she was 18. And i would love to punch her in the overies, but shes not even worth that. She went away for a week and it happened whilst away. The way i found even makes me laugh, she had the nerve to use my own laptop on msn (which i log all conversations

) and talk to the guy. I knew something was up with her since she got back so i checked the logs.

I was talking about my mates from uni about this but in perticular women cheating on men as apposed to the other way around, and i was surprised to find that they all seemed to think it was much more predomenantly women cheating on men as apposed to the other way around. Thats just why im curious, to see if people feel thats the case.
//edit we had been going out 3 months. She had been practically living with me for a month of that.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:19

Andelusion said:
Are you mates mostly blokes by any chance? I suspect if you put the same question to some women they'd say the opposite.

I've never been cheated on as far as I'm aware...

Actually no, i have a range of both, and youd be surprised the number of female friends i have that said they new females that had done it.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:25

Linoge said:
Yes and the next day I got her to carry all the rubbish out to the bins and told her to jump in with it because her ass was dumped. Not a nice feeling at all and it does usually effect your next relationship.

I drove 10 miles with everything shed ever given me, and everything that was important to us or that she owned, walked up to her front door and said, "I log all conversations on my computer, have a nice life." I droped them on her doorstep and drove away. Ive removed every trace of her from my life. I think it probably will affect my next relationship aswell, i wont be as trusting for one.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:26

Dracata said:
Same thing happened to me last week mate and i posted on here, read my thread:

http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=17755812

She didn't try to hide anything, and she only kissed another guy, she told me about it right away.

I broke up with her regardless, after much deliberation.

Sorry to hear mate, its gutting when it happens whatever age you are

Appreciated mate, il give it a read.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:36

Dracata said:
Never been truer words, i got hurt in my just gone relationship because i put my trust in her, but that doesn't mean i won't trust my next girlfriend, its all life experience. There's no point in a relationship if you don't give your full trust.

I completely agree with both. Thats why i put almost blind trust in her, because i believe well if you cant trust someone what have you got. But then again, i had never been cheated on before. I think it will be a while before il be able to do that agian. Anyway, any chance of poll on this mods? still curious about numbers...

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:37

naffa said:
I've been cheated on by my ex with my best mate.. That hurt a lil bit.

But I'm only 16, these things happen.

Harsh man. Harsh.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:38

Appreciate the poll, thanks

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0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:42

Blue Cypher said:
An Ex dumped me over MSN!! i mean MSN!!! thats low and then a few days later i found out she had been seeing some one behind my back, looking back at it , it explains her behavior for a while prior to us splitting up.

Still i loved it when she came crawling back 2 months later and i just told her to get lost

Just noticed this. Man that is harsh. Good on you though.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:42

Gilly said:
Not with me, not any more.

Sounds like you have learned the lesson the hard way.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:46

benktlottie said:
I've cheated on my wife on more than one occasion, but to my knowledge she has never cheated on me (thats what she tells me when we occasionally talk about such things, she just isn't the sort!) Apparently, if a woman truely loves you, she wont cheat on you. Whereas a man will probably cheat if he thinks he'll get away with it.

Good on the OP for driving her stuff to her and hitting her with the 'have a nice life' ! That apparently really gets to them. Sounds like good riddence really. If you cant trust her to go away for the week, when can you trust her?

Its just a shame that up until now i have had blind trust in my girlfriends. Until you have doubt then im a firm believer of trust the person to the full. Or at least i was. Now who knows.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:53

Wizzkidy said:
Been with mine for 8 years now. Met when I was 18 and she was 15, never looked back and I trust her.

I could tell we where made for each other as soon as I saw her. There where also some strange goings on and coincidences that I found rather pulled us closer together.

1. I lived at 36 she lived at 37 same street
2. My mum and dad knew her mum and dad 20 years ago
3. around 10 years ago I met her at a party that my uncle held and didnt even know.

all this and I happen to meet her at the local shops and have never looked back. getting married next year.

Congratulations

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0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:55

Totality said:
So people generally reckon once the person has cheated there's no going back and they've changed forever?

I must admit, just by reading some of the stories in here, seems that the once a cheat always a cheat seems to ring true.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:57

benneh said:
Cheated on by one that I know of (we'd been together for 4 years), I deserved it entirely though, the relationship should have ended 6 months prior to that. I did also cheat on her shortly afterwards, during the 'we can try to make it work again' stage.

Moral of the story, if it's not working well, get out .

Unless you did something pretty drastic, nobody deserves to be cheated on. How hard is it for a girl just to say ive met someone else that i like, and rather than do something il regret we need to end this.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 12:58

Looking at the poll numbers, thats almost half of the people that voted have been cheated on :O Did not think it would be anywhere near that much as a percentage.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 13:08

Darg said:
Voting has been neck and neck since 70.

Seeing as we're mostly guys here we're probably only seeing one side of the story.

True, any girls wish to chuck in there two cents? The poll was intended as men cheated on by women, to get as an average number. But i would be curious if women seem to think more men cheat than women nevertheless.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 13:42

SiD the Turtle said:
Ouch . What's worse, being told that you've been cheated on and imagining what happened, or walking in on it?

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 13:58

Almost neck and neck with cheated on more just in the lead. And thats a fair amount of people. I guess maybe i shouldnt be so shocked then.

I hope to end up one of these married people that still love their husband when I'm 70 and only want him... but in this day and age I dont know if thats a nieve wish or not

Nice to know that even still exists.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 15:52

KaHn said:
Thats what I was thinking, my GF now tells me I can look through her phone etc but i never have or ever will, I dont care if she looks through mine either.

KaHn

I understand what your saying but let me clarify. First off its my laptop, I have every right to know what it is being used for. I have never, nor ever would, go through anyone elses personal bellongings - phones etc. But at the end of the day, if i hadnt of found them, i wouldnt know what i know now, so does this not prove me right for monitoring what my things are being used for?

Im not trying to sound stuck up or anything, if i was using her laptop or whatever i would fully expect the reverse, her equipment, her rules etc.

0Shorty · 24 Jul 2007 at 16:01

KaHn said:
What you have just described is the argument for a big brother state.

KaHn

I should also note at this point i have never had any bother with her going through any of my things, yes i fully agree there should be trust in the relationship - i do that blindly. I never questioned what my partner was doing or whateva, if you love someone, you trust them, simple as. What im saying is that surely i should be allowed to monitor what is mine in the first place? Incidentally i dont believe in a big brother state at all, and im against that train of thought in every way.