Cheating Ex.. how would you react to this?

Disgusting tbh. Sorry you had to go through that OP. As angry as you feel,as much as you hate what happened, I think you should either ignore or exchange very minimal pleasantries. They have clearly moved on, and I think if you show that you haven't, it will not work to your favour. By that, I mean, they will think you are stuck in the past, and will likely completely not understand how you feel anyway. That is evident by the debt you were left in. She ain't worth it dude. You are the bigger person, you proved it. Hold your head high, not worth anymore of your time or feelings.
 
Shake his hand like you would shake the hand of a man who took the rubbish off your drive, saving you a trip to the tip.
 
I wouldn't even acknowledge them, if there's other people there then you would have no reason to talk to them, also what makes you think you'd need to shake his hand, if offered just ignore it and move along, if you cannot do these things then I just wouldn't go to the christening.

Lifes too short to let this hold you back just steam onwards and upwards.
 
Grow up, get over yourself, and just be polite.

Don't lower yourself. Making a fuss over something she did wrong (however bad it was) will only make you seem petty and childish.

It's not about you, it's a christening. Honestly.
 
I'm with the

Show her you have completely moved on and shake his hand and say hi.

Even slip in 'thanks for the save on that one' said with a smile.

Remember also their relationship might or might not be good
 
I wouldn't shake his hand. Just walk around all day with a slightly smug smile knowing you have smashed his partner and he hasn't smashed yours.
 
Interesting mix of thoughts on the subject.

Whilst inside I want to ignore them, and I'll do my best to basically avoid them if possible, I think I'm too polite a person to not be civil.

It's a hard situation, I know it was a long time ago but I just despise the thought that someone can treat another person like they did to me and just get away with it.

I've worked my ass off the past few years and I'm now debt free and just recently got the promotion to directorship at work.. so my life is pretty good bar the odd niggle..

I'd say I'm in a better place, lost a lot of weight too.. bought a new suit and got the gf some very nice clothes for this!

Ultimately, I think I'll be civil if cornered. Lol
 
Chandler_90 said:
Interesting mix of thoughts on the subject.

Whilst inside I want to ignore them, and I'll do my best to basically avoid them if possible, I think I'm too polite a person to not be civil.

It's a hard situation, I know it was a long time ago but I just despise the thought that someone can treat another person like they did to me and just get away with it.

I've worked my ass off the past few years and I'm now debt free and just recently got the promotion to directorship at work.. so my life is pretty good bar the odd niggle..

I'd say I'm in a better place, lost a lot of weight too.. bought a new suit and got the gf some very nice clothes for this!

Ultimately, I think I'll be civil if cornered. Lol
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I would certainly say you got the better of the deal then, if you do have to talk to them drop in the odd comment about how hard work has got you to a better position both professionally and personally, if you've been anywhere exotic drop the odd tit-bit into the conversation but be careful not to ham it up.

Also if he does corner you definitely (without the ladies near) thank him for saving you from her.
 
Be the bigger man, shake his hand and complement them on their son, then walk away and pay them no more attention.

Even if the rage is boiling hold it down, don't get too drunk but have a good time, don't show her that she has any impact on you whatsoever.
 
I had this about 2 years ago

Basically I was with my ex for about ten years raised her kids as my own etc, anyways she had an affair, I forgave (Never doing that again), turns out a year later I find out she is at it again with same bloke.

Broke it off, 10K in legal, 125K settlement to her and moved on.

Roll forward 5 years and my step daughter is graduating, my new partner and I get suited and booted, she looks killer in a sexy office kind of way

Step daughter panicking about us bumping into each other, wonders if I will kill the her mum and the partner (I'm 6 2 and about 200lbs), no no no I say

Event goes off and didnt bump into each other....until my partner and I, step daughter and assorted friends are walking down the high street, yep we bump into them, was BRILLIANT, he slunk off like the flash and my ex looked like a bag lady, all she could do was sheepishly say hi
 
Remember you are there because your friend values you and wants you part of their special day. Yeah of course it's a bitter pill to swallow what she did, but don't get involved In a petty point scoring exercise. She might chose not to acknowledge you out of sheer embarrassment.

Looks like your life has moved on for the better. Little point scoring could escalate quickly and end up turning into something that's not needed at the christening and then things get messed up with your friend. Hold your tongue and be the better person.
 
Chandler_90 said:
Interesting mix of thoughts on the subject.

Whilst inside I want to ignore them, and I'll do my best to basically avoid them if possible, I think I'm too polite a person to not be civil.

It's a hard situation, I know it was a long time ago but I just despise the thought that someone can treat another person like they did to me and just get away with it.

I've worked my ass off the past few years and I'm now debt free and just recently got the promotion to directorship at work.. so my life is pretty good bar the odd niggle..

I'd say I'm in a better place, lost a lot of weight too.. bought a new suit and got the gf some very nice clothes for this!

Ultimately, I think I'll be civil if cornered. Lol
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Bingo! That's the way to look at it! You're doing just fine now. Who cares about the ex?!?
 
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