Child 13 years old not going school due to severe anxiety and panic.

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Ok its my daughter she has severe anxiety and panic and is DLA.
she started high school last year and found it tough, now before the xmas break she broke down and wont go to school.

we have been to the doctors with her and been into the school many times trying to sort something out, they suggested just doing mornings or afternoons for a while which i thought may work but nope.

we have an appointment with CAMHS on the 16th of this month so see what happens there.

dont know what else to do she just breaks down.
 
like above there must be something that is triggering it but she wont open up to us or anyone even a doctor.

worrying here now about getting fined or put in prison i know its a serious matter all i want is for her to get an education and goto school.

we have tried lots of options and just waiting on CAMHS this month.
 
Does she spend a lot of time on an ipad/phone and social media? I'm sure this is part of the reason for so many kids having anxiety these days. My step daughter occasionally has this issue as well

she does but get off at a good time

Doing all the right things already really, i.e. getting help and working with the school.
Have you considered moving her schools? Sometimes a fresh start is really good if there has been particular friendship group issues or certain teachers etc. Can be really refreshing and might find they completely shine elsewhere and make new friends that help with confidence as there is the excuse that they need guidance and a sort of buddy to help them around/find stuff etc when new. I know it's scary for them but can be a blessing.

she is really popular in school and ofter meets up with her friends outside of school its a weird one.
 
well positive had a chat about doing just the morning tomorrow take a day at a time and explained again a few things and she seems up for it.
i hope she does go.
 
This is so sad. Feel for you OP. We never really get to know what happens at school.

Could something negative have happened on one day and that just taken root?

Do you think changing school might help? Or m asking if that’s what they want?
Mate I understand all the comments above school is tough at any times for us all we have all been there.

I think what we can gather it started with her drama class, by the time she talked we found out and sorted that lesson with rhe help from the school it may of been too late.

I hated drama too standing up in front of everyone.

Me and her mum separated around 4 years ago she did not take it well which I hate for any child to go through.

she lived with her mum and new fella who was horrible to her and even picked her up in a headlock and threw her out the house.

She is one of 3 the others are excelling still

I still think even though she lives with me and she is happy she still needs her mum but her partner don't want her around grrrr.

Heartbreaking
 
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picked her up and all good so happy for her, she doing 3 lessons again tomorrow and already planning what she is doing next week.

it seems a couple of lessons like drama especially she dont like it.

she loves english maths and science which is a bonus.
 
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