Could you live without intercourse?

Yes, but I have emotional problems, so I'm probably not the best example to follow.

I would rather live life on an even keel and if that means keeping her at a distance and giving up the highs of sex in order to avoid the lows of arguments and fighting then I'd definitely do that.

But like I say, I have issues.
 
Davepen said:
But the way I see it, if she doesn't want to have sex with you, she either:

a) doesn't fancy you

b) is getting it somewhere else

c) is just frigid!
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Holy over simplification Batman! There are many, many reasons why sex in a relationship can suffer not just because of those.

I'm not sure at a younger age that a relationship without sex would continue to function. It is a part (but not all) of a relationship. However by the time you have been together for a long time and reached old age then I doubt going without sex would be an issue. The closeness of a relationship would be far more important by then.
 
As people above have said - no, its a big part of a relationship for me - more the intimacy and physical affection, rather than the sex itself, if that makes sense.
 
Ohh the raging hormones :)

My wife and I have two teenagers and a four year old. This means time to ourselves is pretty limited. We are lucky if we are activate once or twice a month.

My wife has never been to bothered about it anyway, whereas I used to have issues aboutthe lack of. I 'd be lying if I said it never came between us, because it did. However, you kind of adapt .. Just because we are not as sexually active as we once were, it doesn't mean we love each other any less. The understanding is there.. so we just make best of the time we do have and appreciate each other more... Sexually or otherwise.

Never let sex rule a relationship.. It's important but not as important as you might might think..
 
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Makunouchi said:
As long as we could do everything but intercourse, then I think probably yes.

I could do without being inside someone as long as I could be beside them, that's the important bit anyway.
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That sounds like an extract from a 'predator's' diary.
 
I could perhaps last a few weeks without internet, but anything longer than that and I'd have to go visit an "internet cafe". ;)
 
My partner has 2 boys, 6 and 3 which keep her pretty busy but that doesn't mean anything when it comes to sex. She's is the opposite in fact and sometimes when I'm completely bushed she is muchly disappointed. Just high sex drive I guess! We couldn't live without it though as it's a way to get passionate and so close with your partner where you lose anything and everything around you and concentrate everything on that time. Without this in a relationship I don't think it's healthy.
 
Simple answer - No I couldn't.

I've left every girlfriend that showed signs of attempting to use sex as a form of control instantly.

Also - It's funny how if you tell them you're leaving because their sex drive isn't adequate, without fail, every single time they will do the following:-

- Scream and shout that all you want them for is sex
- Pounce on you and attempt to shag your brains out

Don't give in though... Some women simply don't have super high drives. I unfortunately do. And believe me there are plenty of women out there who 'do' love sex four-five times a night/day.

Don't waste your time if your sex drives don't match. Somewhere along the ling it will cause a breakup.
 
LordSplodge said:
As a psychology student I can tell you that you're wrong. Such complex interactions and emotions cannot be simplified thus. :)
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In a world where everything is over complicated, I feel its good to over simplify sometimes :)

Sure, it may not be one of those exact points.

But it will be related to one of them.
 
GordyR said:
if attempting to use sex as a form of control instantly.
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Using sex as a control in a relationship is a common occurrence and totally wrong. Any form of control in a relationship is plain wrong and not the kind of relationship i'd want to be in.


Don't give in though... Some women simply don't have super high drives. I unfortunately do. And believe me there are plenty of women out there who 'do' love sex four-five times a night/day.

Don't waste your time if your sex drives don't match. Somewhere along the ling it will cause a breakup.
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Men's a women's sex drives vary. However during a period of a long term relationship they are going to differ. It is improbable for them to stay matched. There are also many reasons they may drastically change. This shouldn't always result in the end of a relationship, if the other aspects are good and solid then issues with sex drive can be resolved to the satisfaction of both partners.

Bailing from a long term relationship due to a possible short term sexual problem is like bailing because there is a short term money problem. It's the easy way out and probably explains the high divorce rate.

As for having sex four times a day! How would I fit my work and hobbies in? Just like I like a nice steak I don't want to eat it for breakfast, dinner, tea and supper.

I like sex as much as I like steak but you've still got have some veg from time to time!
 
Possibly.

Fortunately, the male libido is relatively simple and seems to be activated without much in the way of provocation, so it's not likely to be an issue!
 
GordyR said:
Simple answer - No I couldn't.

I've left every girlfriend that showed signs of attempting to use sex as a form of control instantly.

Also - It's funny how if you tell them you're leaving because their sex drive isn't adequate, without fail, every single time they will do the following:-

- Scream and shout that all you want them for is sex
- Pounce on you and attempt to shag your brains out

Don't give in though... Some women simply don't have super high drives. I unfortunately do. And believe me there are plenty of women out there who 'do' love sex four-five times a night/day.

Don't waste your time if your sex drives don't match. Somewhere along the ling it will cause a breakup.
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Wow. Just wow.

You might actually represent the epitome of why so many women are so anti-men.
 
LordSplodge said:
Men's a women's sex drives vary. However during a period of a long term relationship they are going to differ. It is improbable for them to stay matched. There are also many reasons they may drastically change. This shouldn't always result in the end of a relationship, if the other aspects are good and solid then issues with sex drive can be resolved to the satisfaction of both partners.
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Oh I totally agree regarding short term differences. I totally expect both partners drives to go up and down like yoyo's... But as long as the difference isn't substantial. Fine. If the diffierence is huge on the otherhand, there will always be a problem.

LordSplodge said:
Bailing from a long term relationship due to a possible short term sexual problem is like bailing because there is a short term money problem. It's the easy way out and probably explains the high divorce rate.
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While I understand your point of view... Had I not kept this attitude throughout my early twenty's I would not be with the awesome women I am with now. I would still be 'flogging a dead horse' in one of my previous relationships. The girl i'm with now is a perfect 10 (certainly in my eyes) She's my best friend.... A genuine laugh to be around.... Wants to marry me.... and.... Is a sexoholic.

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As for having sex four times a day! How would I fit my work and hobbies in? Just like I like a nice steak I don't want to eat it for breakfast, dinner, tea and supper.
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Thats only normal for us at the weekends. Most days it would be either once or twice in the evening or maybe in the morning before work. It might sound a lot but it just suits us. She wants it as much as me so it just works.

I have in the past met other girls with this attitude towards sex but very few who are as attractive and have as many other great qualities.
 
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BunnyKillBot said:
Wow. Just wow.

You might actually represent the epitome of why so many women are so anti-men.
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Absolutely not. I did the honest thing rather than cheat.

I have never cheated in my life and would never hurt anyone. I have always been completely upfront and honest with my feelings and with what I look for in a partner. I have always been myself.

If our sex drives don't match it is better that I am honest and move on to find someone I am compatible with. Giving them the chance to move and and to meet someone else. Rather than string them along only for it to turn sour further down the line or for me to end up cheating like so many other guys do when they are in relationships with unmatched sex drives.

I have always been taught that honesty is the best policy and I extend that to my relationships. If you think being honest with a partner about our differences is somehow cruel or wrong then so be it. But I can assure you, I genuinely believe honesty is best.
 
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