Could you live without intercourse?

Well I've spent the last 3 months being able to count the amount of times I've had sex on one hand, almost could count them twice on one hand. And yes I'm in a relationship.
To do with our locations at the moment and job/uni situations right now.
It's getting wearing, it makes arguments worse, makes me ratty, I miss it!

It's an important part of any relationship, and I can't wait for it to become more regular again, might sort a few things out!!
 
GordyR said:
If our sex drives don't match it is better that I am honest and move on to find someone I am compatible with.
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You are talking about 'sex drives' like a consistent whole and integral part of a persons identity. I kid you not, you are dead wrong. A loss of sex drive can be instigated by a variety of factors, environmental, chemical and psychological.

So when your missus has a kid, gets post natal and goes on anti depressants losing her sex drive, will you leave her then, to 'fullfill your needs' because you are 'super honest'?
 
BunnyKillBot said:
I'm glad you found her.

I just wonder how many hearts you left destroyed to get there, all in the name of 'perfect sex'
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Very few I should imagine... Because I was honest and broke things off before they got too serious.

If I had allowed these girls to fall in love with me, pretending all was okay and then dropped them... Then yes. I would be a total and utter arse. But I have never done that. If the differences became apparent I would end things before too much emotion entered the picture from either party.

Furthermore, please don't think this was purely about sex. I extended this mentality to every aspect of the relationships. The difference in sex drives was merely one example of a fundemental difference that I felt would cause issues in the future. If I found other differences between us that I could foresee issues with I would end the relationship also.

As cold as you may think it sounds... I genuinely believe I was being honourable throughout. Especially since I am one of the most romantic/affectionate/generous men you could ever meet.
 
BAppleton said:
I do live without intercourse, im now 23 and while I have had sex, its never been something i've desired to have and its only purpose was to please the other person. A lot of people dont understand this even when I explain. My love for life in other areas gives me all the satisfaction and strength I need
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BAHAHAHAHHAHAHA. Please tell me this is some trolling.
 
BunnyKillBot said:
You are talking about 'sex drives' like a consistent whole and integral part of a persons identity. I kid you not, you are dead wrong. A loss of sex drive can be instigated by a variety of factors, environmental, chemical and psychological.

So when your missus has a kid, gets post natal and goes on anti depressants losing her sex drive, will you leave her then, to 'fullfill your needs' because you are 'super honest'?
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Of course not! We are talking about while playing the 'dating game' in my early-mid twenty's here... not marriage!

These are girls I had been seeing for 2-3 months not life partners. There's a huge difference.

I stand by my point that it is better to be honest with someone and allow them to move on and find someone they are compatible with if you find that there are significant differences between the two of you. Whether those differences are sex drive or not is irellevant. Sex drive is only in this discussion and being used as an example because that is what this thread is about.
 
could i live without it? of course i could
would i be happy about it? probably not but it wouldn't be a massive issue aslong as she was good at handjobs
 
If it was just that she didnt want to, i would find that a lot harder than if she medically wasnt able to as the feeling of rejection would be a greater factor.

If it was medical it would be somthing i would have to take on board and accept, wouldnt be too frustrated as a good old fashioned or other from her would make up for it.
 
I think its circumstantial. No I wouldn't start a relationship with someone if I knew I would never get sex, but say you had been together 10years or what not and it was a valid reason then I think I could go without as I think the emotional connection grows the longer you are with someone, it couldn't just be a 'you were a jerk last night so no sex ever again!! Rawr!' reason though.
 
No. If it disappeared from the relationship altogether it would end after a while. It's a superior form of communication and connection sharing, and it's highly highly important in a relationship.
 
mikeyp123 said:
Actually quite like Gordy's attitude. Don't really understand the hate towards it
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I think perhaps I have just articulated myself poorly mate. :(

We were discussing sex drives which is why it was used as an example. I certainly didn't go around breaking hearts searching for the 'perfect sex' as it was put!

Anyway, i'm glad at least one person thinks i'm not an ********. :)
 
mikeyp123 said:
Actually quite like Gordy's attitude. Don't really understand the hate towards it
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Same here. Things may change how he feels when he's older and more settled down but I see no problem with wanting sexual comparability.

It would be like me being with somebody who doesn't share my, er, unique deviancies. What would be the point? long term the relationship wouldn't work.

FNGsam said:
it couldn't just be a 'you were a jerk last night so no sex ever again!! Rawr!' reason though.
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God I hate that. My wife's doesn't do it but quite a few of my mates have girlfriends who do this. See GordyR and my views on sex used as a control posted earlier...

GordyR said:
I think perhaps I have just articulated myself poorly mate. :(

Anyway, i'm glad at least one person thinks i'm not an ********. :)
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It looked clearly worded from where I sit. My only issue with your post was how your penis hadn't fallen off after having sex four times a day. :D
 
GordyR said:
Without a shadow of a doubt. The two of us are completely, madly, passionately in love. Christ... We tell each other a thousand times a day!
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Then i challenge you, by rite of internet forumism, 40 days and 40 nights style, to not have any sexual contact at all for that amount of time. Its only 40 days, and then you can go back to however you were. Are you man enough to accept?
 
BunnyKillBot said:
Then i challenge you, by rite of internet forumism, 40 days and 40 nights style, to not have any sexual contact at all for that amount of time. Its only 40 days, and then you can go back to however you were. Are you man enough to accept?
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Lol....

NO

If abstaining from sex makes you a man. Then I don't want to be one... Also, what would this actually achieve? :p

Not to mention that my girlfriend would flip if I told her we couldn't have sex for 40 days!

Though I have to admit it would make a very entertaining thread for some of you. :D

LordSplodge said:
It looked clearly worded from where I sit. My only issue with your post was how your penis hadn't fallen off after having sex four times a day. :D
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LOL... If I took up BunnyKillBot's challenge, then I think it would drop off! Either that or I would rip it off myself out of frustration! :p
 
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Yes .. if my wife was in a car accident and ended up in a wheelchair and unable to - would I say to her 'Sorry love, I gotta go and get my rocks off'? Never ..

Seems like most people here would have to though :(
 
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