Could you live without intercourse?

GordyR · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:12

^TANK^ said:
Look guys I've obviously brushed people up the wrong way here and believe it or not that wasn't my intentions, I was just trying to convey my stance on the subject of this thread and a few comments got my back up thats all. I respect that most people that have posted in this thread, see sex as an important part of being intimate with their partners and not being able to do so will diminish your relationships fair enough.

It's a healthy debate mate

You certainly haven't brushed me up the wrong way... I've actually enjoyed it.

You seem to be in a great relationship and are very lucky to have found a girl so well matched to you. I too am in a great relationship but I had to work harder to find someone matched to me. Thats all there is to it

^TANK^ · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:17

GordyR said:
I think in all likelyhood their libidos are just well matched. Which is why it works for them.

I have a high libido so I have searched for (and found) a women with a matching one. How that makes me a 'user' of women is beyond me.

I read it that way from your previous posts in the thread, which made me think you chucked girlfriends if they didn't give out, but now you have taken the time to explain your reasons behind getting shot of them early rather than later, I now understand where you're coming from and apologise for jumping the gun and calling you a user.

GordyR · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:19

^TANK^ said:
I read it that way from your previous posts in the thread, which made me think you chucked girlfriends if they didn't give out, but now you have taken the time to explain your reasons behind getting shot of them early rather than later, I now understand where you're coming from and apologise for jumping the gun and calling you a user.

No need to apologise mate... This thread has kept me entertained

lcg · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:19

tom91x91 said:
ive lived without it since i was born so yes i could

Metalface Mark · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:22

The thing is, if you had asked me that 5 years ago, as a chump, I would have said Im in a stable and loving relationship, we just dont have sex very often, and i would probably defend that position that its not the most important thing all day long, as I probably felt I meant it at the time.

After 17 years of that, being with women who do have a similar sex drive makes a massive difference to a relationship and I wouldnt go back to a life with little or no sex, it would be madness.

Theres a good few people here who often trot out what their partner would say, rather than thinking for themselves, thats fine if you are genuinly okay with it, most people tend not to question whether they actually are or not.

^TANK^ · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:26

Its_Me said:
you spending too much time 'gaming'.

I would like to hear what your GF has to say on the whole situation, i bet deep down she is not as happy as you would make out dude

And its not my 'dick' that makes the choice, its my heart

Gaming? I gave that up ages ago

! Well she is seriously clingy towards me, but that works both ways. If she is unhappy shes giving out **** signals. We are very close in fact there isnt much we don't do together

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Freefaller · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:27

^TANK^ said:
Don't get me wrong I love bunny bumping time, its just not the most important part of a relationship to me.

It's not the most important thing to me either, however, it is an important part of a relationship, sharing that passion and intimacy with someone, but also because it feels great and it's bloody good fun!

Freefaller · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:31

GordyR said:
It is no different to leaving someone early on because you realise that you have nothing in common or that they are natural moaners etc...

Spot on really. It's no different. If you're not compatible for any reason, and this includes sex, it's going to negatively affect your relationship - which no matter what is going to cause bad times.

platypus · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:34

GordyR said:
You certainly haven't brushed me up the wrong way... I've actually enjoyed it.

Ooer

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platypus · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:36

Freefaller said:
It's not the most important thing to me either, however, it is an important part of a relationship, sharing that passion and intimacy with someone, but also because it feels great and it's bloody good fun!

Horses for courses...obviously this will get a <your doing it wrong> but sometimes I don't enjoy it, regardless of how dirty a girl is on the receiving end

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GordyR · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:46

platypus said:
Ooer .

platypus said:
Horses for courses...obviously this will get a <your doing it wrong> but sometimes I don't enjoy it, regardless of how dirty a girl is on the receiving end .

My god man.... I'm speechless. :eek:

Freefaller · 28 Mar 2011 at 14:47

platypus said:
Horses for courses...obviously this will get a <your doing it wrong> but sometimes I don't enjoy it, regardless of how dirty a girl is on the receiving end .

No no, that's fair enough matey

Not everyone enjoy the same things in life - it's perfectly understandable.

A little bit shocked... but as long as you're happy!

BunnyKillBot · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:10

Freefaller said:
Spot on really. It's no different. If you're not compatible for any reason, and this includes sex, it's going to negatively affect your relationship - which no matter what is going to cause bad times.

Hi,

Please, direct me towards one single marriage of perfect 'compatibility', and i will glady put a loaf of hovis on my head and video myself doing a cosak dance for your pleasure.

Honestly, you 'disney love' and 'the one' types are living in a selfish dream world. All couples bicker and argue, all couples have sense of humour failures, all couples differ in some way. The idea that there is somebody out there who so perfectly matches your tessellation if only you can sift through the not-quite-right fits first is disgusting, degrading, and laughable.

Django x2 · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:15

If she had a condition, would that still affect me taking her from behind?

If not, problem solved

The IPB · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:18

BunnyKillBot said:
Hi,

Please, direct me towards one single marriage of perfect 'compatibility', and i will glady put a loaf of hovis on my head and video myself doing a cosak dance for your pleasure.

Honestly, you 'disney love' and 'the one' types are living in a selfish dream world. All couples bicker and argue, all couples have sense of humour failures, all couples differ in some way. The idea that there is somebody out there who so perfectly matches your tessellation if only you can sift through the not-quite-right fits first is disgusting, degrading, and laughable.

I rarely argue with my Wife, yeah we do on the odd occasion but that's natural. We have the same sense of humour, she is pretty much my perfect match.

Just because you have not found this yet, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

NeverWinter · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:34

BunnyKillBot said:
The idea that there is somebody out there who so perfectly matches your tessellation if only you can sift through the not-quite-right fits first is disgusting, degrading, and laughable.

I'm pretty sure there is someone like that out there for everyone, however I'm not willing to sift through 3billion women trying to find her. Sometimes you just have to be realistic with your objectives

Freefaller · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:35

BunnyKillBot said:
Hi,

Please, direct me towards one single marriage of perfect 'compatibility', and i will glady put a loaf of hovis on my head and video myself doing a cosak dance for your pleasure.

Honestly, you 'disney love' and 'the one' types are living in a selfish dream world. All couples bicker and argue, all couples have sense of humour failures, all couples differ in some way. The idea that there is somebody out there who so perfectly matches your tessellation if only you can sift through the not-quite-right fits first is disgusting, degrading, and laughable.

When did I say there was a "one love"? I certainly don't believe in it, and believe that every relationships need a bit of work. All I'm saying is that sex is a perfectly valid reason behind things breaking down - now a lot of people work at it to spice that side of their relationship and everything's well again.

If anything you're saying exactly what I'm saying - so I'm confused why you've thought it to highlight my post?

I'm not for one moment implying that relationships can and will be a utopia of eternal happiness with no effort. I've never been in a relationship which hasn't had it's share of issues or fractiousness.

Of course couples bicker and argue - if anything that's healthy in a relationship to have a bit of character and difference. If anything you've justd proved my point, that ANYTHING can cause a relationship to break down - so why can't sex or intimacy be one of those reasons? surely that's perfectly plausible no?

GordyR · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:41

BunnyKillBot said:
Hi,

Please, direct me towards one single marriage of perfect 'compatibility', and i will glady put a loaf of hovis on my head and video myself doing a cosak dance for your pleasure.

Honestly, you 'disney love' and 'the one' types are living in a selfish dream world. All couples bicker and argue, all couples have sense of humour failures, all couples differ in some way. The idea that there is somebody out there who so perfectly matches your tessellation if only you can sift through the not-quite-right fits first is disgusting, degrading, and laughable.

No one has said that :confused:

Please show me where anyone in this thread has talked about finding their 'perfect love' or has stated that they don't ever argue.

Or are you disputing the assertion that some people are more compatible than others?

I'm very confused by your post. Especially the part where you claim that having attraction to a person with certain traits and not being attracted to people without them is 'disgusting, degrading, laughable! :confused:

Whether you realise it or not that is essentially what you just said.

krooton · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:55

BunnyKillBot said:
Honestly, you 'disney love' and 'the one' types are living in a selfish dream world. All couples bicker and argue, all couples have sense of humour failures, all couples differ in some way. The idea that there is somebody out there who so perfectly matches your tessellation if only you can sift through the not-quite-right fits first is disgusting, degrading, and laughable.

Yes, all relationships require compromise to some degree, but it is down to each person to decide what things they feel they can compromise on and those they cannot.

As an example, I could meet a woman that matches my sense of humour, intelligence, interests and that I find attractive, but she happens to work in the army and get posted from place to place quite frequently.

That nomad-esque life is NOT a compromise I would be willing to make.

Everyone could prioritise their needs/wants from a relationship when pushed, and some people would have sex higher up on the list than others. That doesn't make them wrong or bad examples of human beings.

wannabedamned · 28 Mar 2011 at 15:56

Inter....what?

Seriously, I used to be in a relationship where my sex drive was low, and my girlfriends was high. it was an annoyance sometimes. : \

These days, Since beginning to eat right and exercise( I didnt when i was with my ex ) My sex drive is through the roof. Thankfully I have a lot of female friends...Even if i am single