Dating and Waiting - relationship thread

crystaline · 30 Nov 2006 at 21:40

I would like your views on the following situation if you would be so kind,

The girl in this story has had friends who have recently tried to match her up with a certain guy, apparently on his request. Said guy, knows for a fact that she is not interested, and has been told by other people of this fact since. Add to the fact that this girl has just come out of a relatively long term relationship and most would consider it ‘too soon’.
Upon holding all of these facts, the guy has since tried to talk to the girl in person (they have never officially met before although have been at many of the same events) and tried to ask her out again.
In surprise, but still uninterested, she says ‘it’s a bit soon’, which is true although not the only reason on the table... but he is aware of her lack of interest.

Girl admires that he came up in person to ask her though and wonders if she should perhaps reconsider his character and wonders if she is being too quick to judge.

Should the girl..

a) go out once at least and get to know him better
b) go out with him because she’s got nothing better to do this weekend
c) not go out in the fear it would be ‘leading him on’ because he seems so persistent anyway
d) not go out with him because people don’t grow on you. If the girl was not interested in the beginning, chances are she won’t be in the future.
e) wait awhile to make sure she is over the ex and then make a decision
f) go to Lesbos.

Girl also wonders why he would put himself up for rejection when he knew that was the most likely, and previous result.

There are also a couple of shadowy figures in the background of this story whose intentions the girl is not yet aware of, but one of them she does wonder about – although perhaps wrongly.

Thanks for reading and all opinions..

iBankAllDay · 30 Nov 2006 at 21:42

C).

If she's not sure about him at best, and considering she still classes it as too soon, then it's the only fair option for all concerned

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A2Z · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:21

Kell_ee001 · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:25

C and E in my opinion.

Shouldn't lead him on, so wait until she's over the ex before deciding if she likes him later.

Communication

As long as she's being upfront, it's fair.

Gaygle · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:26

C), D), E)

Jeez that was easy, from now on i think everyone should post things in this format. Makes replying sooo much easier.

dwarf · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:28

e) for the reason of c) if that makes any sense :confused:

Kell_ee001 · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:30

Gaygle said:
Jeez that was easy, from now on i think everyone should post things in this format.

It's just what you get when a girl makes a relationship thread

Gman · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:32

can we have f) but post the vid footage after please

Kell_ee001 · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:36

Gman said:
can we have f) but post the vid footage after please

I think she means the Greek island

Gaygle · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:42

Gman said:
can we have f) but post the vid footage after please

LOL i was going to say something like that, but then did a quick wikipedia search and discovered:

Lesbos may refer to:

- Lesbos Island, a large Greek island in the Aegean Sea
- Lesbos Prefecture, the Greek prefecture that contains the island
- Slang word for Lesbians

I assumed she meant her going to Greece...and not becoming a lesbian.

Gman · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:49

nut's

wasn't sure if she was wanting to drift to the dark side or if she was referring to a gay club called lesbos, either would have worked, but now you've mentioned the Greek island thing it's killed the fantasy for me ...sniff sniff

daz · 30 Nov 2006 at 22:53

It would be a bit difficult to just go out and have fun this weekend "just as friends" because inevitably, the guy wouldn't see it that way.

Siliconslave · 30 Nov 2006 at 23:58

if she likes him and does think its too soon then she shouldn't go out with him (yet) as it could ruin any chance of them having a relationship together

if shes not too keen on it, but thinks he might be alright she could try him out as a "is it really time yet kinda thing... arr no its not but i'm slightly closer to it being time"

and if you wanna do the dirty with her you shadowey git you then tell her to go out with him, and when it doesn't work be there to pick up the peices

crystaline · 1 Dec 2006 at 03:54

Kell_ee001 said:
It's just what you get when a girl makes a relationship thread

Pure organisation

Vixen · 1 Dec 2006 at 07:02

Kell_ee001 said:
C and E in my opinion.

Shouldn't lead him on, so wait until she's over the ex before deciding if she likes him later.

Communication As long as she's being upfront, it's fair.

No big surprise, but I agree with Kelly.

iraiguana · 1 Dec 2006 at 08:59

Would have to agree with pretty much all of the above points, C+E best options, if too soon, then confusing it with someone that she is not interested in can only make things a bit worse.
Probably only a little impressed as still depressed about last relationship?

Redman · 1 Dec 2006 at 09:06

Well a change of direction here, I'd go with b). Might as well go out & see how it goes. Should get a few drinks out of it, and maybe a giggle too

If you don't, he'll move on & you'll never know.

cleanbluesky · 1 Dec 2006 at 12:45

I'd say mystery option number X, I'm betting that the shadowy figure does in fact have a huge thing for you and would also likely encourage frequent tourism to the island of lesbos...

MookJong · 1 Dec 2006 at 12:51

C

Why doesn't she have a think about it rather than get this lads hopes up. he is obviously uber keen on her.

Yas786 · 1 Dec 2006 at 12:59

crystaline said:
I would like your views on the following situation if you would be so kind,

The girl in this story has had friends who have recently tried to match her up with a certain guy, apparently on his request. Said guy, knows for a fact that she is not interested, and has been told by other people of this fact since. Add to the fact that this girl has just come out of a relatively long term relationship and most would consider it ‘too soon’.
Upon holding all of these facts, the guy has since tried to talk to the girl in person (they have never officially met before although have been at many of the same events) and tried to ask her out again.
In surprise, but still uninterested, she says ‘it’s a bit soon’, which is true although not the only reason on the table... but he is aware of her lack of interest.

Girl admires that he came up in person to ask her though and wonders if she should perhaps reconsider his character and wonders if she is being too quick to judge.

Should the girl..

a) go out once at least and get to know him better
b) go out with him because she’s got nothing better to do this weekend
c) not go out in the fear it would be ‘leading him on’ because he seems so persistent anyway
d) not go out with him because people don’t grow on you. If the girl was not interested in the beginning, chances are she won’t be in the future.
e) wait awhile to make sure she is over the ex and then make a decision
f) go to Lesbos.

Girl also wonders why he would put himself up for rejection when he knew that was the most likely, and previous result.

There are also a couple of shadowy figures in the background of this story whose intentions the girl is not yet aware of, but one of them she does wonder about – although perhaps wrongly.

Thanks for reading and all opinions..

So this girl really is you isnt it??

. Anyways id say option D as that seems to make the most sense. Its obvious that you dont feel the same as he does about you so therefore no point in going out with him as it would lead him on then cause friction later on when he finds out you were never interested in him in that 'way' etc.