Dealing with rude team members

[McBain]

Hello all,

Interested to see what everyone's thoughts on the thread title were, basically how do you deal with team members who talk to people like ****? It's hard to bite my lip sometimes.

One particular example happened today, a project manager who I've always felt was a bit self important, you know the type loves the sound of their own voice and no one else can get a word in. Anyway, I joined a call he'd setup this morning and he has a go at me;

"What are you doing on this call? I added you to another call you're supposed to be on, did you not listen to me this morning?" (This morning meaning the morning stand up) in a super abrupt, obnoxious, condescending fashion.

I was a bit taken back by this, it took me by surprise because he hadn't invited me to this other call, so it was all news to me. Turns out he sent the invite to the wrong person.

I'll be honest, im pretty ******* off about it, sat here stewing.

Wondering what the OcUK brigade tend to do with this sort of situation? No way I just let it pass, I'm not being spoken to like that for HIS mistake! For reference, he talks to other people like this pretty regularly, so it's not a one off 'having a bad day' thing. Spoke to another of the PMs about it and she said that's just what he's like....... oh well then, OK?

 

[McBain]

Well what did you do about it? I mean it seems like the sort of thing to react to at the time not sit and stew about after.

"Woah! Woah! Woah! Sweet child of mine. You didn't invite me to another call. I'll take that apology now."

"You didn't invite me to another call and i'd like to discuss this further, offline. Let me know when you are next free"

Inform Manager about your observations and your particular incident.

Let it go and move on.

Thanks all for your comments, I did pretty much this, informed the relevant people and will move on and put it down to him having a particularly bad day.

It'll likely happen again at which point I'll be taking it further. I don't like being a whiny **** but at the end of the day that sort of thing is completely unacceptable, my mother can speak to me like that but not someone I work with.

 

[McBain]

I read at as nude.

Christ thankfully not in my line of work, 99% blokes