Delayed Reaction

[Dave77]

Good Morning,

Does anyone belive delayed reaction is possible in times of bereavement.

e.g. If someones loses someone very close suddenly/at a young age but seems to cope with it very well at the time then a year or two later gets totally overwhelmed with things and they realise they did'nt grieve at the time of death as they should have?

Thanks,

Dave.

 

[Dave77]

Do you think its necessary to deal with what has happened to enable you to continue your life or is it possible to train yourself to supress your feelings for a lifetime?

 

[Dave77]

You need to deal with it. For some people that's breaking down in tears and for others it's shaking it off and coming to terms with it. But deliberately suppressing it will usually cause a bigger problem in the long run.

I see where you are coming from, but deliberately suppressing it can seem the simpler option sometimes, as long as you can remain strong you can deal with it. I have experience of trying to use some help lines and I have found them a bit patronising and very unhelpful at times, this is in no way a slur against them just my personal opinion.

 

[Dave77]

But that does require you to remain strong - and no one can remain 100% strong emotionally 24/7 - it would come out eventually and probably be multiplied.

Rich

Yes... that is what I feel just now, I lost my father very quickly to cancer a couple of years ago. I dont have a large family and it os just my mum and I to a certain extent. I feel I have to stay strong, but i'm finding it harder as times goes by, I thought it should get easier as time went on? I'm not sure where to go from here realy