Divorce rates in the UK?

Tek81

Tek81

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I might be being a bit dim here (it's late and I can't sleep)....I've just been looking at divorce rates in the UK. Currently it stands at 42%. Meaning, that roughly every 4/10 marriages fail. So, if I think of 5 random married couples that I know, the likelihood is that 2 or more will end up getting divorced. Does that sound right? It just seems very high. Puts me off the idea of marriage tbh.
 
tek81 said:
I might be being a bit dim here (it's late and I can't sleep)....I've just been looking at divorce rates in the UK. Currently it stands at 42%. Meaning, that roughly every 4/10 marriages fail. So, if I think of 5 random married couples that I know, the likelihood is that 2 or more will end up getting divorced. Does that sound right? It just seems very high. Puts me off the idea of marriage tbh.
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Might also be same person getting 3 divorces.

From anecdotal evidence I'd say it's believable
 
Yep, where I work people in their 50's are on their 2nd or 3rd marriage, its not uncommon nowadays

Spoke to one guy at my work last week who is now going through a divorce after 33 years of marriage.
 
Minusorange said:
Why is it surprising that nearly 50% fail, when the foundations are shaky to begin with ?
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I think what surprised me, wasn't so much the rate of divorce but more the context that I put it in when looking at the data. By which I mean, I've been to five weddings in the last 18 months. All couples still appear happy in their relationships (at least to me and other friends / family) yet the likelihood of divorce is statistically so high, that some of them are going to end up splitting up.
 
tek81 said:
I think what surprised me, wasn't so much the rate of divorce but more the context that I put it in when looking at the data. By which I mean, I've been to five weddings in the last 18 months. All couples still appear happy in their relationships (at least to me and other friends / family) yet the likelihood of divorce is statistically so high, that some of them are going to end up splitting up.
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The issue of marriages failing is a microcosm for why society is generally failing and boils down to people preferring social harmony over honest conflict despite the social harmony approach being counter productive to a well built and fully functioning society where people aren't forced to hide their true feelings for fear of hurting somebody else feelings as that builds resentment, which builds over time and eventually people snap and it breaks down
 
Could be wrong but I thought I’d heard on the radio in the car the other day that the rates are falling again?

Anyways, “marriage, not even once” - Nikola Tesla 1940
 
There are a whole bunch of factors though, which I haven't seen called out in any reports/analysis.

Age when married
Length of being together when married, and if you have actually co-habited
Previous marriages
Children from other relationships

These might be influencers on the likelihood of a marriage failing or succeeding, which get obscured when the over all average is just looked at.

I think if you get married quite young, you run the risk of either not knowing who you actually are and what you want from life, and then growing apart. This happened to my brother (married at 20, divorced at 24).

People often rush in to marriage, and no doubt these instances have a much higher divorce rate.

As someone who got married literally a month ago, I'm happy with that fact that we are both in our mid-30s (so know who we are and what we want), have been together for 4 years, lived together for 2, and don't come with any previous relationship baggage like marriages or kids.
 
I'm not surprised it's so high when people are getting married after only just meeting. Been with my girlfriend 8 years and have a 2 year old. Marriage isnt going to come for years yet.
 
Minusorange said:
Why is it surprising that nearly 50% fail, when the foundations are shaky to begin with ?
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The hell does that mean?

What foundations? What makes them shaky? Where is this coming from?

Spacedeck said:
I'm not surprised it's so high when people are getting married after only just meeting. Been with my girlfriend 8 years and have a 2 year old. Marriage isnt going to come for years yet.
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The **** kind of logic is this?

What level of commitment are you waiting for?
 
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