Do you keep your partners "separate" from your friends?

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I have a group of friends (known each other for 11 years or so) and the ones with partners keep them totally seperate from the group. Eg when it comes to socialising face to face, drinks out etc.

One friend is now married and has been with her for 5 years. We have met her twice - once was at the wedding and even then it was a very brief introduction.

Another friend, well we only met the partner at wedding mentioned above for the first time and together for around 3/4 years.

And the third has been with his for 5 years and we have all met her twice.

Guess in my view it would be more "normal" to have our normal nights out, friends bringing partners and perhaps the girls making friends with each other?

Think i am obviously the only one bothered/finds it a bit bizaare. :o
 
That is odd.

My group of friends always meets up with partners (who are also all friends). The lads might go mountain biking while the girls look after the kids (how sexist) but we will always meet up as a group for food/drinks later.
 
I thought it was normal to have "his friends" and "her friends", with only your closer friends with a bit of crossover
 
Irish_Tom said:
That is odd.

My group of friends always meets up with partners (who are also all friends). The lads might go mountain biking while the girls look after the kids (how sexist) but we will always meet up as a group for food/drinks later.
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Mm that is kinda what i was getting at. Girls making friends with each other as the common interest is they are with guys who all went to Uni together.

EDIT: As in, yes we're on the same page and i agree with you! :p
 
Further information...obviously i tried to set up events (bring X along!) etc but to no avail. I think it is just me that seems bothered by it...and i am without a partner. :o
 
SideWinder said:
I have a group of friends (known each other for 11 years or so) and the ones with partners keep them totally seperate from the group. Eg when it comes to socialising face to face, drinks out etc.

One friend is now married and has been with her for 5 years. We have met her twice - once was at the wedding and even then it was a very brief introduction.

Another friend, well we only met the partner at wedding mentioned above for the first time and together for around 3/4 years.

And the third has been with his for 5 years and we have all met her twice.

Guess in my view it would be more "normal" to have our normal nights out, friends bringing partners and perhaps the girls making friends with each other?

Think i am obviously the only one bothered/finds it a bit bizaare. :o
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You're assuming your friend keeps his partner at arms length, could it be that she detests his friends?
Had similar with a previous girlfriend (actually she just hated everyone, including me :D)
 
Yeah i'm in the "that's odd camp"

We'll often have lads nights out without wives etc, but anything more general and it's a grouped thing, along with multiple "couples" nights/picnics etc.
 
With my school friends (we are mid 40s now) we have a couple of weekends a year that are boys only, one snowboarding, one in the Brecons and sometimes a festival or something, but we all get together with wives and stuff too outside of these. My university friends and local friends are more mixed sex groups anyway (ooo er missus).

It sounds a bit odd. One of my mates has a wife who hates all of us and just doesn't come (to be fair it is reciprocated but we at least wouldn't show it).
 
Yup. Been together about 5 years. I have my friends, she has hers. My friends all have partners, and only one of them is insistent on bringing partner with him wherever he goes. Of course for Birthdays, Weddings and whatnots we have everyone together. Boys time is boys time. I spend 24 hours a day with my Mrs these days, any time without her is a plus quite frankly!
 
Friends local to me we're all mixed to be honest, it's couples more than anything else. Work friends we mainly do boy things... we used to do more group stuff with partners but there was a women falling out affair, which ****** all that up, so I get on with everyone but my wife doesn't...

School friends I still am a part of a "group" in whatsapp but haven't seen them in a bit now. A christening/ wedding was last time I think and they treat my wife like a dick. We moved away and have different lives and they're all still within 25 miles of each other and really chummy with each other and leave my wife out of everything, or just have private convos which is ****.
 
My friends circle and social life is mainly all around a badminton club.. A very broad range of people/ ages but my closest friends from there do a lot together and never involve partners apart from once a year at the Xmas do.. For most it's their escape from home life
 
We have both. I've introduced her to my friends and she to hers, but we also have friends that we'll go out ourselves individually and very seldom will take partners with.
 
I have been a biker most of my life along with a group of biking friends. We always go out on a pub crawl on Tuesday nights (not on the motorbikes though) and go out on a Sunday morning for a ride as well. In over 40 years not one wife or girlfriend has ever joined us, i think they just know that these are "blokes" time.
It's never been an issue and i can't see it being an issue in the future either.
 
We have lots of shared friends, some friends that were just the others, but are now both, different groups that we mix in where one of us is more friendly with some rather than others. We also have the other extreme where we both have friends that we've had for years and sometimes decades that the other has never met.

I don't go out of my way to keep friends separate or to introduce them. They either bump into each other or they don't.
 
I don't really think it's that abnormal.

It's fairly common for people to act differently depending on who they're around, people often believe that a persons personality is set in stone but it's usually a little more complex than that. While your friends might get on with and love their partners, the face the partner sees may differ from the one you see -- meaning the partner could be a different enough person as to not be compatible with certain friends and vice versa. I'm sure most people have friends they love to spend time with that they'd not necessarily invite to spend time with certain other friends who they equally enjoy being around.

Then there's the fact a lot of people need their own space, which doesn't necessarily translate into wanting time alone. It could be that for them, being part of a healthy relationship also means having time away from their loved one to pursue hobbies or even simple friendships. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip.
 
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