Ever fancied an ex?

ScarySquirrel · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:17

Just wondering if anyone here has ever fancied an ex, and if you have acted on it and if it just messed up a friendship or worked out.

I went out with this girl about 5 years ago, and when we broke up, i never really got over her, but didnt have much choice as we didnt see/speak to each other for a year or so, in the last 2 years we have become quite close again and now she is back from uni I would love to start seeing her again but don't know if she feels the same, and I am worried of ruining a friendship, although I think if she wasnt interested she would prob still be fine staying friends, i dunno, im confused.

Jenjey · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:18

ScarySquirrel said:
Just wondering if anyone here has ever fancied an ex, and if you have acted on it and if it just messed up a friendship or worked out.

I went out with this girl about 5 years ago, and when we broke up, i never really got over her, but didnt have much choice as we didnt see/speak to each other for a year or so, in the last 2 years we have become quite close again and now she is back from uni I would love to start seeing her again but don't know if she feels the same, and I am worried of ruining a friendship, although I think if she wasnt interested she would prob still be fine staying friends, i dunno, im confused.

Depends why you broke up I think...

ScarySquirrel · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:19

I cheated on her, i know its no excuse but we were only like 16 and I was an idiot about stuff like that

Pickers · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:20

Me and Pheebs were a bit on/off for a while... So yeah, I have.
As Jenjey says, it depends on what happened I suppose - she may still have feelings for you.

Just be sure its current feelings though, and not just "old love".

cleanbluesky · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:20

Jenjey said:
Depends why you broke up I think...

Yes...

The answer is in fact YES, I have fancied an ex - but it also depends on that person's capacity to be a **** as well. I've fancied the nicer ones.

ScarySquirrel · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:24

hmmm, thats the thing, she is perfect for me, and we get on so well.

I thnk ill leave it for a bit, she keeps asking to see me since she has been back and i took her for a swanky meal the other night, so ill leave it a bit and see if anything happens. oh, and since we started seeing each other she stayed over and some stuff happened, but she said it was because she was drunk, so i dont know. ANyway, cheers

quadboi · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:35

ScarySquirrel said:
hmmm, thats the thing, she is perfect for me, and we get on so well.

I thnk ill leave it for a bit, she keeps asking to see me since she has been back and i took her for a swanky meal the other night, so ill leave it a bit and see if anything happens. oh, and since we started seeing each other she stayed over and some stuff happened, but she said it was because she was drunk, so i dont know. ANyway, cheers

Erm, by that last part, i THINK you will not have a problem getting back with her

SexyBetty · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:42

Ive never fancied an ex... saw one yesterday and I felt like stabbing him in the face.

Sorry but you did ask

Jenjey · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:44

SexyBetty said:
Ive never fancied an ex... saw one yesterday and I felt like stabbing him in the face.

Sorry but you did ask

LMAO! I almost spat out my drink, teehee hee!
There's people I've dated that I still find attractive looks wise, but they've nearly all lost the personality appeal for one reason or another. Oh well.

SexyBetty · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:46

Jenjey said:
LMAO! I almost spat out my drink, teehee hee!

I aim to please

RandomTom · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:48

My first girlfriend turned into a right **** after we finished and she's totally obsessed with one thing (easy to guess) and i talked to her last night for the first time in a while and she was dead open about stuff and kept hinting things, it was pretty weird but i dunno. i'd say; just keep getting close to her you sound like you know what you're doing so it shouldnt be a problem if things complicate.

Jest3r · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:52

yup, but didn't do anything because firstly she was wearing an engagement ring at the time (which progressed to wedding ring), and then onto divorce and into another engagement lol, gotta love air stewardesses,

Yewen · 11 Jun 2006 at 18:53

I still fancy my first girlfriend, but just are really good mates at the moment.

Is a bit of a pain as I want to take it further again but I know it is not a mutual feeling so I just let it be as it is.

Could be a lot worse.

Arcade Fire · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:01

Presumably you wouldn't have got together with them in the first place if you didn't fancy them..?

ScarySquirrel · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:31

Arcade Fire said:
Presumably you wouldn't have got together with them in the first place if you didn't fancy them..?

Well yeah, but I mean to the point where you would jump at the chance to be with them again.

Gilly · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:32

Everyone would fancy an ex surely? Why would they be an ex if you fancied them?

iCraig · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:33

Nah I don't go for them, I prefer ticks.

ScarySquirrel · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:34

Gilly said:
Everyone would fancy an ex surely? Why would they be an ex if you fancied them?

Maybe they got fat

Xinn · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:39

I do, didn't see her for 8 months after a 2 year relationship and recently met up with her a couple of times. Seeing her tomorrow on her birthday and thinks are going great.

ballistic · 11 Jun 2006 at 19:45

never really fancied an ex, sure shagged her a few times since but everyone does that.