Ever get bashed by people for being 'techy'?

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 21:11

Hi all,

Thought I would come here to vent a little, and ask if you guys constantly get bashed by people and family members for being techy?

Since I was in school, I have always been a hardware fan so isn't something new at all.

This weekend has been exceptionally awful, worse than recent ones and every single time I get told that I shouldn't be buying watercooling stuff, shouldn't play games, shouldn't well get anything techy.

I mean, I cannot see the issue the family has with this. :confused:

I have always took it on the chin, but now every single day being told the same stuff, even on the phone is really starting to grind on me.

I'm full time employed, always trying my very best, and progressing forward when i'm at work, but when I get home it appears to be all wrong to wind down on the PC, or upgrade some bits for an hour or two. The thing which gets me, it isn't everyday either! maybe two to three times a week, including weekends! :mad:

Do any of you guys have/had this issue, and how did you deal with it?

Right now, I really want to hurt them back, but to be fair it isn't me and want to be the better person about it.

/rant

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 21:22

The thing is, they are the likes on my Dad, Step mother, Mum etc.. even my brother bashes. Feels a little like everyone is against me kind of thing.

They have Ipads, laptops etc.. as soon as they go wrong I magically exist again...
Then the bashing starts again.

I actually got told that I shouldn't even contemplate getting a fury X because I will not see any improvement, and it is stupid. I cannot say anything as they all kind gang up a little and just say how pointless it all is.

Winds me up so much! :mad:

Maybe they should just accept technology, and the expenses which can come with it, but it's like speaking to a brick wall. Actually maybe the brick wall has more sense.

sigma said:
I bet they're glued to their phones and don't realise that phone geeks are just as geeky.

Exactly that. *Sigh*

When it comes to friends bashing, I don';t have that issue as I don't really have any. You know, college, moving away that kind of thing. To be fair, the only people I speak to outside of work is the people on OCUK (Sad I know, but it is better that way)
I have loads of work friends who we go out and all that kind of stuff, but don't really talk about personal stuff if you know what I mean.

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 21:31

Caged said:

Haha.

Yeah I think you are lucky Mike, trust me it just gets relentless sometimes.
For example; I got bored of my Xperia Z3, went out an got a one Plus one, and got told I shouldn't of done it, as they wanted the phone after me, but didn't want to pay anymore than £100. My response to that was, who the hell are you to say that, and to be honest you wouldn't want to lose out on a few hundred would you?

Petty things, which make no sense!

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 21:45

Step Mother, Father, Step Brother/Sister pretty much everyone family at the moment.
Even my Nan called me 'weird minded'.

Tried to have a discussion, but always results in a heated argument.

Ryan-3 said:
And from now, you don't. Tell them to jog on and "find a geek they haven't managed to **** off."

Thanks, will certainly start doing that!

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 22:02

S2KIP said:
Seems like the OP needs new friends? I don't care what people think, my money, I do with it as I see fit. Most of the people who've ever had a quip at me don't do very well for themselves which just makes me laugh.

Yeah, could do with some of those, problem is I go out, but am not a fan of drinking or anything like that. Messaged a couple of old friends the other week, but they actually ignored me, which hurt a little to say the least.
Was kind of bullied through school, and left with a number of friends I could fit on one hand, one by one have moved away, and moved on.

Don't like to seem such a downer, or look hard done by, just for some reason this weekend has really tipped me!

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 22:39

S2KIP said:
How old are you? Just go out and do things you like, you'll soon have a new circle of friends.

I'm 20, but have no idea how to go about it if i'm honest. I enjoy a bit of biking, driving and tech in general. Am I looking for clubs/groups?

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 23:29

Not really, his situation is very different. A very constructive reply by the way.

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 23:31

Commala said:
OP, I reckon if you think hard enough there is a pastime that exists which even you find strange and ridicule worthy. This is the way of the world, so best just to learn how to deal with haters while you're still at a forgiving age.

When you eventually move out to your own place, your family will suddenly notice the lack of live-in tech support. Charge them a few quid and put it towards your next graphics card purchase. Tell them they can charge you when you're in need of advice about reality TV and local football issues, as it's only fair.

I think I am at the point where I don't really get hurt by it, but still annoyed to an extent that it effects me.

I might have a look at the site Tefal recommended though.

russell664 · 21 Jun 2015 at 23:35

Urh, Selfie that word is a terrible word!

russell664 · 22 Jun 2015 at 13:17

I can understand that they would want me out and about, but again I do quite often, but tends to be more solo than anything else, so no groups/meetups etc...

In terms of the friends thing, yes, they did ignore em, and have not replied to any of my messages, even though I can see they have been read, so must be time to cut them off?

I have thought about moving out, I am currently saving up to do so, so hopefully will be ;ate next year, it is just the wait until then!

russell664 · 23 Jun 2015 at 00:09

Never had a problem with any Ex girlfriends with any of that sort of stuff, mainly because it wasn't all the time, and understood it was a hobby or past time.

Much like it is today, nothing much has changed other than being a work more often and actually feeling happy with what I do, along with the progression.

But again, just don't understand why everyone in the house are being butt hurt over it all.
Got invited to a after work do things this Friday, debating whether to go or not. As I'm not used to the environment as such, might just jump in there and see what happens would be best?

russell664 · 23 Jun 2015 at 09:16

spoffle said:
What does this even mean?

It must mean breathing that substance called fresh air. I actually know what that is, can be cold sometimes though.

russell664 · 23 Jun 2015 at 10:58

Winky_The_Winking_Turtle said:
I know what you mean. I never understood how some people can sit there and mindlessly watch TV every evening on some sort of routine (just a typical example, don't know if it happens to you personally), but then complain at other people for doing something "foreign" to them, e.g. doing tech-related things (hardware or software wise). That just seems boring to me.

Boom on point, they are happy to sit in front of the TV all day long. Doesn't do it for me. :rolleyes: