Facebook = life = fact

A breakup will hurt enough as it is without worrying about social networking sites. I would try not to worry about it and just move on.

Different people deal with it in different ways, maybe for him moving on means cutting ties in the form of facebook image tags. Do you still speak to him? Even if the breakup is amicable that doesn't mean to say that he wants constant reminders of it.
 
I have a friend who got married, and divorced, last year after 7 months of marriage. They'd been to the Maldives on honeymoon and she changed the name of the album from "honeymoon in Maldives" to just "Maldives" and removed any pics with him in them - it now appears she went by herself on holiday.

Found it weird.
 
vonhelmet said:
10 years ago they'd have just burnt their photos of you together. It's no different to that.
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Fillado said:
Get a future boyfriend to print off a few pictures of every ex and stick them around his bedroom. Apparently you'd have no problem with that...
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Think those two post's sum it up perfectly, minxy you seem like you've got your head screwed on, despite all the bravado and alpha-ism's on here there's plenty of the willy waving brigade here at ocuk who've crashed and burned. we're all human, all delicate in our own ways.

You're tough enough to hang out here and take all the banter on the chin I've no doubt you're strong enough to get past this and let this guy be where he clearly wants to be, in your past.
 
Deific said:
In short, 90% of people use it to market themselves and for confirmation that they are liked/popular/part of a social circle and the reassurance that they get from that.
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Absolutely. Just look at the 'status updates' from friends and ask how many of them invite questions - it's all about attention.

'Blah is having a bad day' = blatantly designed to get everyone to ask why.
 
radar19 said:
Thats why I dont keep in contact with ex's. Its hurts too much seeing them with someone else. Out of sight, out of mind I go by. I havent spoken to my ex since we broke up back in March.
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This. Why do people feel an obligation to try and be friends with their ex-partners? No good can come from it - truth be told, it is likely to just alienate future partners.

As for Facebook - it sucks. If they've deleted you from their profile they'll automatically be de-tagged from all your photos, so it's not that they've actually gone to the trouble of going through every photograph and de-tagging themselves.
 
Ex-partner. The clue is in the title .

They don't want to be with you and have made it quite clear. So why make an effort to 'be friends' or 'keep in touch' ?

Take the hint cut off all communication and never speak to them again , whats the point in spending time trying to be nice to someone who doesn't want to be around you ! :p

As for myface or whatever , for attention whores only who lay their lives open for all to judge and would sell their grannies to be 'popular' with other strangers, weird. :confused:
 
When my ex broke up with me, a few months down the line when I realised I didn't think we could reconciliate, I removed her as a friend from fb, I told her it wasn't out of spite, but that I did it purely because I couldn't bear to see her with someone else, as it would inevitably happen. So basically, either he's doing it to "hide" you from another girl or that he's doing the same as me, depending on how/why things ended.
 
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duc999 said:
Ex-partner. The clue is in the title .

They don't want to be with you and have made it quite clear. So why make an effort to 'be friends' or 'keep in touch' ?

Take the hint cut off all communication and never speak to them again , whats the point in spending time trying to be nice to someone who doesn't want to be around you ! :p

As for myface or whatever , for attention whores only who lay their lives open for all to judge and would sell their grannies to be 'popular' with other strangers, weird. :confused:
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Because you enjoy there company and they enjoy yours?
 
It either means he cared more than you/he thought or hes got someone new (either with them or trying to get with them).
 
Deific said:
In short, 90% of people use it to market themselves and for confirmation that they are liked/popular/part of a social circle and the reassurance that they get from that.


Cue the "I DONT DO THAT" and "NOWAIIII" remarks, but I would say the majority of facebook users fit into that sentence in varying degrees, young and old, whether people agree or not.
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I would disagree with that figure - I would agree that a large slice do use it like that but I'd say its more like 60% - that or you just have a large number of teenage (mentally if not physically) girls on your contacts list.
 
Theophany said:
This. Why do people feel an obligation to try and be friends with their ex-partners? No good can come from it - truth be told, it is likely to just alienate future partners.

As for Facebook - it sucks. If they've deleted you from their profile they'll automatically be de-tagged from all your photos, so it's not that they've actually gone to the trouble of going through every photograph and de-tagging themselves.
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I haven't been deleted (yet). I said the photos have been detagged besides which the tags stay even if you delete someone anyway.

I don't feel any kind of obligation to him, I don't feel like I have to stay mates, I want to.

Thanks to all those with sensible responses. Some have been really eye opening.
 
Minxy said:
I haven't been deleted (yet). I said the photos have been detagged besides which the tags stay even if you delete someone anyway.

I don't feel any kind of obligation to him, I don't feel like I have to stay mates, I want to.

Thanks to all those with sensible responses. Some have been really eye opening.
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Then look at it from his perspective; how's he supposed to get on (and get laid) if he has coupley pictures of you and him on his facebook profile, which people are bound to check.

Not a pleasant viewpoint, I'll give you that, but it's true.
 
Brother had some trouble with this not long ago, Not so much removing tags, but not removing tags. He's with a new girl now, and she was on his facebook looking for a nice picture of my brother, and she suddenly ended up in a bad mood...

Why? All the good pictures were of him and the ex :D

So yeah, removing tags can be for the good of a new relationship.

But yeah, i can imagine it hurts when its unexpected like that, out of the blue
 
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