Friend Problems

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Does anyone feel that sometimes it would be easier not having friends or people to care about at all?

Not due to fights and arguments but the way you feel when you see them down, when you see them cry, when you see them get depression, when you see them lose people they are close to.
It probably makes me sound like a bit of a **** but it all builds up and it brings me down and i dont know what to do and i just cant stand seeing them like it.
I dont have many extremely close friends as it is so im really close to the close ones i have. So when something bad happens to them it affects me and i go through it with them in some weird way.
I dont mind helping them through things and i prefer they come to me and talk about things so i can under stand whats wrong and whats happening and help them.
It just seems a lot keeps happening and keeps bringing them down, especially to one close friend of mine. Its starting to make me feel helpless and feel somewhat anxious.
Sometimes it feels like it would be easier to be all by my self on an island far away from people.

Who would have thought caring for people can be so hard sometimes?

Just getting that off my chest. :(
 
Jesus man, you live in a sunkissed paradise, cheer the **** up! Try living on ol' Blighty, a lump of grey rock inhabited by miserable alcoholics.
 
The good times with friends outweighs the bad.

Nobody can find true happiness being alone all their life. Fact.
 
It does feel awful when the people you love/care about our low.
The thing is Zip as a friend they rely on you to be the one to pick them up when they feel down.
Which can be a lot of pressure but as you say you would rather they come to you.

I have a best friend that has been going through a lot over the last 5 years.She always down and depresssed but i just try to be there for her as much as possible. At times i feel helpless and frustrated because she is still down but as my friends say i am helping because i am a shoulder to cry on and she knows i'll always be there.
Your doing what you can and being there i bet is helping more than you think.

Keep your chin up and you sound like a brilliant friend :)
 
I have never had an argument with any of my friends that lasted more than a few minutes. In fact, I can't remember the last time I had cross words with any of them.

There's about 10 of us who've all grown up together and that group has grown with the addition of wives and girlfriends. I guess we're lucky being so close that differences don't bother anyone and it tends to be lively debate or mick-taking rather than arguments.
 
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No friends here. There are a lot of people I am friendly with but not any I would class as a real friend.
I don't really want other peoples problems in my life and I keep my own problems to my self, it makes life so much simpler. People come and go all the time in life, I just can't see the point of trying to hang on to people.
 
loopstah said:
No friends here. There are a lot of people I am friendly with but not any I would class as a real friend.
I don't really want other peoples problems in my life and I keep my own problems to my self, it makes life so much simpler. People come and go all the time in life, I just can't see the point of trying to hang on to people.
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That's pretty desolate, dude. Don't you have the desire for decent friends?
 
Zip said:
Does anyone feel that sometimes it would be easier not having friends or people to care about at all?

Not due to fights and arguments but the way you feel when you see them down, when you see them cry, when you see them get depression, when you see them lose people they are close to.
It probably makes me sound like a bit of a **** but it all builds up and it brings me down and i dont know what to do and i just cant stand seeing them like it.
I dont have many extremely close friends as it is so im really close to the close ones i have. So when something bad happens to them it affects me and i go through it with them in some weird way.
I dont mind helping them through things and i prefer they come to me and talk about things so i can under stand whats wrong and whats happening and help them.
It just seems a lot keeps happening and keeps bringing them down, especially to one close friend of mine. Its starting to make me feel helpless and feel somewhat anxious.
Sometimes it feels like it would be easier to be all by my self on an island far away from people.

Who would have thought caring for people can be so hard sometimes?

Just getting that off my chest. :(
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Solution: Stop hanging around with losers who use you as an emotional crutch.
 
Visage said:
Solution: Stop hanging around with losers who use you as an emotional crutch.
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They arnt losers and a few of them have probably had more **** happen to them and lost more people close to them this year then you have in the past 10 years
 
Zip said:
They arnt losers and a few of them have probably had more **** happen to them and lost more people close to them this year then you have in the past 10 years
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Well then perhaps you should be more sympathetic to them than bitching about them on an internet forum?
 
Visage said:
Well then perhaps you should be more sympathetic to them than bitching about them on an internet forum?
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I am Sympathetic, i help where ever and when ever i can.

Im not really bitching, im just getting it all off my chest and seeing if anyone else finds it can get a bit hard and have there emotions go up and down with there close friends
 
Zip said:
I am Sympathetic, i help where ever and when ever i can.

Im not really bitching, im just getting it all off my chest and seeing if anyone else finds it can get a bit hard and have there emotions go up and down with there close friends
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A lass I know told me a few days ago shes been seeing a Psychiatrist (sp), the reasons why blew me away what made it worse she wanted to come visit me. She wanted to visit me and I said I can't I am working she then kindly told me she was scared. I asked of what and she said of doing something stupid (Od-ing).

Well...I was gobsmacked and didn't know what to say, my reply was she was tired and had, had a bad day which I believe she had. She said she felt better today. Keeps saying "you hate me don't you" its very annoying and I thinking of distancing myself as I don't think mentally I can handle it. Friends can be morally draining that is for sure.
 
Yes it is annoying and I have been there... Actually I think my situation is another take on the thread but still.

I often think, 'how are we friends when you just blasé everything that I say but am expected to listen to you go on about such and such'.

Also, I find it really frustrating that my friends get so hung up on guys... I think it is something to do with the fact that I was able to just delete the ex from my life, as there was nothing I wanted to do or took from the relationship.

They still seem to want to stay in contact with these blokes (ok I guess you can given a couple of months) but it doesn't help them and they end up getting upset.

I guess we all deal with things in different ways and just ahve to respect that and be there for them whatever happens.

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