Funeral speech

[Tacitus]

Right, denizens of the internet,

I have never had a family member die since I was about 5 or 6, and I have never been to a funeral. I am now 23.

The unfortunate happened, I lost a grandparent, and I have been asked to speak at her funeral. I know my close family, ie, my aunties, uncles, cousins etc, but not her siblings, friends etc.

What does one do? How do you start a speech at a funeral, how humorous should I try and be (given I am light hearted generally, but her siblings and more remote family might not know that)?

How long should I speak for?

I just don't even know where to start. Could anyone give me some pointers?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Tacitus]

Thanks to all who have replied so far.

I think those are the two aspects I want to focus - the funny memories/anecdotes and the contribution she has made to my life. I just am not sure if the former is appropriate at a funeral.