Getting married tomorrow guys, getting a little jittery :) tips on emotional speech???

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As you can see guys, finally tieing the knot with my beautiful lady tomorrow, but I'm very worried about the speech. I'm not the sort of person that enjoys public speaking but I do want to make sure I deliver a nice thank you speech and do all the correct things.

The big scare for me is, as a few of you might know, I lost my dad 4 weeks ago tomorrow, he was absolutely everything to me, I worshipped everything about him. I want to say a few things in the reception, but I know I'm going to loose it. It's going to be so hard, I've not written anything down yet, and I'm not sure how to deliver the speech. Also, I only have 1 family member there, my mum but loads of mates, everything about the sit down meal is worrying me.

Do I thank people (bridesmaids, best men, usher, brides parents, my mum etc etc? We have gifts for the wedding party, do I give them out during my speech when I'm doing the thank you's etc.

Can any of you guys please give me some kind advice?
 
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Congratulations!

I don't know if this'll work for you, but I usually have a glass of bubbly before doing speeches as it helps get the confidence up a bit.
 
Congrats man
^^ As he said, try not to bring your father into it too soon, as it will make you (and anyone else in the same situation) feel upset.
Focus on the good you and your misses have experienced and will experience, tell a few jokes and all, but end on the dedication to your father and what a wonderful man he was. You really need to bring that out at the end. Focus on what he would have wanted you to do, and imagine yourself living it.
Don't add him to your speech until the end, as those are the final words
 
Has your dad got a grave you could visit early in the morning? Just an idea.

Definitely speak of him, but as others have said keep it until later on as you don't want to start the day off feeling sad!
Perhaps a toast to the family who is here today, and those who can't be?

Enjoy your wedding day :).
 
Try and enjoy the day, it's a celebration and your dad wouldn't want everyone to be upset or emotional, he would want you to have a great time, surrounded by family and friends. As said, a toast to him and say a few words at the end of the speech but end on a high note. Enjoy it and it will go quickly. Try to be swept along!
 
Congratulations!

It might be a good idea to have a couple of rehearsals, even just talking out loud to yourself, and get used to the emotions that will occur when talking about your dad. It might make you better prepared or dull the raw emotion a bit.

Remember that this is your wedding day, not your dad's funeral. It's appropriate to mention your dad but try not to let it dictate your joy at getting married to someone you love and care deeply for.

Source: I had to do the same but my dad was 3 weeks from death, not 4 weeks passed away.

Good luck champ :)
 
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