Getting over a break up?

V3g3tto said:
Mate, i had a stunner the once, completely nuts like, comes with the territory, but she had the lot. She did the same thing, said she loved me and not in love with me, blah, blah, that it's her, that i remind her too much of an ex, that she doesn't want to get hurt again, i've used the same excuses to other girls and it's all ******. They are ncie ways of saying: "look, kinda want to try something new, someone else, i'm not staying with one persona ll my life and i'm young".

I got the truth out of her eventually, and it turns out a week after we split up, she was with her ex.

Long story short, he was a nob, got her pregnant, then left her for another girl, regrets ever leaving me and is sorry for how she did things. To be honest, if it weren't for the kid, i'd go back there as that lesson made me what i am today. I fear nothing, feel nothing and can take/deal break-ups at the drop of a hat. Lifes too short and there are too many pies i wanna taste :D
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sounds strangely familiar apart from the pregnant thing.

as sad as it sounds it's probably made me more of a ******* because of it as i simply just don't care as much. i imagine in time i'll probably give in again but it's certainly true that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
 
Sorry to hear about the breakup dude, but like pretty much everyone have said "plenty of fish in the sea".
Been single for 4 months now and really can't see the great thing about being in a relationship atm, being single is the best boost for your ego, you'll see :P.
 
waso_dude said:
Cheers guys.

KaHn - she came first before everything, i've even said i'd sell my pc if that was it.

Yea, i'm gunna start swimming again, until i can get enough money to get a mountain bike again and start downhilling again. Mates are being awsome. Mum is rather worried about me as she knew how i felt about her. Same as the people at work. But the less i think about it the easier. I think when i see her - if i do it will be hard again.

Got nothing on tonight, but out on the town with the usual group of my mates on Sat. Should be good fun :)
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Hold are you man?
 
This is wierd, i'm going to dump my gf today.

Last night was the last straw, been together 6 months and it's been pure hassle, my family hate her for thinking she tried to trap me. She's angry, controlling. Last night didn't even say hello, went to hers and sat with her family watching TV whilst she barely looked at me, went upto bed and asked ME what the problem was! She then goes on about how my dad's an arse for not trusting her, how i don't take her loads of different places, how i'll go out with my mates and not take her..

..i haven't been out with them for WEEKS, my best mate, purely text contact. Stuff liek i'm going out tonight, which she knew over a week before hand and
"You wont take me with you will you",
"i'm going out with my mates first time in ages, and your WORKING!"
"you wouldn't take me anyway"
then
"what are you doing with me, can get whoever you want, so why?"

I tried my hardest to sleep, but silence just got her more angry.

I left this morning with just a "cya later".

6 months of that, into overdraft paying for her to go out because she has no money and when i say "i cant take you out again! i'm broke, skint, where you going to get money from?!"

She calls be a patronising b&stard and threatens to give me everything back i ever gave her. Constantly bringing up her ex saying "he did that to me to" "he used to say that, look what happened".

Sorry for the rant guys, makes things easier to write it down, but there's no reason why i need to put up with that at 23, and she really annoys me.
 
lol V3getto that is way off the scale... get rid of her man she's obviously no good for you at all. Familu often have good instincts, and them not liking her is pretty much falling at the first hurdle. Also if she's controlling and aggressive then good on you for getting shot of her... no-one needs people like that, no matter how fit they are and how good the sex is.

One rule in life I live by that few men ever seem to take note of is DON'T GIVE YOUR PARTNER MONEY unless you are either married or in an incredibly stable and serious relationship that has lasted years, and even then only sensibly. I hate seeing people say how they've split with their gf/bf and how they gave them so much money for things to pay ddebts, buy them nice things etc when didn't have that much money to give them in the first place... makes me sick to the stomach hearing it.
 
Richdog said:
lOne rule in life I live by that few men ever seem to take note of is DON'T GIVE YOUR PARTNER MONEY unless you are either married or in an incredibly stable and serious relationship that has lasted years, and even then only sensibly. I hate seeing people say how they've split with their gf/bf and how they gave them so much money for things to pay ddebts, buy them nice things etc when didn't have that much money to give them in the first place... makes me sick to the stomach hearing it.
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so what you're saying is... treat every relationship like it's not going to last?

whilst i agree that you shouldn't give some guy/girl you've just met £5000 to buy a car so they can visit you more frequently - lending a partner £10 to get the train over to yours, or paying for their meal when they are a little short is just what people in love do.
 
No goldilocks that's not what I said... if you were remotely sensible you wouldn't have construed my post as not being able to lend anyone the odd tenner. I was talking about large amounts of cash. Obviously. Engage brain, apply common sense...
 
Richdog said:
lOne rule in life I live by that few men ever seem to take note of is DON'T GIVE YOUR PARTNER MONEY unless you are either married or in an incredibly stable and serious relationship that has lasted years, and even then only sensibly.
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so, obviously this means - DON'T GIVE YOUR PARTNER MONEY, unless it's only the odd tenner, well, anything less than a considerable amount of money...:rolleyes:
 
No, it means don't give them a serious amount of money (basically anything that either puts you in hardship ie: debt of any form, or that you consider a large amount) unless you are in a seriously strong and committed relationship, or married.

That a little clearer for you now chuck?
 
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Richdog said:
No, it means don't give them a serious amount of money unless you are in a seriously strong and committed relationship, or married.

Do you have trouble with reading and comprehension?
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strangely, no. however you *do* seem to have a problem with writing what you mean... which could prove to be a problem on a text based forum :eek:
but hey, i'll leave it this time - i could even rewrite the post for you if you'd like?
;)

oooh, nice edit. a lot more polite! :p
and yes, i agree with your sentiment - 'don't be an arse with your money, when you may come to regret it later'

(p.s - anyone fancy lending me £145k?)
 
goldilocks what I meant was clear from the start if it was read with any shred of common sense... that you can't apply any doesn't somehow make it difficult. Do you really think from the wording that I meant not to give any partner ANY money whatsoever, whether it be a tenner or paying for a meal out? If so LOL, goodness grief. I think i'll pass on having my post written for me by someone who seems confounded by little things like capital letters, punctuation, and grammar. :p:D
 
Basically lent her £110 other week to pay what she owed people, payed for all her nights out the past 2 months, meals...omg i paid for her hair to be done too just remembered. She even said last night she owes me well into £200. I was like "i don't want it all back, i just want you to appreciate it". But she throws it back as basically saying that i think she's a waste of space and a loser.

I've tried on two previous occasions to get rid of her, but ffs, she went into hysterics, the whole life aint worth living, she's going to move town, no one likes her bs. I don't like seeing people upset and i can take a lot of crap thrown at me, but when they think i'm the problem and i gotta "change my ways", then that's enough. Hell, i'm lucky to sleep in my own bed, else its "So, am i going to see you at all this week?!" even though i see her all weekend and few times in midweek, always.

Sod it, i'm not even going to speak to her today, she'll go nuts but she ain't worth my time.

Sorry again for rant :)
 
RandomTom said:
double penetration...? ;)
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If only. :p

V3g3tto said:
Basically lent her £110 other week to pay what she owed people, payed for all her nights out the past 2 months, meals...omg i paid for her hair to be done too just remembered. She even said last night she owes me well into £200. I was like "i don't want it all back, i just want you to appreciate it". But she throws it back as basically saying that i think she's a waste of space and a loser.

I've tried on two previous occasions to get rid of her, but ffs, she went into hysterics, the whole life aint worth living, she's going to move town, no one likes her bs. I don't like seeing people upset and i can take a lot of crap thrown at me, but when they think i'm the problem and i gotta "change my ways", then that's enough. Hell, i'm lucky to sleep in my own bed, else its "So, am i going to see you at all this week?!" even though i see her all weekend and few times in midweek, always.

Sod it, i'm not even going to speak to her today, she'll go nuts but she ain't worth my time.

Sorry again for rant :)
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Sorry but taking someone back because they go into hysterics is possibly the silliest thing you can do... that's very weak of you mate and doesn't do either of you any good! If you're not happy with her then get rid, she's obviously not going to be happy about breaking up is she? Sounds like she has some serious issues to overcome with regards to her own self-esteem etc, and you don't have to be the one to sugger her through it if you're not committed to her. Have some balls and do the deed! :)
 
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