Getting over a girl

GangsterAngel · 31 May 2010 at 18:50

Hey people, till 2 days ago i was engaged. we was together for 5 years and have a 18 month old baby together.. she decided she is'nt "in love with me" but loves me.
i still love her, thats the problem. ive not had any contact with almost any of my friends for the 5 years we was together, so i dont realy have anyone to turn to. and i got a lot of other stuff goin on thats gettin me down too.

So what im asking is, who has a good method for getting over a girl you realy love?

i cant just not see her, i have to see my son for one. the best idea i have is getting a new gf. but like i said, i dont realy kno NE 1 anymore, and the few i do are spoken for.

Aedus · 31 May 2010 at 18:52

GangsterAngel said:
ive not had any contact with almost any of my friends for the 5 years we was together, so i dont realy have anyone to turn to.

This is why it's always bro's before hoes.

JBuk · 31 May 2010 at 18:53

Phone an old mate and go for a drink or two, that's a start

Johnny Girth · 31 May 2010 at 18:57

Unfortunately the only tried and tested method is time. Lots of it.

Completely abandoning any notion of ever getting back together is also essential. Another girl is likely to help take your mind off it too...

Repta · 31 May 2010 at 18:57

Take up a hobby of some sort, great way to keep your mind of thing and meet people. When my last relationship ended i took up scuba diving. Got a hobby that i love and met my current girlfriend though it.

andy85 · 31 May 2010 at 18:58

Yeap, alcohol and time.

Dogoid · 31 May 2010 at 18:58

time to get over another one

Scythe · 31 May 2010 at 18:59

Dude, call your friends. Even if you havent spoke to them for some time, they will probably still appreciate you turning to them for support. That's what good friends are for.

Tefal · 31 May 2010 at 19:00

coke and hookers.

Skyrunner · 31 May 2010 at 19:03

Catch up with your old friends, take up a hobby, and don't jump at the first ship sailing past!

fizzle-187 · 31 May 2010 at 19:04

sex, sex and sex.

lynchy6789 · 31 May 2010 at 19:05

Scythe said:
Dude, call your friends. Even if you havent spoke to them for some time, they will probably still appreciate you turning to them for support. That's what good friends are for.

GangsterAngel · 31 May 2010 at 19:07

Other than the hookers comment, all good advice. will try to stick to it. hard to be bovad doin stuff when u depressed tho, but am sure a hobby would be a good start.

Cosimo · 31 May 2010 at 19:08

Talk to your old friends, get a hobby, join a club just don't start on the booze.

Aedus · 31 May 2010 at 19:09

Scythe said:
Dude, call your friends. Even if you havent spoke to them for some time, they will probably still appreciate you turning to them for support. That's what good friends are for.

If someone rang me after 5 years of not talking to me just because he got a girlfriend, made no effort to see or keep in contact with me and THEN he wanted me to help him through his break up, i'd tell him to **** off.

asim18 · 31 May 2010 at 19:09

Skyrunner · 31 May 2010 at 19:09

GangsterAngel said:
Other than the hookers comment, all good advice. will try to stick to it. hard to be bovad doin stuff when u depressed tho, but am sure a hobby would be a good start.

The depression and lack of motivation does go, you've just got to hang in there and take it as it comes slowly, but things will change and improve eventually!

Morba · 31 May 2010 at 19:09

The last thing you need is a new girlfriend.
You need some reconcilliation via a decent service so that you can sort out what has gone wrong.
Communication can be lacking in a couple, especially when at least 1 of the 2 has many things on their mind.

Don't go killing the relationship just yet, chances are it's saveable.

Maccy · 31 May 2010 at 19:14

Find a pub, and drown your sorrows.

Don't follow the second part of this advice.

Settleddown · 31 May 2010 at 19:15

Morba said:
The last thing you need is a new girlfriend.
You need some reconcilliation via a decent service so that you can sort out what has gone wrong.
Communication can be lacking in a couple, especially when at least 1 of the 2 has many things on their mind.

Don't go killing the relationship just yet, chances are it's saveable.

Best advice ever

Give her some time and space to sort what ever is in her mind and I am sure she will come round, dont do anything daft. Have you tried to talk to her since?