GF problems!

Shikkaka

Shikkaka

Shikkaka

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Scenario: My gf's mates don't like me because I was ever so slightly morally wrong at the very beginning. Basically we wasn't officially together, she picked me up from the pub, gave me a mouthful in the car, I said take me back to the pub, slipped over and my tongue fell into another womans mouth. Woops! Not a good start.

Anyways, we are now officially a couple and I fully intend to stay faithful to this girl. Her friends don't believe that (fair enough) and are constantly on at her for being an idiot getting together with me (I can see their point). Anyways tomorrow night all her friends are going out but she has said she isn't because she can't afford to do so. I offer to see her tomorrow night but she won't because of what her friends might think. Basically her friends think she is pushing them to one side because she is now with me and if she sees me tomorrow night they will think she didn't wanna go out so she could see me.

Is it just me or does anyone else think this is a bit of a joke or am I just being an idiot?

Opinions please?!

Ta
 
[ASSE]Hinchy;10679200 said:
Go out with her, buy her drinks. Gives you a chance to show you're a good boyfriend. Just giving her money means she could get drunk and her friends, not liking you, will try and be 'friends' by getting her involved with other people. It happens. Or you can trust her... lol
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No can do as I'm skint n all. Good suggestion though!
 
MookJong said:
Just keep your head down and proove them wrong over time. Been in kind of a similar situation before and it just all sorted it's self out.

Don't pressure your GF but tell her that her friends are making the relationship feel uncomftable.
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I've already expressed this. I went round the other day and got nothing but dog eyes from her friends. The GF is lovely, really spot on but she listens to her stupid mates too much. Her friends do need to grow up and if she is bothered by what they say, sounds like the GF does too.
 
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[DW]Muffin;10679225 said:
Because her friends are acting like school girls? How old is she sub 20?
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She is 22. Her friends the same.

I am actually quite surprised by the responses. Thought I'd get told I'm being an idiot.
 
Looks like I've got the wrong end of the stick.

She doesn't care what they would think but knows she will get hassle from them and they will pull a funny on her.

Her friends defo need to do some growing up.
 
Helium_Junkie said:
Sounds like she needs to grow up to me.
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Explain?

Not getting defensive of my gf just think perhaps I've made her out to be the immature one when honestly, it is her mates that need to grow up.

I have just e-mailed her telling her to ignore it if her friends spit their dummies out. lol. Lets see what reply I get.
 
PlatinumFX said:
Perhap's theyre just trying to protect their friend from some one with a track record of playing away? These are consequences you brought on your self. It depends on how petty they are being but its not for you to criticise them, especially given your technically the bad guy here.

Prove them wrong and earn their trust and respect over time. Be civil. Also remember that while her friends are a factor, your not having a relationship with them, just with the GF. The GF is feeling pretty torn right now. Be appreciative of that fact.
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I have been fully understanding about how they might be feeling about what happened at the pub. I know I am not gonna be in their good books and am more than prepared to wear the label they have given me until I prove otherwise. I just find it slightly ridiculous that she won't see me tomorrow night because of how they will be with her. She has already said she isn't going out because of her money situation, I just offered to keep her company since I have no plans either.
 
ots3go said:
Secondly, I'm agreeing with the prove yourself over time.

Don't not see your GF on the grounds her friends might get the wrong idea, it's not their relationship is it?

Go out, have fun, don't put your tongue in any other girls mouth's and it'll be 'reet.
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I thought u'd drop by and have a say :p

I've tried telling her that but she doesn't get it. Just sees it that I'm being unreasonable. If she chooses to not see me because of her friends opinions then good luck to a long and lasting relationship for myself and her.
 
siloleth said:
Its your gf's choice who she chooses to be with and who she chooses to spend time with (ie.. you or the friends). They are just looking out for her though and thats what friends do.

I dont see the issue ?
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I'm not trying to force her to do either. If she told me she was going out with her mates tomorrow night, I'd say 'have a good one' and do my own thing. If she told me she doesn't wanna see me tomorrow night, again I'd be fine with that. It's the reasoning behind why she doesn't want to see me tomorrow night. Because of what her friends will think.
 
BigBrisy said:
i reckon the fact her pals are all single would have a part to play in it, they'll probably be nagging at her cause she would be disturbing the "singles" group they have going, either that or they would be just plain jealous she's got a bloke. at the end of the day its her choice, its either gonna end up she forgets about her friends for you or vice versa, doesn't sound like her pals are the kinda girls who wanna be your friend. can you not come to an agreement on nights you spend with you m8's and she spends with hers then nights you spend together...its the only way of keeping everyone happy eh?
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Seems too much like a routine which I want to avoid.

Think she finally seen sense anyhow. Still not seeing her tomorrow night which is fine but she has realised her friends are indirectly dictating when I see her and when I don't.
 
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