Girlfriend mad at me.

[baz178]

Hi,

My girlfriend is really mad at me and telling me to leave! All started when my mum picked our child up at nursery she had a accident it was absolutely nothing just a small little red mark on face but obviously it went it accident book and my mum had to sign.

I told my girlfriend once she got back from work, around hour or so after my mum had picked her up. She’s claiming my mum should have told her straight away but even the nursery said it was absolutely nothing and they didn’t even phone us to tell us.

But I think deep down she didn’t believe my mum that it was only a face injury so she phoned up the nursery and they told her it was a face injury but I think she’s tried to twist it saying it was a head injury, so I phoned 10 mins after and they said face to me so I called her a liar now she thinks I’m sticking up for my mum and not siding with her.

Won’t talk to me and treated to kick me out.

Just don’t know where to turn.

 

[baz178]

Good thing it's your house op

Joint house! She said I should have sided with her and my daughter

 

[baz178]

Be an adult and talk it out.

She won’t talk just shouts saying I’m upsetting my daughter.

 

[baz178]

Probably more to this than meets the eye. Is she mad at you and/or your mum for some other reason? Either way, it's getting blown out of all proportion.

Is she your daughter's Mum? If not, tell her to STFU honestly. Even if so, sounds like she needs to grow up and/or come clean about what she's really mad about. Don't know what you can or should do though TBH.

No my mum, i did have a go at her telling her she was lying about it been a head injury when it was a face injury. She thinks I’ve gone behind her back with ringing nursery up 10 mins after she did.

 

[baz178]

So how is she going to kick you out if its half yours?

She’s saying I need to go back to my mums or she will leave.

 

[baz178]

she’s basically

Your girlfriend is your mum's mum?

Thread took a turn for the weird

No my mum picked her granddaughter up and my girlfriend had a go

 

[baz178]

I think deep down she doesn’t like my mum having a relationship with her daughter as her mum sadly passed away 2 years ago.

 

[baz178]

Has she threatened to kick you out before and is your relationship good or bad usually?

Been good obviously had our arguments along the way like any other relationship.

 

[baz178]

That would be enough for me to break up with her TBH. You don't need that kind of drama in your life.

I know but I have my life in this house including my 1 year old daughter! All my money is in it from doing it up

 

[baz178]

Questions

1) Was your mum due to pick her up from Nursery, and girlfriend was fully aware and onboard with that?
2) Does your girlfriend generally over-react to things like it sounds like she did here (on the scant information we have)
3) Do the generally have a good relationship day to day?
4) Are you a mummies boy that spends too much time with your mum at the detriment to your other half?

Yes I spend a lot of time with my mum always with my girlfriend there ! We all go shopping together at the weekend.

 

[baz178]

The stereotypical 'mother in law' problem is that of men and their wife's mother.

But the reality is usually that the problem is between the wife and the husband's mother. And, often, it's because the men are a bit to forgiving of their mother's bull****.

This case sounds like wife being over-sensitive, but is it the end result of a festering problem?

Are you a massive mummy's boy, OP, and this is just the straw breaking the camel's back?

Or is this out of the blue?

No im not a massive mummy’s boy be we reley on my mum to pick her up from nursery Wednesday to Friday.

 

[baz178]

No offence she sounds like a bullet that should have been dodged a long time ago and I question why you stuck around as people like that show their tells early on.

What my dad said haha, I know she lost her mother 2 years ago sadly so don’t know if she looks at my mum with her daughter and doesn’t like it deep down.

 

[baz178]

My mum lives 25 minutes away, I haven't seen her for about 4 weeks...

Spending too much time with your mum sounds particularly insensitive on your part if your girlfriends mum only passed away a few years back.

There was nobody who spent as much time with her mum as I did 6 days a week shopping all going on holiday together ect ect

 

[baz178]

What my rights with the joint house and child if she does Leave or wants me to leave ?

 

[baz178]

He said they spend every weekend with his mum.

Only shopping she usually says aren’t you off to see your mum, my mum likes to see her granddaughter.

 

[baz178]

But she sees her Wednesday to Friday?

Yes but we’ve all got on fine while where shopping that’s my girlfriends favourite thing to do and she’s never had a problem with it.

 

[baz178]

Well she keeps saying one as to go but where both still her not talking much but think it could ride over at the weekend

 

[baz178]

Update! She seems to have come around today and a lot better with me. Fingers crossed haha