Girls, will we every understand them?

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Hey all,

Sorry to start another thread off on the subject. However I had a silly, big fight with my girlfriend a couple nights ago, and ever since then I've been wondering, will we ever understand them? lol.

The fight was about trust. Pretty big, I know.

Anyway, this is what happened.

We were sms-ing each other and I asked her if she'd changed her mind on what she told me a couple months ago. This is how the convosation went.

Rob: So, can I ask. Do you still think the same as you did 4 months ago about me? Saying that you still don't trust me when I say I wouldn't leave you for anyone else?

Tammy: Hell no! over the last 5 months I've gotten to know you're not like the rest and there are actually some trust worthy guys out there.

Rob: Oh okay, that's good to know.

Tammy: Anything else you want to ask me that's been on your mind of late?

Rob: No, that's all babes. What about you?

Tammy: Well, yes, infact I do. Do you still think I'm gonna hurt you, and do you think I'm like the girls in your past that have hurt you?

Rob: No, I know you're not like them and I know you'll never hurt me on purpose. But weather you'll hurt me? I don't know.

That reply caused her to freak out. She sms'd me after that saying nice to know that the man she loves and has been with for five great months doesn't trust her. She ignored me for two days solid. Until I sms'd her this.

Rob: If I didn't trust you, I would never have started dating you. I wouldn't have let you into my heart after my bad past if I knew I was going to get hurt again. If that doesn't tell you that I really do trust you, then what are we doing here?

Now after that she apologised and realised that I do actually trust her. What I did mean in my second last reply was that if me and hurt broke up, that would hurt me. Although it wouldn't be either of our faults. That's all.

She took it completely the wronf way and made an ass of her self.

Are women generally like this or what?

Well that's my story. Other then that me and her are fine and going very well.

Okay, will someone please tell me why I posted this? :confused:
 
Ice On Fire said:

you made the first mistake having a conversation with SMS, it has no meaning, no feeling, its utter pap, same as why people have arguments on MSN, theres no emotion.
 
SMS text convos suck ass.

Are women generally like this or what?
Yep. Especially when they know they are in the wrong but figure if they play primary school ignoring games eventually the guy will apologise and it'll be his fault after all.

Rob: No, I know you're not like them and I know you'll never hurt me on purpose. But weather you'll hurt me? I don't know.
In future, just stick with the first sentence. It's one of those responses which should be automatic without hesitation.

Do I look fat in this - No
Do you trust me - Yes
Can you put it in my ...... - Yes
 
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Tammy : Talk to me direct ditch the phone and msn. Face to face works a treat plus we can make up later xxxx Tammy.
 
You see we hardly see each other. Maybe 2 times every two weeks. I phone her as much as I can. But that was just the once...
 
Ice On Fire said:
You see we hardly see each other. Maybe 2 times every two weeks. I phone her as much as I can. But that was just the once...

but you basically said to her "i dont know if you will hurt me, maybe not intentionally but you might hurt me" you dont trust her, you shouldnt have said it, should have let things be, she said she wouldnt hurt you, and you questioned that.
 
Ice On Fire said:
I do though. I really do. But I didn't mean it like that at all.

thats why we dont use text based formats to communicate on touchy subjects mate, chin up, ring her and explain to her that you didnt mean it, and it was very misleading, and blah all the lovey dovey stuff.
 
Neon said:
but you basically said to her "i dont know if you will hurt me, maybe not intentionally but you might hurt me" you dont trust her, you shouldnt have said it, should have let things be, she said she wouldnt hurt you, and you questioned that.

Like I say, I didn't mean it in that sense. Well, we're all good again and I'll just have to prove to her that I do trust her. As I'm sure I've damaged the relationship in some way. No idea how I can prove it though?
 
Plus your spelling is appalling :p, no wonder shes narked with you:p:D




But seriously next time talk face to face rather than sms or msn...i have this arguement with my gf every so often...thats why now i dont sms/msn her abotu serious stuff.
 
Ice On Fire said:
Like I say, I didn't mean it in that sense. Well, we're all good again and I'll just have to prove to her that I do trust her. As I'm sure I've damaged the relationship in some way. No idea how I can prove it though?
Come on to her mum, then at the last moment when she's beckoning you into bed say "No! I love your daughter! I will NOT be doing YOU! GoodBYE!'. Film the whole thing and present it in a pink box with a ribbon on to your g/f as proof of how much she can TOTALLY trust you!
 
Ice On Fire said:
Like I say, I didn't mean it in that sense. Well, we're all good again and I'll just have to prove to her that I do trust her. As I'm sure I've damaged the relationship in some way. No idea how I can prove it though?

prove it by dont bring up the subject ever again, and dont keep on apologising for it just try and move on, itll get stronger.
 
Hey! my spelling is just fine, thanks!

Well I apologised a lot to her. And I agreed never to bring it up and move on. She's gone away for the next two days. But as soon as she's back, I'll give her a call and chat to her. :) I know I have to prove my trust....I definitely won't say anything to do with trust to her again.
 
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