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Matutu

Matutu

Matutu

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Guys,

My otherhalf is trying to lose weight...... Its hell lol high tension and moaning.

Now the thing is she is size 8........ 8.8Stone so there in my opinion there is hardly anything to lose. However I am posting this as I am at breaking point with my sanity and her constant moaning its not working. She is already small and I dont want her to change at all but she has it in her head she wants to loose the small bit of "muffin" she has, so she only wants to drop around 4lbs.

She is eating actually healthy and around 1300cals per day, now exercise she struggles with as she never really finds the time and sometimes does 12 hours shifts.

She has been eating 1300kcals but her weight has not moved for 2 weeks apparently. She has been eating lots of protein etc etc and nice unprocessed foods.

Now I think she would be best trying to fit in more exercise and 4 sessions of 1hour per week, as I think she is already so small that her BMR must be low like around 1600kcals as she is only 5.5 tall.

So views guys, please save me from this nagging lol, up exercise or drop kcals or just stick with current and see if it happens eventually.

Save me before I start feeding her cookies in her sleep to perk up her mood! :)

Thanks.
 
Above is all good advice. More exercise would certainly help her mood and weights/a strength routine would firm her up all over and probably make her look (and feel) a lot better than simply losing a bit more fat.
 
Shes probably looking to recomp more than actually lose weight - dieting will just result in a smaller version of her current state (to a degree) so maybe steer her in the way of weight work / exercise
 
As I'm sure you know, Matutu, there's losing weight and there's shedding fat. Calorie deficits, exercise regimes, body image, etc. must all be considered, but...

I would actually contend that losing weight might actually not be a healthy long term solution as she could very well wind up screwing over her hormones quite spectacularly.

Because of the way laydeez work (i.e. their reproductive systems) their bodies are not really wired for much below 20% BF at any given point in time because it starts messing with their thyroid function as their bodies try and maintain enough fuel to - ultimately - support a pregnancy.

In other words, too much of a savage deficit will wind up:

- Not doing anything;
- Making her miserable because her carb withdrawal becomes a permanent thing
- Screws up her menstrual cycles, and all the hell that can wreak on a happy household

So, the most effective way for girls to lose some of the padding is actually through stretching it out over some moar curves: i.e. get lunging, RDL-ing, benching, deadlifting, pressing culrz0ring.
 
Oh yer I know this is not the best way or anything mate. All too well!

But it's one of those where she will not listen to those around her and has to experience I think.

I have tried to drum it in some good compounds and eating right will do more good, but too her that scale number is everything. Nothing I say will change that until she experiences it I believe.

She is so set it's driving me mental that's why posting this I'm hoping she will see I am not trying just to stop her doing what she wants!
 
Matutu said:
Oh yer I know this is not the best way or anything mate. All too well!

But it's one of those where she will not listen to those around her and has to experience I think.

I have tried to drum it in some good compounds and eating right will do more good, but too her that scale number is everything. Nothing I say will change that until she experiences it I believe.

She is so set it's driving me mental that's why posting this I'm hoping she will see I am not trying just to stop her doing what she wants!
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I think the best thing to do it sit tight and be supportive. Us guys try and fix stuff, particularly in areas in which we have some experience.

Just sit back, listen, nod at the right points and be supportive. All whilst eating cookies.
 
Tell her that skinny girls look good in their clothes, chicks who lift look good without their clothes on :p

Weight on the scale means sweet naff-all (within reason).
If she's already small, tell her if she wants to stop stuff from jiggling (apart from the fun bags), then the answer is not to "lose weight", but to go and pick heavy stuff up, put them down.. .rise and repeat (basically that paraphrases what Mrthingy and blair said)
 
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..... I wondered when pics were going to be requested lol.

I have tried drumming into her the values of lifting etc and she enjoys weights but not to the point where she would lift heavy etc and she cant dedicate the time to it 3-4times a week so gets abit pointless when its 1 session a week.
 
Several things that others haven't mentioned (from what I saw when skimming through)

1) make sure she is tracking her intake accurately. People are NOTORIOUSLY AWFUL at self-reporting intake. See: https://gomaleo.wordpress.com/2013/07/30/metabolic-derangement-extreme-calorie-restriction-edition/

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This can either be just inaccurate measuring, secret binges they won't admit to, or things like drinking at the weekend and blowing away any calorie deficit they've created in the week without realising.

2) women are messed up and water retention can mask fat loss MUCH more than men, especially if they are stressed/neurotic about their weight loss since stress = cortisol = increased water retention. This is why measurements, patience and trusting the process are as important as weight.

3) probably mentioned already but the single most important thing for preserving lean bodyweight when dieting is that the muscles are subject to the same stress/stimulation (i.e. if you lift x amount of weight on y movement, then you aim to keep x and y the same throughout the diet). High protein is needed when dieting because it will be used for more than just growth/repair in a deficit, but it won't magically stop catabolism if those muscles aren't being used. Many dieters get frustrated because their weight drops but they just look like smaller and smaller versions of themselves, not understanding that weight is made up of both fat and fat-free mass (muscle, bone/bone density, water, organs, etc) and you're quite capable of losing some of the fat-free-mass stuff as well as fat. Obviously strength/physique athletes in particular are well aware of this and as such program their diets/training more intelligently so that the vast majority of weight lost will be fat, which is where the average joe/jane should be taking their cues from.

4) rate of loss - 0.5-1% of total bodyweight lost per week on average is acceptable, with the leaner people going closer to the 0.5% range.

But yeah, stop her obessing over weight, especially when with resistance training... dress size can go down but weight can go up and you get nice stuff happen like:

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