Handing in notice but with slight trepidation

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I've just drafted my resignation letter and about to send it to my director later tonight. On balance the new job is better paid and more technology focussed (good thing) than my current one albeit a smaller company.

However, I still have doubts of my decision to leave. What goes through your mind when you leave or about to hand in your notice. Especially when you don't really have any grumbles with your existing job
 
Well fear of the future is quite natural, but I've always thought 'you're just a number' to the boss, they don't care about you at all so just go where the money/career/less commuting distance is.
I've never burnt my boats when leaving a company, but have never gone back either.
 
All else being equal that arguably puts them in an even better position than they would have been had they rejected the counter-offer though, as they got a counter-offer at better remuneration than the first alternate job (£5k better in the example being discussed), and then presumably something even better still shortly after in order to leave. I rejected a counter-offer once but had it been £5k more than the new job, I would have accepted it.
 
You had enough of an issue with your current job to go and get another one. It's totally normal to worry it might not be the best choice, but it's not like you can't just move on from the new job if it's a bad fit.
 
Completely natural to fear the future moving on from a safe and secure job, there's very few people who can do it without an ounce of anxiety unless you're financially sound or so confident in your own abilities/skill set you know there'll always be a position somewhere for you.
 
HangTime said:
All else being equal that arguably puts them in an even better position than they would have been had they rejected the counter-offer though, as they got a counter-offer at better remuneration than the first alternate job (£5k better in the example being discussed), and then presumably something even better still shortly after in order to leave. I rejected a counter-offer once but had it been £5k more than the new job, I would have accepted it.
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Not convinced about that argument. Recruiting new staff is a pain for the business, in terms of time, money and disruption, so them paying more to keep the incumbent is the easy option. If the counter-offer is very generous, staying on could mean you are getting too much. If the original reasons for leaving haven't changed, leaving in 6, 9 or however many months might mean taking a pay cut.
 
I'm leaving my current job tomorrow and I've gone through all the emotions about leaving.

A part of me wants to stay as I'm comfortable here which is one of the reasons I want to to move.

I'm nervous and scared of this new job but nothing ventured, nothing gained!
 
HangTime said:
All else being equal that arguably puts them in an even better position than they would have been had they rejected the counter-offer though, as they got a counter-offer at better remuneration than the first alternate job (£5k better in the example being discussed), and then presumably something even better still shortly after in order to leave. I rejected a counter-offer once but had it been £5k more than the new job, I would have accepted it.
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It also depends how you're finding jobs and offers, if you're in the sort of role that tend to go through agencies and you turn a couple of offers down you'll soon get known for it.

I had one person turn down an offer in order to stay where they were, I wouldn't waste my time interviewing them again should they ever apply.
 
So the counteroffer is matched pay but I can write my own job spec.... Is that not just laziness or was my reason for leaving just not clear to them :(
 
#Chri5# said:
If the original reasons for leaving haven't changed, leaving in 6, 9 or however many months might mean taking a pay cut.
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In the case of the what was being discussed in that branch of the conversation, it was explicitly stated "if it's only money", i.e. the original reason for leaving is because of money. It is also why I opened with "All else being equal", i.e. the other conditions haven't deteriorated during that period, which is plausible given we are stating in this scenario that they are "moving on shortly after".

To flesh out the example it could be something like:

-Current package from Company A = £30k. Looking to leave because you want more money.
-Company B offers £33k
-Company A counter offers at £38k
-Counter offer accepted
-Shortly after you leave company A for company C. Given your reasons for leaving company A are already defined as only about money, one can infer that the reason you have have joined company C is because they are paying you more money. So you've got a triple-helping of pay rises compared to the single-helping that was originally on offer from company B

wesimmo said:
It also depends how you're finding jobs and offers, if you're in the sort of role that tend to go through agencies and you turn a couple of offers down you'll soon get known for it.

I had one person turn down an offer in order to stay where they were, I wouldn't waste my time interviewing them again should they ever apply.
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This is a fair comment, however I can't imagine you are going to be turning down that many offers, given in this example we've already stated that you are going to be moving on shortly. Or to play devils advocate, if you've turned down that many offers that you've got widely black-listed, you're probably minting it anyway from all those counter-offers you've trousered (remember, in this hypothetical scenario the reason for leaving is only about money). Sure, one day in years to come you might be looking to move on and be motivated by other factors, but unless you work in a very niche sector I doubt you will get frozen out indefinitely, especially given the way agents themselves move around all the time.
 
Fair comment, I do work in quite a niche industry, surprising who you find out knows who.

More so their opinions of certain people!

It's also quite surprising how many people apparently reinvent themselves the times you get completely different views of the same person.
 
Changing jobs is rarely JUST about money. There's usually other things as well. Lack of progression, issues with other staff/management etc. If it was purely about money most people would stay if there was a counter offer, but as said above they rarely stay more than a year after accepting it.
 
MissChief said:
Changing jobs is rarely JUST about money. There's usually other things as well. Lack of progression, issues with other staff/management etc. If it was purely about money most people would stay if there was a counter offer, but as said above they rarely stay more than a year after accepting it.
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Yep. I left a job nearly 2 years ago after previously flirting with leaving a few years before that.

Both times my old employer made a counter offer to keep me. The first time I took the money as they were exceeding the offer of the new job. But the money wasn't really a motivating factor, it was the stress from the job. Having to babysit other employees due to their ineptitude and finding that they are given simpler, less stressful tasks but earning the same wage due to their incapability was demoralising.

Even with the extra money the problems remained the same. So I was offered a new job with even better money on offer. The company offered all kinds to match the wage but it wasn't about that. I'd just become burned out and needed a change.
 
AHarvey said:
Depends on the employer, sometimes it's good to burn bridges with a bad employer, saves you having that fall back ;)
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But you never know when you might meet them again in a different company. In specialised fields people might move around regularly and you could end up sitting across from your old boss that you personally insulted five years ago at your interview.
 
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