Hassle form parents for playing computer games?

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opethdisciple

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Just need a platform to vent. Had to turn PC off, as lost the enjoyment to play.

Since I was a boy I've always been made to feel bad for playing computer games. In fact any games to be honest. My dad smashed up my Super Nintendo and also broke my wrestling ring one Xmas. Just hated me playing games and wanted me always to be doing something 'constructive'.

The problem is I'm 33 and still live at home. I know I need to move out, but I'm saving cash up and plan to move out this time next year.

My gaming system is up in the loft where my dad keeps all his paper work, so came in to find me gaming and then went off on one. "This is not the behavior of a 33 yr old and that I need to get some responsibilities...."

I'm at work all week.... what else does he want me to do. And it's not like I spend hours on the PC. One hour here and there. I live my life, I go out and socialize and I game from time to time as a mode of entertainment.

My dad is from a small village in Cyprus, techno phobic so doesn't understand it at all. Just about gets on with an iPad. He just doesn't and will not get it. My sisters bf who is similar age to me is a barrister and he plays games.... but for some reason they don't click that gaming is a form of modern entertainment these days.

Clearly proves that I need to move out and sharpish. :(
 
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Just for the record. I am in full time employment, have been to uni etc... I'm not bone ideal.

I work all week and am knackered. I deserve a little bit of down time as and when I want to.

He doesn't get that other people play games and that it is a part of modern life.

Playing a game is just like watching a movie etc.. except he doesn't see it like that.

Yep I need to move out. The problem is, since my dad turned 60 I have noticed he has aged a lot now. Our time together is surely getting very short, and yet he is basically making me feel like I need to move out as I am clearly being stifled and made to feel angry and depressed, when the other 2/3 of my life (work and social one) is going just fine.

By pushing me out, he's going to see even less of me.

Is this just the way it's meant to go?

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I could have and probably should have moved out ages ago and rented. But they told me it was a waste of cash and wanted me to save up for a mortgage. So that's what I've been doing.

I work in IT for a Contemporary Art gallery.

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I was only playing a bit of the witcher 3.
 
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Steampunk said:
Just tell them if they'd prefer you were at the pub with your mates drinking and doing who knows what, or down on the sofa watching some reality TV nonsense. Truth is they will never understand, because they just want you to do what they want, and be happy with it.

Get out from under their roof and then you can live by your own rules. They will then complain that you are wasting money on rent and they never see you, but it's either that be driven insane by your parents still treating you like a child instead of a grown-up.

When they tear up and ask you why you are leaving and abandoning them, make sure you tell them it's because your Dad told you that you needed to grow up and take responsibility for your life, so that's what you're doing.
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Yea. You hit the nail on the head. They'll only miss me when I'm gone and probably visa versa. But then I'll have my own space to go back to and be able to do my own thing.


There was nothing wrong with what I was doing at all. They just don't get it. Different generation, different culture.
 
Next year is going to be a defining year.

My sister is getting married and they have bought a house, which is going to be ready to move in too in Oct 2016. She's lucky as she spends maybe half the week at home and half the week at the fiancé's.

I have put my cash in to savings accounts and bonds which mature by June 2016.

So it looks like by late next year, both me and my sister are going move out.

It's not just the gaming thing, that's small fry, and only because he doesn't get it. It's all the other stuff, that goes with being independent and having my own space.

Did you know, despite me and my sister both telling my mum not to, she opens our post! :eek:

My dad anyway is very old fashioned. The only thing he cares about, is me getting married and having kids. Anything that doesn't lead to this end is a waste of time and the 'devils work' as he described my gaming last night.
 
There are two sides to the coin.

Renting allows you to be independent and grow as an individual. Your also not tied down by a mortgage etc.

On the flip side, from an economical perspective, it is a waste as you are not putting your money in to your own pot, but rather in to the land lords.

So in my situation, I had the luxury of being able to live at home save up and buy my own place. Which is an investment in me. That property is mine and can get sold to recoup my cash back and more. Something you cant do with renting.

In the mean time I have to put up with living with parents.
 
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