Do the 3 xGb modules work on their own?
As for the sharing, I beleive your card, along with other devices is being mapped to main memeory - Memory Mapped Access or I/O (MMIO). I may stand corrected though.
The allocation of mapped memory depends on the device being installed. If you have a 1gb video card for example, then 1gb of system RAM will be made unavailable and reserved for that device. Thuis applies to other mapped devices such as sound cards, NICs etc. However, most graphics cards don’t need to reserve the entire memory pool, they simply reserve an overlay so the CPU and Windows can copy data to the GPU.
You can see what's being mapping:
run devmgmt.exe
Click View > an click on memory type.
I wouldn't worry about this too much tbh.